Getting to know a woman, "touching" her is critically important in a relationship. Physical contact at the wrong time can intrude, hinder real understanding, block communication.
You can learn more about each other by joining your voices in song, by becoming one in music and lyrics and poetry, than by sleeping together. You can get a deeper sense of communion by sharing a meal than by sharing a bed. Just holding hands or a gentle kiss can easily be more explosively effective in linking the two of you than having sex.
Physical intimacy implies commitment, responsibility, a sense of permanence. It is a promise. The two of you should be fully committed to each other before you seal the bond with lovemaking. Sex should never be undertaken lightly, without a full understanding of its implications...and consequences.
This topless dancer really likes to party, drinks heavily and loves to get high on drugs. Is this good for you? It can be to your advantage because of her
being a free spirit she may go party with you after she gets off work. She's not likely to just party with any
guy. She's got to be attracted to you
and feel safe with you.
TIP- If she's loaded, always ask her to show you her bush while she's dancing. Being that she's drunk, she just may do it for you. When a dancer is loaded she may do things she would not normally do. Always remember this and use it to your advantage.
Here's an article I found on the usenet that was posted by an anonymous author which will open your eyes to some head games single women play on men:
Another typical female behavior is to test you at the very beginning of your relationship to see if you are going to put up with her garbage. Actually, she is testing you for two reasons:
First, she needs to find out the limits of what you will view as "her acceptable behavior." She does not know you well enough yet, she is in unfamiliar territory. And that can be very "scary." So, she needs to find out what behavior is expected or accepted of her. The uncertainty makes her feel very uncomfortable, totally out of her, "Comfort Zone."
Second, she needs to find out, she must find out how strong and sure of yourself you really are. Some women can be very insecure. The very last thing a woman really wants and needs is an insecure and weak nice guy who is easily manipulated and controlled by her.
Therefore, she really wants and needs a strong man who will control and dominate her and tell her what to do, a man confident enough to stand up to her when she needs it, a man who will make her feel secure, a man who will give her that sense of security she so desperately needs.
She sometimes cannot get that sense of security from herself because she may have so little self-confidence and self-esteem. She may even believe that she has very few talents and abilities - except for her physical features and beauty. It can be very frightening. Therefore, she tries to get that sense of security "by osmosis" from you. Plus the added benefit that she won't have to worry about the hard decisions. You will make them for her.
WARNING! If you are tolerant and patient (like all nice guys) you will not pass her test, she will walk all over you, she will leave you and go after another jerk because he looks so uncontrollable, so untamable, so strong and therefore, so desirable to her.
I was kind of hesitant about posting this article because I don't like to focus on anything negative, but I need to make you aware of head games that single women will play on you.
Your hair is very
important to your looks. Most women like
with well-groomed hair.
I wouldn't advise you to wear
your hair real long either. This is out of style and turns most women off. Seek professional help
to determine which hairstyle is becoming to
you. Try a perm if you
like. It can attract women like crazy,
especially if it's thick and full. So,
be daring and get a permanent and see if you don't get
more looks from women.
If you happen to be obese, resolve here and now that you're going to get rid of all those ugly pounds. With the proper diet and exercise, you can trim yourself down to where you won't be embarrassingly fat.