How to Handle Rejection From Women
Rejection, rejection by a woman, rejection by the woman, the woman who has captured your thoughts, the woman whose smile sends shivers of warmth down your spine, the woman whose touch you dream of ... this icy doom fills you with dread. It is the utter desolation of helplessness. It is the worm of self-doubt. It is the gripping fear that warns you to abandon hope.
Rejection is a part of everyday life. People are turned down for raises, refused promotions, declined for loans, and passed over for recognition. Rejection is not final. Rejection is not ruin. Indeed, rejection can be the precursor to eventual success.
There is nothing personal about rejection. It happens to everyone. It is part of "the cost of doing business". It is intimately connected with risk taking. Every worthwhile endeavor at some point involves the risk of failure. This is what makes life interesting.
It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we live at all. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified result is the only thing that makes the result come true.
Consider a rejection as a "second opinion" of sorts. The woman who rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a possible relationship than you. She may have compelling reasons for her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other, saving the both of you a great deal of future grief. This does not, of course, mean you are worthless as a person, just that she was not meant for you, and that you should find someone else.
There are techniques that can remove some of the sting from the fear of rejection. Simply "scoping the situation out", proceeding in small steps, rather than taking the grand plunge all at once is a prudent method of risk management. Asking a woman you have just met to become intimately involved with you is an enterprise almost certain to fail. Asking her to share five minutes over a cup of coffee is a more modest proposal, one much more likely to meet with her approval (after that, she may hint, or even let you know outright if she is willing to go farther). Tackle tricky situations in small increments.
When you do face rejection, and you will, accept it with good cheer. Bounce back and try again (presumably with a different woman). Continued life experience will desensitize you to the trauma of having doors slammed in your face. You learn to survive. You learn to go on. You learn to keep trying.
Since everything in life is but an experience perfect in being what it is, having nothing to do with good or bad, acceptance or rejection, one may well burst out in laughter.
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These are the topless dancers right out of
the pages of Playboy that you would die for and the kind of bodies men drool
over. I'm sure when you look at these
girls you have all kinds of fantasies and your hormones are raging out of
control. Can you score with these
dancers? Yes. Will it be easy? No.
You're going to have to have something these dancers want and need. And what can that be? Material things, money, gifts, trips,
something to further her career, cars, pay her rent, etc.
Will she date you if you have a lot of charm, good personality, and good looks or average looks, but not a man of financial means or material things to offer? Well, maybe. The main thing is to give it your best effort to get a date with these centerfolds. So what if you get rejected. It's not the end of the world. Just move on to the next beautiful playmate. Just look at it as a numbers game. The more times you come to bat, the more chances you have to hit a home run.
are far more discriminating than men are concerning sex. They desire sex as
much as men do, but whereas men will often have sex with anyone, women are
looking for someone special. They are passing up sex with just anyone to wait
for someone to come along who they deem to be that special guy. Women today not
only want sex, they want good sex. And as far as women are concerned, whether
or not the sex they have is good is the responsibility of the man. We, as men, are the first ones to point out
that this fact is unfair, but also the first to point out that it is a reality
that we all have to live with.
Sex is a very powerful aspect of relationships. This is not to say sex is the total element of a relationship, but we are saying that it plays a larger role than people like to admit. Women, just like men, will want to meet someone or start a relationship with someone if they find that person sexually attractive. And, as the relationship continues, good sex is often the strongest glue that holds the two people together.
A Few Words of Advice About Pornography and Dating Single Women My focus this week is on pornography. You need to be aware that a lot of single women are offended by pornography and think it is demeaning to women, causes moral decay, rape, prostitution, etc. So, to be on the safe side early in a relationship with a woman, it would be wise to hide any pornographic photos, magazines, videos, sex toys, etc. from her. I would advise hiding it in a good place like the attic or locked up in a trunk, file cabinet, etc. Don't hide it under your mattress or under the bed or in your closet. You'd be surprised how women will snoop around while you're not looking.
If she has nothing against pornography then you don't have to be so discreet. But, if she is dead set against porno even after you have established a serious relationship, just keep your stuff hidden (you can always break it out when she's not around).