I hate to keep pounding this into your head, but I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to become her friend first, lover second. Don't act like a dog in heat like the other guys. Act like you're really interested in her and want to get to know her as a person.

Just remain cool and collected. The topless dancers can sense this and you gain their trust and they feel relaxed and comfortable around you. There's a major advantage to becoming friends with the dancers. Guess who her friends are? Yes, other topless dancers. By becoming her friend she will introduce you as her friend to other topless dancers. Now, you are labeled as a friend instead of the other fools who throw all their hard-earned money away on dancers.