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There are often situations where people find that they are attracted to someone at work. This is not something that can be helped. We do not determine who we are going to be attracted to or fall in love with. However, there are certain things that need to be kept in mind and considered before entering into a relationship with a co-worker.

The first thing that you need to do is find out what your companies policy is on dating among co-workers. Read your employee manual and see what it says. If you cannot find information there, you may need to go to a supervisor for information. The only problem with this is that the person is going to wonder why you are asking. If interoffice relationships are forbidden, you could be putting yourself into a bad situation before you have ever done anything. You will be under the microscope just for asking. So, if you can find the information any other way, it is best to avoid going to higher ups.

As we cannot control our feelings and desires, there is really no way to avoid falling for a co-worker if that is what is meant to be. However, there are often risks and complications involved. You could end up losing your job once the relationship is out in the open. You could also have problems with other co-workers who may not approve of the relationship. Your boss could start treating you differently due to the fact that you are involved in a relationship within the office. There are numerous possible consequences of pursuing a relationship at work.

Talk with the person that you are interested in to determine what the best way to deal with the situation is. If you are both attracted to each other, you need to decide how to tell people. You will also want to discuss how you will handle any problems that arise. If there is a rule about not dating, you need to decide if the relationship is worth losing your job over. In some cases one person could switch to a different office or department. At other times, one person may need to quit their job in order to have their love and happiness. There are many possibilities and you both need to know how to deal with them before they come up.

Do not try to hide the relationship if you both decide it is what you want. You will often find that honesty is the best policy. If you are open and upfront with everyone from the beginning, you are more likely to get a more favorable response. If you try to hide it, then when it is found out, there could be much worse ramifications of your behavior and denial. Everyone needs to be made aware as soon as the relationship has begun. Tell your boss how you plan to deal with the relationship and the possible problems.

No matter what you do, it is important to avoid letting your relationship interfere with your work. This is the most common reason for a relationship to be frowned upon at work. It is also likely to result in negative repercussions. Keep work and personal life separate from each other at all costs.

 

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Compliments are something both men and women desire and enjoy getting. From "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks - just for being you," compliments make us feel good about ourselves ... especially when they come from those we care about the most.

It is kind of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though it is so much more than that.

What is the greatest compliment you could give or receive? Simple.

It is I don't need you.

Now hold on a second. Don't go off thinking I've completely lost it. I realize you may be thinking I'm nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you'll change your mind.

Yes, I know someone somewhere said "All people want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is, all people want to feel wanted.

See, a "need" is something a person *must have* in order to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us sometimes feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special someone by our side, the truth is - we could.

Now think of this: are you with your current partner because you feel you couldn't survive without them because they take care of things you can't or won't do or provide things you don't feel you can get on your own?

Or are you with your partner because although you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life simply because you love them?

In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon begin to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give - such as a paycheck.

I couldn't tell you how many men I've heard say their wives only stayed with them for the money.

Or sex. Again, I've heard many, many women complain that their partner only kept them around for sex.

Which would you rather have in your life? Someone who wanted you for what you could give/bring? Or someone who wants you for *you* - no strings, no conditions?

That's why I say the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else.

I don't need you but I love you.

What do you think?

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This is a prayer from my book, "How to Use the Power of Jesus to Help You Meet, Date, Attract Women" at: www.getgirls.com/power.htm

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Compliments are something both men and women desire and enjoy getting. From "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks - just for being you," compliments make us feel good about ourselves ... especially when they come from those we care about the most.

It is kind of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though it is so much more than that.

What is the greatest compliment you could give or receive? Simple.

It is I don't need you.

Now hold on a second. Don't go off thinking I've completely lost it. I realize you may be thinking I'm nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you'll change your mind.

Yes, I know someone somewhere said "All people want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is, all people want to feel wanted.

See, a "need" is something a person *must have* in order to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us sometimes feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special someone by our side, the truth is - we could.

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Now think of this: are you with your current partner because you feel you couldn't survive without them because they take care of things you can't or won't do or provide things you don't feel you can get on your own?

Or are you with your partner because although you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life simply because you love them?

In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon begin to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give - such as a paycheck.

I couldn't tell you how many men I've heard say their wives only stayed with them for the money.

Or sex. Again, I've heard many, many women complain that their partner only kept them around for sex.

Which would you rather have in your life? Someone who wanted you for what you could give/bring? Or someone who wants you for *you* - no strings, no conditions?

That's why I say the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else.

I don't need you but I love you.

What do you think?

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If you are a senior, Christian dating opportunities may seem limited. But dont despair. Besides the traditional venues to meet religious members of the opposite sex (like Church), the internet has opened up many new doors. Now you can go online to find a partner who shares your values. This article will look at how to choose and use a senior Christian dating site.

There are several different approaches you can follow when selecting a senior Christian dating site. First, you can go to a general site such as EHarmony or Match dot com and select for the age group you are in and the Christian religion. Or, you can go to a Christian only dating site and select the age group you are in. On the flip side, you can go to a seniors dating site and select for the Christian religion. Finally, you can get very specific and go to a site that is set up specifically for Christian Seniors.

You will be able to try out a senior Christian dating site, but in order to use the full range of services, you will need to join. The fee can range from a few dollars a month to hundreds of dollars a year.

One of the first things you will do is create a personal profile. Some sites have drop down menus and check boxes which make everyone look pretty generic but makes searching for people with similar interests easier. Others allow you to post a long essay about yourself that gives potential dates great insight into you.

You will also be able to upload a photo of yourself. I recommend that you do upload the photo because people with photos receive twenty times more messages than people without them. Some senior Christian dating sites also allow you to upload video. If you have this option, it is advisable to do so.

Your profile, photos, and videos allow people to be drawn to you. But, it also allows people to weed you out. This is actually a good thing. Some of these sites have more than 100,000 members. Remember, you are not looking for many loves, you are looking for one. So, finding someone who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you is paramount.

Many people join single Christian dating sites because they take their faith seriously and want to meet someone who cares about Jesus as much as they do. But be aware that the level of commitment to the church varies among members. So, if your purpose in joining a Christian site is to find someone with the same level of religiousness as you have, you still must do your screening for this.

One of the advantages of a senior Christian dating site over the more general dating pool is that you know in advance that you have something in common. People wouldnt join such a site specifically if they werent looking for a fellow Christian.

If you want to meet other Christians and you are over age 50, join a senior Christian dating site today.

In a successful relationship, couples work very hard to keep the spark alive. So how do they do that? By honest and open communication. It is amazing how many misunderstandings crop up between men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don't Read Maps" etc.

All couples argue but it is how they do it that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Try being open about how you are feeling. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!

Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each other's to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.

One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asker, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.

A very important part of having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.

In order to be part of a successful couple, you first have to love yourself. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.

You also cannot depend on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. You have a life of your own and if you live it fully, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.

So to sum up, you don't get anything worth having in this life without a little work and that applies to successful relationships. Couples who work hard get to play hard!

I want to alert you to a certain type of single woman that can cause you relationship problems. I call this type of woman, "The Commitaphobic." Let me describe The Commitaphobic to you:

The Commitaphobic single woman is confused. She really has little idea of what she wants from a relationship, and often breaks up and then comes back only to break up again. She hates being alone, but likewise is incapable of making a solid commitment.

There is nothing wrong, or evil about her, she is simply undecided as to what part she wants you to play in her future. She is happy to "coast" along, for months or even years if you let her, but as soon as you do or say anything that looks like tying her down, she runs a mile, only to come back and ask for one more chance.

The problem here develops when you keep taking her back. This tells her that she can treat you like a door mat, come and go as she pleases, and only ever give you dribs and drabs of her love. The longer and longer it goes on the less she understands what, or who it is she wants in her life, if anyone.

The only possible solution is to not take her back next time she leaves. That way she can get the experience she needs with other people to eventually come to a decision about the kind of person she can really commit to. If you aren't it, then it's better to know now rather than after she's taken years of your youth. Years that in the meantime you can use to find someone who does know what they want.

Please share your experiences with this type of women to the readers of this blog...Thanks...Don

In a successful relationship, couples work very hard to keep the spark alive. So how do they do that? By honest and open communication. It is amazing how many misunderstandings crop up between men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don't Read Maps" etc.

All couples argue but it is how they do it that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Try being open about how you are feeling. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!

Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each other's to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.

One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asker, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.

A very important part of having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.

In order to be part of a successful couple, you first have to love yourself. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.

You also cannot depend on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. You have a life of your own and if you live it fully, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.

So to sum up, you don't get anything worth having in this life without a little work and that applies to successful relationships. Couples who work hard get to play hard!

In most cases, once you have been introduced to a person you are able to handle the date and know what you are doing. Oftentimes, the initial meeting is the hardest part of starting any relationship. If you know how situations are different and changed as you grow older and meet new people will help you to understand what you will be up against when you are trying to meet someone and date.

As women get older, they have a higher chance of meeting people due to the fact that there is a much higher woman to men ratio for older women. The older the woman, the more competition they are going to have. At the age of 50, the odds are increased even higher and the competition goes up again.

As for men, as they age they have a much lower rate due to an increase in suicide and death. So, there are less men looking to meet women as age increases. It is well known that most often women outlive men. This makes the ratio of men to women different and more sided toward women with increase in age.

People sometimes choose to let their friends set them up for a date. There can be good and bad things with this situation. If it is a successful relationship, it is wonderful. However, it is much more common that it does not work out and then friends can become offended or feel like they are in the middle. They may very well have the best intentions, but you need to do some serious thinking before you decide to accept this date and their help that they are offering.

There are ways to increase your odds of finding the right person to be in your life. Look closely at yourself. What picture are you giving to others? How do they see you? This is very important to look at and figure out. Look carefully at yourself to find out if there are changes that you need to make in order to be more presentable and appealing to potential mates. It is imperative to make yourself as desirable as possible if you want the best odds of finding a partner.

Are you the type of person that starts conversations? Most often, this is the best way to meet a new person. Take the initiative and be the first to talk to someone. Create an open door of potential for a new friend or possibly more. In some cases, you have to take the initiative yourself and stick your neck out. Take the chance and talk to people to make sure that you can take advantage of every possible opportunity to meet someone that could potentially turn into a relationship.

Starting a conversation or talking to people does not have to be a complex task. It is very simple. Introduce yourself. Tell them your name. Comment about their outfit or what they are wearing. Tell them about something that you witnessed them doing and what you thought about it. It is simply a matter of talking and starting a conversation. You just need to open the door.

Steps For Surviving A Break Up

Surviving a break up is a painful experience. You may feel rejected. You may be doubting your own self worth. You may not feel like getting out of bed in the morning. One thing that may help you is to know that most people have already gone about the process of surviving a break up and have come out stronger for it.

Here are some of the steps for surviving a break up.

First of all, allow yourself to mourn the end of the relationship. Your ex was almost like an appendage to you. You identified him or her as a part of you. You were two halves of a couple. Just as you would be lost if your right arm was cut off, losing a significant other can be painful.

So, spend some time grieving for the relationships end. It can actually be a healthy thing to do.

But at some point (hopefully soon), you have to move on. You will need to go through a process of being angry at your ex. He or she hurt you and you have every right to feel mad at them.

Here's a tip for surviving a break up in the anger stage. Write a long letter to your ex spilling out your guts about how you feel. Put every emotion, experience, and feeling into the letter. But don't mail it to them. Whatever you do, don't mail it. Instead, light a candle and burn it slowly over the flame. As your letter goes up in smoke, release your anger.

At this point, it is time to start rebuilding your life. Surviving a break up means getting back into the game. You should definitely lean on the support of friends and family during this difficult time. The people closest to you will understand that you are having trouble putting your life back together and they should offer you the support that you need to heal.

Also, you should look for activities that spark your interest. Perhaps there were things that your ex didn't like to do with you that you've missed. Renew your interest in these things. If you have had a lifelong desire to learn something, there's no time like after a break up to try. You will probably make new friends when you start a new activity and you might even meet a love interest who shares your passion.

At some point, you will want to start dating again. Don't expect your first few dates to turn into lifetime relationships. Just test the waters. Go out for coffee or a drink. Have fun and don't be too serious about these things.

Surviving a break up is always a painful process. But, you are capable of moving on with your life. Look at the end of the relationship as a chance for growth. Millions of people have survived a split with their ex and you will too.

Speed dating is becoming much more popular in our society today. People are relying on unconventional methods to meet someone that they can potentially spend the rest of their life with. If you have tried to find a date and have been unsuccessful, you may turn toward other methods. Often, this will include speed dating.

Speed dating is often an effective way to meet someone new. These are structured events. Most often there is little risk of negative effects. Everyone that is in attendance is there for the same reasons.

You are all looking for someone to date and spend time with. In other situations, such as bars, nightclubs, and various settings, there can be some confusion and differences in reasons for being at the location. This can create some embarrassment and emotional issues if you are pursuing someone and then find out that they have no interest whatsoever.

As with any form of dating, caution is needed when attending speed dating events. You want to be careful about the information that you are providing. Do not give out personal identifying information. You do not want to risk having someone that is not necessarily safe showing up at your house or stalking you.

This can create a safety concern and can even put you in danger. You can tell daters about yourself without providing your personal details. Tell them about your interests and what you are looking for in a potential mate.

Before you make a decision to attend a speed dating session, you need to make sure that you fully understand what is involved and how they work. The internet can be a great source for information. If you do a simple search for speed dating, you will find a wide variety of different sites that can explain the process to you.

There are often guidelines that you can follow and also tips to keep yourself safe. If you want to get the most out of a speed dating experience, you should do some research and investigation. By doing research on the internet, you can also find speed dating events in your area. You can get information on when the events will be hosted and the location. Information about any possibly themes or special circumstances will also be provided.

One benefit to speed dating is that there are often a wide range of age groups attending. There are also people from many different backgrounds and different personalities. Chances are that you can more than likely find the type of person that you are looking for at a speed dating event. This is not to say that there will be a long term relationship or that you will be spending the rest of your life with them. It simply means that there is potential to meet someone that is compatible with you and meets your expectations.

If you know what you want and if you take the time to search within yourself and find out what you desire, there are possibilities for a successful date that originates from a speed dating session. There are many people out there looking to meet someone just like you are. It is simply a matter of being in the right place at the right time.

Many single parents find it difficult to enter into the dating world. They have to juggle kids, work, and life in general. Then, there is the issue of finding someone to date that does not have a problem with the fact that they have kids. This can be an overwhelming task all on its own.

It can also be a reason for many single parents to avoid dating and to remain single. The prospect of being rejected due to the fact that they have kids or of trying to find a suitable partner that will accept their kids and that they can trust with their kids is too much for some people to try to deal with.

The first thing that a single parent needs to do when reentering into the singles world of dating; is to have an open mind. There are people that are willing to accept a partner that has kids. There are also other single parents in the world. Many of these parents are also looking to get back into the dating world. They will have the same fears and apprehensions that you are feeling. However, there is no reason that being a parent has to make you live the rest of your life being single.

It is a good idea to be upfront and honest from the very beginning. Do not try to hide the fact that you have children. This will save you a lot of time and hassle in the long run. There is nothing worse than developing feelings for someone and pursuing a relationship with them only to find out that they are not interested in kids. This can lead to many bad feelings in the end. It can also make a breakup hard and create animosity between both people. Honesty is the best policy.

Talk with potential partners about their views on children. There is no need wasting your time dating someone that has no intentions or desires to have kids. It will never work out in the end. A general, casual conversation can go a long way towards helping you to find the best person to enter into a relationship with.

This does not have to be a major conversation or a big deal. It is very casual and can just be added into your basic conversation. There is no reason that you have to make a huge ordeal out of the fact that you have kids. Oftentimes, the thing that scares someone off is a single parent that is entirely too pushy or tries to force a person into something that they may not be ready to commit to.

Another important point for single parents to keep in mind is that they should not lose hope. They are not doomed to failure. It is quite possible for single parents to meet people and to date and have meaningful relationships. Even if they have some unsuccessful dates or encounter people that are not interested in children, this should not discourage them from continuing on. The perfect person is out there just waiting to meet them.

The Senior Dating Group is one of a host of sites for people aged 50 or over to meet and date people of the same generation. The site started in the United Kingdom but has developed a U.S. branch as well. It provides you with a simple and secure way to meet other seniors. The Senior Dating Group is not unique, but it is representative of the type of mature dating sites now available.

They say that the site is for those of us who are young enough to want to meet new people and rediscover the joy of romance yet old enough to have the wisdom to grasp the modern technology to achieve it. The site is free to join on a limited basis but there is a fee for upgraded services.

You have to give your real name (no nicknames) and email address. Then you'll be asked for some other personal information which is not displayed to the public. You will also be asked for your zip code so that you can calculate your distance to other members.

The next step in the Senior Dating Group registration process is to choose your characteristics such as hair and eye color from a drop down menu.

The next screen presents you with a variety of interests and hobbies such as jazz music, gardening and watching sports. You can choose as many as you want.

On this screen, the Senior Dating Group also invites you to write up a description of yourself. Take this step seriously because it gives potential dates a picture of the real you that is not captured in simple check off boxes. For this service, the description is limited to 100 to 150 words.

Click add profile and you're ready to start dating.

The Senior Dating Group recommends adding a photo to your profile. That's because people with photos receive 20 times as many contacts from other members. Remember, the people who you eventually go out with will find out what you look like anyway, so putting your photo up at first is a good idea.

The free service allows you to receive messages from other members and to browse profiles. But, in order to send messages, you will need to upgrade to full membership which ranges from $19.95 for a month to $99.95 for a year.

As a full member you can send and receive private messages, use all of the search functions, and keep an online diary for recording your dating experience.

While there are many different online dating sites, the Senior Dating Group provides good value and a good selection of other older adults to choose from.

Do you have a local senior dating group? I bet you do! These groups are fast becoming the "must have" of any decent neighbourhood.

In the olden days, life was much simpler. Everyone knew everyone else so if you were looking for a relationship, you just put a discrete word out and lo and behold your knight on his shiny black horse would appear.

Times have moved on but there is no reason why your knight or princess cannot show up today albeit in a four wheel drive or similar vehicle. How do you find a match in this busy world of ours? Join a senior dating group!

Perhaps you are not looking for a long term partner but would love the chance to meet people to go on dates with. You might like to go to a film, theatre, picnic or perhaps even a holiday. Everyday activities that may be just a little more interesting if you had someone to share them with.

A senior dating service is ideal as the members are generally going to be a similar age and share similar beliefs both culturally and religiously. In some dating groups you can be very specific regarding the qualities of your ideal mate. For example, if you don't have children, you may not relish the thought of taking on someone else's large family.

Dating services for seniors are booming as more and more people are living longer and looking to enhance their golden years. They have reared their families and/or their careers are now completed. So now they have plenty of spare time and in a lot of cases, financial resources but just need someone else to share the moment with.

Older people have a different approach towards love and relationships. They have probably learned that physical beauty is only skin deep and while being attracted to the other person is very important, they do not need to resemble the latest fashion icon or supermodel. Hopefully both parties will have grown to accept their grey hair and wrinkles!

As we get older, compatibility and shared values become much more important. While older people can obviously still become intimate, they are less likely to be lead by their hormones as your average teenager. They will have already dealt with the issues caused by wanting kids or work/life balance. They do not face the same hurdles as younger people when it comes to finding a suitable partner.

But it is not all plain sailing. As we get older, we can become more set in our ways and less adaptable to change. After being alone, it can be difficult to open up your life to others. We may also have children or grandchildren who may believe that we should be spending the remainder of our days on the porch in the rocking chair.

But you will never know who you might meet or what experiences you could have until you try. So get those glad rags on and join your local senior dating group today.

Surviving A Breakup - 3 Things To Help

Surviving a breakup can feel impossible, especially if you didn't really want the relationship to end. But even if you were the one who decided it was over, it can feel crummy to have such an important part of your life end. There are three important things you can to help with surviving a breakup.

First, let yourself be sad. Its natural to not want to feel sad. None of us likes to be upset or depressed. But when a relationship ends, no matter who ended it, you lose a part of your life. If you haven't been dating long, the sad period probably wont last that long. But for a long-term relationship, you might be sad for a long time.

Its important, as painful as it is, to allow yourself to feel that way. The tendency is to avoid those feelings and try to move on to something that feels better. But being sad is a necessary step in the healing process.

Letting yourself feel the sadness will let you deal with the emotions and the pain. Remember that surviving a breakup is more than just moving on. If you can deal with the bad feelings, youll be better to able to experience the good feelings that come when you have moved on.

Second, keep busy. You have to deal with the sadness and not deny it or push it aside, but that doesnt mean you can or should let yourself wallow in it. If you feel like spending the entire day in bed crying, you can let yourself do that. But the next day, even if you feel that way again, make yourself do something else.

Let yourself cry for an hour, and then find an activity to help distract you. Even if its only watching a movie, at least you'll be able to concentrate on something else for brief periods of time.

Keep in mind that no matter how active your activity might be, sad thoughts and memories will still creep in. Even if you're solving a hard puzzle and concentrating to distract yourself, now and then a memory will pop up and your mind will be back on the breakup. This is normal.

You just have to deal with the feeling briefly and not let it sidetrack you. Feel it, cry for a bit if you need to, and then keep concentrating on your activity. Soon, the sad thoughts and feelings will pop up less and less when you're doing other things.

Finally, decide to forgive your ex. Surviving a breakup is not just about leaving one relationship and looking for another.

You need to resolve things in the old relationship to help you be more emotionally healthy in the next relationship. If you were hurt in the relationship, forgive your ex for his or her part in that.

This might seem an impossible task. Start by realizing that it really does take two, and that surviving a breakup is more important than having someone to blame for it.

 

Senior Dating - Personals Are The Way Forward

When you are ready to start senior dating, personals can be the best way to obtaining that first date.

Contrary to urban myth, the personal section of most quality newspapers are full of like minded individuals all looking for a partner to share their lives. Most personals are divided into sections based on sexual orientation and then sub divided by age.

Always state the age of the person you would like to meet. You can pick a broad range but keep it realistic or else your first date could look like a babysitting outing.

Don't discard any replies that are not your ideal mate. You should aim to meet those that match the friendship criteria i.e. you are not attracted to them but would like to spend time with them based on their qualities.

People who fail to meet their partners via personal ads or dating sites are those that close their mind to the other opportunities available. Your new best friend could be into senior golf i.e. he or she could introduce you to a whole golf club of potential partner candidates.

  

When writing your senior dating personals, you need to put your positive thinking cap on. You are trying to sum up in a few little lines, all those great qualities that make you such an attractive date. Spend time drafting an outline and ask your friends to do the same. Then amalgamate the two and see what the final ad is like.

Proof read your ad several times, sleep on it and then proof read it again. Appearances matter only now you will be judged on your writing and editorial skills not your looks.

Avoid common platitudes. It can sometimes appear as if every single personal ad has a great sense of humor. Be original and a little different - that way you stand out and your ad has more chance of being read.

Post your ad in the correct paper - this may appear obvious but some people end up posting an ad in a paper whose target market doesn't include their ideal partner.

Yes, you should have a fairly good idea of who your ideal partner would be. This way, you will write the ad targeted at that particular market.

Ok success - he or she has phoned in response to your ad. So what do you do now? Well obviously phone them back. Try to stay calm and reduce the nerves.

Always use a code to prevent your real number being revealed (safety, safety) and pick a time when you are feeling relaxed and happy. Keep the call light and obviously check that now is a good time for the other person to talk. Make arrangements to meet in a public place and then end the call.

Do not put pressure on yourself to get to know him/her over the phone. Some people cannot communicate via the phone and thus may not show their best side.

Senior dating personals just may be the road to your new life partnership.

Senior Date Just As Hard The Second Time

A first time senior date is every bit as nerve racking as a first date for a 16 year old. Life experience does nothing to ease the jitters of meeting someone for a romantic connection for the first time. In fact, if you have recently left a long time relationship, it may be even harder for you to go out on the scene again than it is for younger people. Here's some tips to minimize the anxiety for a first time senior date.

First of all, you should lower the expectations. Don't expect your first date to be the person who you spend the rest of your life with. Think of it as a way to meet a new person who you might be friends or more with.

Next, choose the location well. Many people think of a date as dinner and a movie. But this may be too much for a first senior date. Instead, meet for coffee or lunch. That keeps things on a lighter level. More importantly, it keeps the date short.

If you share common interests, that makes a great first senior date. For instance, if you both enjoy art, go to an opening at an art museum. You will find it much easier to talk when you have a natural common interest in front of you.

Avoid making a date for someplace where you will be alone. A picnic by a secluded creek can be very romantic, but its not a good idea for a first date.

But, going to a movie, play, or music event, even though it is crowded, may not be a good idea either. That's because it doesn't give you a chance to talk.

You should always arrive at your destination in separate vehicles so that either of you can leave if things get uncomfortable. Also, let a friend or family member know where you are going and who you are going with. It is unfortunate, but these days, it is important to be safe.

After a first senior date, you have to decide whether to see the person again. If the first date was enjoyable and the companionship seems good, by all means go out again. If you were at all uncomfortable, listen to your instincts.

Don't feel that you have to go out on second dates just because you went out on the first one. Lifes too short at this point to go on meaningless dates. It may also prevent you from investing the emotional energy into finding someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life.

Yes, a senior date is just as nerve racking as a high school date. But first dates remain first dates whatever the age. Go out with confidence, hoping for romance, and committed to having fun whatever the outcome.