I sincerely hope you're not one of those men who go to strip joints just to watch the exotic dancers. Most men do and they don't know what they are missing out on. These women can be picked up and are generally easy to meet. A lot of guys don't even try to pick them up and it's a shame because these girls need lovin just like any other girl.

How do you approach these women? Well, normally they will be approaching you, possibly to hustle you for drinks or a table dance. Don't hold this against them and think they're just trying to take you for a ride. They're just trying to make a living and they get a commission on these drinks.

You might as well face the facts that you just might have to buy them a drink or table dance to talk to them. These can be house rules.

Buy them a drink or two, it won't kill you. Just be nice to them and treat them with respect and you can get somewhere with them.

We all like to think of ourselves as living in a society where everything is in its proper place. Everything is taken into account. The people who do bad things are punished. The people who are clever, or who work hard, are rewarded. It is idealistic, but we try to organize every detail of our society into this system of order. We strive to have an answer to everything. We try to judge everything. Even if we do not have enough facts about something, we judge it anyway. We suppose our justification is that it is better to have an imperfect assessment of something than none at all. This is the basis of prejudice. It is also the origin of many questionable social customs and superstitions. Some social customs are in a kind of fringe area.

For example, striking up a friendship or conversation with a stranger in public, particularly one of the opposite sex, is still considered to be a little in bad taste. This is probably because of the uncertain factors involved. But on closer examination we find that it is indeed a very useful practice. The dangers and uncertainties are no greater than those in other forms of social contact. Customs and traditions still persist, however, and many people have vague misgivings about approaches by strangers.

Now let's get back to the statement of making yourself interested in a girl that may not be the girl of your dreams. Simply this: It is always better to involve yourself with women, even if your interest is low, than to be involved with no one at all.

1. As soon as you start dating one girl you meet her friends, and thus many more women.
2. Her friends are most likely going to find you attractive. After all, their friend does. And they will be comfortable around you. You are safe. Not some guy "on the make."
3. You put yourself in a position where you aren't so desperate.
4. If that "10" does come along, she will see that you are found attractive by other women, and that will help in your pursuit of her.

5. To not be involved with other women is social suicide. We have met many friends who are so particular that they sit around avoiding any involvement waiting for the perfect girl to come along. Unfortunately, when potentially perfect girls do come along, they perceive these as being boring. After all if he isn’t involved with other women, he must not have anything going for him.
6. If nothing else, it's good practice. And practice makes perfect.
7. The final word: Involve yourself with as many women s possible - the rich get richer. A girl that you may not find attractive may lead (directly or indirectly) to someone your do find attractive.