Finally Dating Advice For Men Over 40

Many men perceive being over 40 as a disadvantage when it comes to dating. But those of you who do will be happy to learn that most women actually like the idea of dating older men. You also many think that all the "worth-it" women are already spoken for, but this is also not the case. If you're over 40 and seeking attractive women to date, you'll like the following dating advice for men over 40.

First of all, instead of going out and trying to meet women by joining clubs or doing activities that attract women, start doing things that you genuinely like to do. While you may meet a lot of women at "women-based" places, unless you are really interested in these groups or activities, you will probably not get too far with the ones that you do meet. While you may have not had time to join certain clubs before, you do have the time now so take advantage of it.

Dress your age and wear clothes that flatter you both in fit and color. One of the many advantages of being an older guy is that you have the money to spend on clothes. You don't have to dress up in a suit and tie all the time (especially if that's required of you for work) but there are ways to look nice and show your style even if you're dressed casually. Women pay attention to sytle and this is one way to attract their attention.

Take a break. This is often overlooked in other dating advice for men over 40. But traveling is a fantastic way to meet new interesting people, especially when you're single. Go on an organized adventure like a cruise or jungle safari, something that fits your interests. You can even pick tours that suit your age brackets and tastes specifically. You might not necessarily find the next woman of your life on this trip but you will definitely have fun and come back refreshed and recharged.

Start going to the parties and events that you turned down in the past. It's time to start meeting new people. While old friends and family are always supportive and make you feel comfortable, you should make a conscious effort to develop new friendships (with men and women alike) as well. . .which can lead to new romances in a more indirect way.

Become a volunteer. Wherever you happen to live, there are surely chances for you to offer your own contributions to the society. Doing this will make you feel better about yourself while also helping others and meeting like-minded people along the way.

Definitely take advantage of the internet but make your own rules. Stick to dating sites which specifically cater to men and women over 40. Compose your online dating profile with care - be unique and sell yourself. Don't write the same thing that everyone else does. And most importantly, look for women with common interests and shared values, not just those who seem "ready to roll" on the first date.

And the last piece of dating advice for men over 40, remember that you can find the woman of your dreams no matter what your age!

When doing research for a book I wrote on how to pick up single sexy women in bars and nightclubs, I interviewed over 200 single women in nightclubs. One of the questions was, "What kind of man turns you off in a nightclub?" Here are some of their answers (most of the women had the same answers):
Robin - "One who comes right up in your face with bad breath. A man with bad body odor and wrinkled clothes. Takes things for granted and sits down without asking. One who comes on too strong."
Kerry - "One who thinks he's a good dancer, but steps all over your feet."
Erika - "The overly flashy type man. A man who treats me like a piece of meat."
Valerie - "A man that acts dumb. He shows off in front of everybody. He thinks he's real cute. Cares more about himself than he does about you. Also, he comes right up to you with bad breath."
Paula - "A show off, a man that thinks he's really special, a guy dressed tacky, or a bum, a fast mover."
Susan - "A drunk, stubborn man. Some men insist that you dance with them even if you say no. That turns me off."
Gail - "A forward, especially drunk, insistent man."
Debbie - "A fat, drunk man. A man who thinks he's macho."
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Erin - "A foul-mouth man."
Sandra - "Too feminine and doesn't dress masculine. A fat man. A man who is not a good listener."
Karen - "If he's too suggestive, dresses too fancy (don't like suits), and too
drunk."
Kim - "A guy that's too pushy and brags too much on himself."
Nicole - "A guy that's too forward and obnoxious."
Barbara - "Gay and ugly men."
Nancy - "A drunk and untidy man."
Natalie - "A cocky snob (stuck up)."
Gayle - "Short and fat. Real conceited guys who think they are God's gift to women."
Peggy - "A man I don't even know that fondles me and paws at my body. A real drunk guy that stumbles up to me and trys to hustle me or dance with me. Obese men." Teresa - "The type that lie and sit around and brag about themselves. They think
they are hot stuff."
In conclusion, use these interviews as a guideline on how to conduct yourself accordingly at the nightclubs. You're not going to score with very many sexy single women if you do things to turn them off. These interviews can be summed up as follows:
1. Single women like to be approached in a respectable manner. They usually don't like the aggressive approach and don't like to be treated like a piece of meat.
2. Single women like well-groomed, well-dressed men, with a pleasing personality. 3. Single women dislike conceited, drunk, forward, and obese men.

The dating phase of a relationship is a very crucial aspect of relationship building. It is a time intended for learning, for sharing thoughts, hopes, dreams, fears and for bonding. If we skip this crucial phase, what then, are we bringing upon ourselves?

My 13-year-old son pretty much summed up what passes for the progression of relationships today like this:

Two people hang out together for a while with a bunch of other people, he said. Then, they decide they wanna get married, have some kids, decide they don't like each other and what they've gotten themselves into, get a divorce, and have to pay child support.

His description, sadly, is almost dead-on. Is this truly what we aspire to? What is happening here? Are we truly "skipping" the dating phase completely, leaping from introduction to engagement without ever really taking the time to get to know each other? Without any true bonding or relationship building at all? Have we, as a society, completely eliminated the true date and opted for merely hanging out instead?

Today, we hear couples say they are going on a date, and then usually the couple attends some group function or outing in a public place where lots of their friends are gathered. They all just "hang out" together, at the mall or at the movies, making what was supposed to be a time of sharing and getting to know one another more of a group social event than anything.

Perhaps something vital is being left out of most relationships today, and that something is the dating phase.

It wasn't always this way. Once there was a "pecking order" for all things relationship-py, and it went something like this: There was an introduction, which progressed to occasional meetings at adult-chaperoned events, and then came the dating phase.

The purpose of dating, then, could be described as a phase of time in two people's lives spent together as a couple in order to get to know one another better as individual people, on a one-on-one basis.

Time spent together out of the shadow of their peers, during which they could be themselves their real, true selves and decide if who and what each of them were as individuals would be better, stronger, more beautiful and capable merged into one entity, which it would be, if they came together as a couple.

If and only if this dating phase of a relationship went well (meaning the couple involved decided, based on time spent together getting to know each other on a deeper, more personal level, that the ingredients necessary for a long-term, forever kind of relationship were present between them), there was usually an engagement announced, and finally, a marriage.

Consider this the next time you're asked to go on a date. Are you truly dating? Or are you just hanging out? You'll know.

Dating Older Women

For a long time, older men have been able to capture the hearts of younger women. This may have been partly evolutionary. Younger women could still bear healthy children while older men had the financial wherewithal to support them.

But, in our affluent society where smaller families are the norm, some younger men have begun dating older women.

Older women who seek younger men out to date are known as cougars. There are some famous Hollywood couples who fit the younger man dating older women pattern. For instance, Demi Moores love is Ashton Kutcher. And, Susan Sarandon has been married to Tim Robinson for years.

One reason that many older women prefer younger men is that women peak sexually in their late 30s and into their early 50s. Men, on the other hand, peak in their late teens and early twenties. So, a sexually motivated woman may look to date a younger man whose libido more closely matches her own.

Additionally, younger men are more likely to understand the social needs of an older woman. While older men may be stuck looking at women in more traditional roles, younger men are more open to see a womans career strengths and earning power as a plus.

But younger men also have their reasons for dating older women. He gets the excitement of the sexual experience and the sexual self confidence of a woman who knows her way around the bedroom. Such a man will be able to relax knowing he doesnt have to take the lead all of the time.

He may also get the financial security out of dating older women that younger women get out of dating older men. He can take the time to pursue graduate school, develop his talents as a concert pianist or start his own business secure in the fact that he doesnt have to be the breadwinner.

This is not to say that the younger man dating an older woman is not without its downsides. Women worry that as they age, they will become less attractive to a younger man.

Another potential sticking point is that after a certain age, a woman can no longer bear children. While she may have children of her own from a previous relationship or not want to have children, a younger man may come to feel that he wants to father children. This is not possible when he is with an older woman whose biological clock has run out.

Older men have long faced the problem of dating women their childrens ages. But now women are facing the same situation. How do grown children feel when mom brings home a young stud their age? It may not be something they have ever considered possible.

While it certainly is still not common for a younger man to be dating older women, it is no longer out of the realm of common occurrence. If you are interested in dating older women, there are web sites which feature personals for cougars.

Copyright 2006 David Steele

In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist most of my practice has been working with couples, because after experiencing divorce growing up as a child, and again after a ten year first marriage, I decided that my mission is to help people have successful marriages and families, and I thought the best way to do that would be as a marriage counselor. However, what I discovered over the years is that people generally make appointments with me when it's almost too late; they're on the verge of divorce or it might be a last resort, after there's been a lot of irreversible damage done.

How relationships work and how to have a successful Life Partnership have always been fascinating mysteries to me. One thing's for certain; times have changed and what used to work doesn't work anymore. The biggest change in the past 30 years impacting relationships that I can see is that we have developed a need to be "happy". This is a dramatic shift from our parents and grandparents who were quite satisfied surviving and achieving some measure of comfort and security. The need for happiness sounds very simple and innocent, but it's the primary reason for failed relationships today, and the high divorce rate, single parent families, mental and physical health problems, juvenile delinquency, welfare, and so on.

While we seek to be happy in relationships, we don't seem to know how. As a result I have seen many people make relationship choices and fall into traps that prevented them from getting what they want in their life, resulting in unhappiness and relationship failure. A trap is basically an unsolvable problem that results in unhappiness in a relationship. Getting out of the trap often means leaving the relationship.

When you're single you can do a lot more than you realize to avoid these traps and prepare for a successful and lasting relationship, as you'll see in this article.

1. Marketing Trap

Believing you need to make yourself more appealing to attract a partner and "selling" yourself with attractive packaging and presentation. High risk of disappointment and relationship failure as people discover that the excitement and promise of the "sizzle" conflicts with the reality of the "steak".

Solution: Authenticity. You will attract compatible people when you show them who you really are. At the risk of mixing metaphors, "Birds of a feather flock together", so don't try to look like a prize-winning chicken when you are your own breed of duck!

2. Scarcity Trap

Believing there is a limited supply of possible partners, so you have to take what you can get or be alone. Results in relationship failure when you settle for less and compromise your Requirements. A self-fulfilling prophecy when you get less because you expect less.

Solution: Define your first choice of what you really want and persevere. Trust that if you apply yourself you can get what you really want in your life. You must be able to say "No" to what you DON'T want, to be available to say "Yes" to what you DO want. You have the power to choose who, what , where, when, and how, and can get what you really want if you make effective choices aligned with your Vision and Requirements.

3. Compatibility Trap

Assuming that if you have fun together and get along well, you are compatible and a committed relationship will work. Results in relationship failure when discovering the vast difference between a fun-focused, recreational " dating" relationship, and a serious long-term committed relationship. Being so different, the process and criteria for choosing a recreational relationship needs to be very different from choosing a Life Partner.

Solution: When you are ready for a Life Partnership, define your Requirements and use them to scout, sort, and screen potential partners. Do not try to convert a recreational relationshipinto a committed one, unless 100% of your Requirements are met.

4. Fairytale Trap

Passively expecting your ideal partner to magically appear and live happily ever after without effort on your part. Believing that finding your soul mate will just "happen". Results in disappointment when the frogs that happen to jump into your life don't become princes.

Solution: Take personal responsibility for your relationship choices and outcomes. Have effective scouting, sorting, and screening strategies. Initiate contact and be the "Chooser", don't simply react to people that choose you.

5. Date-To-Mate Trap

Becoming an "instant couple" as if giving each person you date an extended test drive. Believing that if you develop an exclusive relationship with someone you are dating, a successful committed relationship will eventually happen. Other terms for this are "Serial Monogamy" and the "Mini-Marriage.. This approach is a costly use of time and emotional energy. The inertia in this trap is pressure to make the relationship work, attempt to solve unsolvable problems, and fit the round peg in the square hole because breaking up and being single again is an undesired outcome.

Solution: Date a variety of people and have fun without being exclusive. When you are ready for a committed relationship define your Requirements and use them as tools to scout, sort, and screen potential partners. Make a careful relationship choice and consciously use a "pre-commitment" period to determine if this is the right relationship for you.

6. Attraction Trap

Making relationship choices based on feelings of attraction. Interpreting a strong attraction to someone as a sign that the relationship is a good choice and "meant to be". This approach results in relationship failure when unsolvable problems surface because you ignored the red flags while infatuated. Unconscious choices usually result in repeating unproductive past patterns.

Solution: Balance your attractions by defining your Requirements and use them to scout, sort, and screen potential partners. "Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come ninety percent of your happiness or misery.(H. Jackson Brown, Jr. from "Life's Little Instruction Book").

10 Tips Dating Advice For Men

Whether you're an experienced dater, just getting back into the single swing after the break-up of a long relationship, or somewhere in between, here is some dating advice for men that you should keep in mind.

  

1. Make a good impression. This starts with your personal hygiene. Get a hair cut if necessary and shave. You don't have to wear cologne (in fact some women don't like it) but you must be clean. Make sure you are wearing nice looking clothes that you feel comfortable in and that fit you well.

2. If you smoke, you want to seriously consider giving it up. If you can't, make all attempts to get rid of your smoker's breath and cough. Ironically enough, even women who smoke can't stand the smell of smoke on their man.

3. Listen more and talk less. Ask your date a lot of questions about herself and listen to the answers. Women love to chat and if you can remember things she's told you and bring them up later, you will impress her.

4. Try to keep up with current affairs that you can discuss in conversation - this is one of the best pieces of dating advice for men that is often overlooked.

5. Take some time to learn about manners and chivalry. Women want to be treated with respect. Hold the door open for your date. Don't use rude or vulgar language. It can also help to know how and what to eat in a fancy restaurant, and a little about fashion, jewelry and flowers.

6. Keep your sports lingo in check. Most guys love sports and that's fine. But it shouldn't be all you talk and think about, at least while you are with your date. Some women love sports too. But they don't tend to talk about it all the time as men can do. Many women interpret an obsession with sports talk as a total lack of thought, creativity or inspiration.

7. If you don't dance, you might want to consider learning how. Women love to dance and the benefit for you is that it puts you in close contact with each other. Dancing is considered romantic and sexy. Worse than being a terrible dancer is staying seated when your date wants to dance. You could even take lessons together.

8. Don't expect sex on the first date. Period.

9. Keep your career goals as one top priority. Most women want a man who has some ambition in life and even if they pretend to think your job isn't important, they do.

10. Taking your date for a drink every once in a while is fine but don't make it a habit to hang out at bars all the time.

These is just an introductory guide to the many aspects that are part of dating advice for men. Heed these and you will be off to a good start!

Dating can be tough but there are some things you can do to make it a little bit easier on both you and the woman you've asked on a date. These 10 dating tips for black men can help you next time you're on a date.

1. You have to remember that she is probably nervous too and may be unsure about what to do. Thinking of it this way can help set you at ease and make it more comfortable for you both.

2. Double-check your hygiene before you walk out the door. Make sure that you smell good, and that you have fresh breath. Wear a light, nice cologne. But don't overdo it on the scent.

3. This dating tip for men is something the guys often forget if they don't date very often. Check your fingernails. Be sure your hands look well groomed just like the rest of you because women tend to look at a guy's hands and judge him by how neat they are.

4. Another dating tip that can help a black man on a date, especially when it's your first date with a particular woman, is to check your shoes. Women tend to look at a man's hands and his feet for good grooming.

5. Do take charge a little bit on your date. It's all right to ask her what she wants to do or let her make the decisions, but don't appear too wishy-washy. If you have asked her on a date then this is your ballgame and you need to claim it and make sure you both have a good time.

6. Do offer to pay for the meal or whatever activity you're doing. Unless you agreed to go halves when you asked her on this date, then step up to the plate and pay for the date.

7. Plan ahead if cost could be an issue to make sure everything's easily affordable for you. There are nice restaurants that are more affordable than the fanciest ones in town. But avoid going super-cheap.

8. Some black men make the mistake when on a date of leaving all the conversational topics to the woman. Be prepared with something to talk about that is fairly neutral. As usual when meeting anyone new avoid topics like politics and religion. Stick to more neutral things like work, travel, movies, hobbies and topics of that nature.

9. Brush up on current events if you're not very knowledgeable about what's going on right now. This is always a good topic of conversation. The last big thing to be on the news is something most people can discuss at length pretty easily.

10. It's okay to admit that you're nervous when on a date. By letting her know you are a little bit nervous you're letting her know that you really like her and you want to make a good impression.

Remember these 10 dating tips for black men next time you're on a date and make it a success!

We all have committed mistakes in our dating lives or our relationships. Some we have lived to regret. Through some research here are the most common regrets of dating people or people in a relationship.

1. Most people regret not settling down with their childhood sweetheart or 1st love at college. They always believe that there will be more fish out there so why settle down? There might be more fish out there but do they actually fit your taste and personality. Compared to that proven fish that you have already established with your childhood sweetheart or 1st college love. Some people who didnt marry their childhood sweetheart will only think that they have settled for 2nd best only. This will be unfair to the other party, because you will always be thinking about that 1st love.

2. Dating people for the very wrong reasons always result in disasters. There might be some that could pull it off but it could be rare. Some people date for reasons of that person being physically attractive, business reasons, business contracts, sex or even just out of sympathy. We instead should date people who we seem to like because of their great personality or that being a match for us. A friend of mine tried to date a Muslim because she was pretty attractive, eventually things didnt work out because of cultural differences. If you know that you are entering a dating situation where things will really not work out, dont waste your time on it. There could be others out there while youre wasting your time on the wrong person.

3. People always regret not taking the offer of the date when the offer was there. People will always ask the what if question. Just imagine all the girls who turned down Bill Gates now. Bottom line give the person a chance, it wont hurt to have a sip of coffee for only 30 minutes. You might even find out you might click.

4. In our current society most 20 something people will put career ahead of their love life. This is not a bad thing though. But once you hit your 30s you will seem to lose something within you. You will become less attractive because of aging signs. Our body clocks will eventually catch up on us. Also most good catches will be fewer. Try to balance out your career and social life. Having a love life doesnt mean you need to get married and sacrifice your career. It might even inspire you to work harder. Its just how you view the situation.

5. Never date a married person. Dating a married person always guarantees disaster. This relationship will always be about deceit, lies and cheating. The unmarried party will also be led to expect something that could or might never happen; which is being in a serious relationship with the married person. It might also bother your conscience that you are destroying the life of the married couple. This relationship or dating period will never ever work out and be fun. It will always be filled with doubt.

6. Stupid regrets here, people leave the person they love. Dont know why. If you love the person why leave him or her? Often reasons for a person leaving his or her partner are due to infidelity. If things do eventually go broke it might be too late to go back. I mean if you love the person why be unfaithful? It might be tempting but its only a test of your relationship. Bottom-line, be faithful.

7. People also regret not ending a really bad relationship earlier. There might have been a time during the bad relationship that there was someone better who wouldve wanted to be with you. But because you were in that bad relationship you passed out on that other wonderful person. So if you think youre just not in the right situation have the courage to end it.

8. Dont be jackass in your relationship. People often regret that they could have been nicer to their partner. It will always haunt you when you treat your partner badly. How could our relationship have ended if I was nicer? Try to be courteous, remembering special dates (no matter how cheesy they are), kind, compromising, getting something special, being spontaneous. Dont be too late to change, because you might regret it.

9. Dont be callous when dumping a person. It definitely hurts and karma has a way of finding you.

 

A recent survey revealed that fifty two percent of men date for intimacy. Men are looking for that someone to get romantically involved with and a potential mate for life.

There are women that a man should avoid dating. Here are signs to watch out for:

1. The overly feminist. This type of woman assumes and believes man is the cause of all the pains and suffering of a society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things the correct way.

Men would not want to spend some time with these types of women, anything that a man will do will always be negative to them. They can never be pleased by a man.

2. The material girl. She is just after the money! These types of women are high maintenance. They not just expect, but often demand that a man should finance all her luxuries in life. To her, the man has the responsibility to pay for dinners, drinks, trips, jewelry, flowers etc. while she absolutely feels compulsion or guilt to reciprocate.

Simply put, she is a prostitute in disguise. She is a greedy person, having no perception of the feelings of others and her only concern is achieving and obtaining things that she wants. Never be fooled; some appear to be really nice at first, until they know that you would do anything for them. Then the asking for material things starts!

3. The hopeless romantic. These women live inside a perfect world of romance in novels, where love and relationships are perfect and her night and shining armor will always come and they will live happily ever after.

She has always been pampered by her and considered a "princess," thus have no idea that what the real life is. She will expect the man to take care of her constantly and that all her wishes be given; if not, she can turn out to be a screaming nag.

4. The angry girl. Similar to the feminist, she actually hates men. They often look down on men accounting a long list of all the injustice and transgressions of every guy that they shared a relationship with. To her, all men are "creeps", "pigs." and jerks. These women have boiling rage at men that can, at any given moment explode.

5. The insecure Miss. They will seem to be very pleasant, loving and accommodating at first, treating men very well. Later, when all her innermost insecurities go up the surface, she can be annoyingly calling the man she is dating at least ten times a day, asking where are you, or that she just missed your voice.

This woman demands frequent and persistent reassurance that you love her and you find her attractive; because of this insecurity, she worries continuously about her hair, make up, clothes etc. She can be clingy, needing constant attention and insistently torments you with her thoughts that you will leave her soon if you find someone better.

6. The abstract or elusive type. She is romantic but with a mysteriously dark side. She has been hurt in past relationships and has not gone over it. These bad experiences drive her to subconsciously stay way from or damage her new relationship.

She will be very frustrating to deal with, as at first, she will show a lot of interest with the man, however runs away very quickly; she will repeat this cycle again and again. She will date and flirt with the man, but will insist that they both remain as friends.

7. The desperate Miss. She is desperate to get married. She does not even choose to know the man; she just wants to trap him and bring him to the nearest altar!

8. The controlling type. She can be very nasty in a very subtle way, but when given the opportunity, will direct each phase of a mans life. She will always have a say as to what the man wears, where must the man go, who should the man talk to, who can a man have as friends, what a man can and can not eat; as in everything! The man can not insist on his own rights or else, there will be no sex, a lot of crying, screaming, pouting and everything just so the man will give in.

To all men, careful!

It's no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.

All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?

Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.

She responds "It is a little old fashioned... and something smells bad in here". Ups! Ok.

You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about... the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: "hey, relax, size really doesn't matter", she tells you that her ex was quite huge.

Ups... Not again. :)

If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now...

The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.

So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you're going to have to learn how to lie - and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.

1. Never mention your sexual past... especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn't all that good. Don't ever mention her. Even if what you're saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she's still on your mind.

2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don't really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don't like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.

3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don't make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window. She will find you insensitive and you will lose points. Use your common sense and try not to hurt your womans feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.

Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.

The little white lies don't hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then

It's therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear.

Have you ever had great success in one venue, maybe house parties, but were unable to succeed with women you met other places, like perhaps Clubs?

Often it is easier for you to be cool and social in one venue than another. This is your `comfort zone`. You know what to say, how to say it, and who to say it too. But outside of that zone, you are toast! This is because we often use certain external techniques and social skills that do not really apply to every venue we might find ourselves in. When you have deep set beliefs that you are a high status male, and that no matter where you are, that you are among the elite males, then all these anxieties and problems fall away.

How? Because your strength and resolves makes other people change THEIR mode of behavior to suit yours. If Bill Clinton walked into a raging rock concert or hip hop concert, this one man, would have everyone in a completely different frame of mind, all begging to appease HIS way of interaction. The people bend to YOU.

Inner Game Positively Influences Your Body Language

  

* Fifty-five percent of the communications signals we send results from how others see us

* Thirty-eight percent flows from the way they hear us

* Seven percent comes from our words

Source: http://www.barkscomm.com/fa_nonverbal.asp

Having solid Inner Game allows your body language to accurately communicate. This is called `congruence`, when your words are matched by your attitude and body language. If you say Super Man things to a woman, but feel like Clark Kent inside, she WILL know, and you will get nowhere with her.

Inner Game Improves Every Aspect Of Your Life, Making You More Attractive

I saved the best for last. Inner Game development need not be limited to confidence and belief setting with women. It can apply to everyone, and life in general. You can rethink previous ideas, like you'll never be able to get into a good college, or you'll never make a good XYZ and then your subconscious will begin helping you to change so that these things can happen. What is best is that being successful in life ( and I don't mean being rich ) will make you doubly attractive to women, and that will raise your confidence even more. It is cyclical.

Conclusion

Not learning proper Inner Game techniques can lead to ALOT of frustration AND embarrassment too using seduction tactics that seem incongruent. Without Inner Game, no amount of "negging", or "cocky funny" will allow you to have lasting success with women.

When approaching women, even before you have said a word or done anything she has already unconsciously put you into one of three categories:

I Like Him

I Don't Like Him

Undecided

Now that you are aware of the three different categories lets go over each ones strengths and weaknesses for you.

Category #1: I like Him: If you happen to look or remind her of someone that she liked, dress in a certain type of way that she finds attractive or anything else that she happens to connect with. Congrats you have a heads up on everyone and when it comes to taking it to the next level its all On You. This is a great thing and if you fall in the Average Guy category expect this to happen with around 10 percent of the women that you meet who are available.

Category #2: I Don't Like Him: You ever meet someone and for no apparent or real good reason you don't like them?

Guess what women are the same way and for good measure most women throw unconfident men and a whole slew of petty reasons in there as well. If you fall in this category and at least 10 percent of the time you will if your just an average guy, unless you have some unknown outside factor to enhance you (hot ex still after you, famous, rich, etc.); there is nothing you can say or do that is going to get this woman to change her mind and be attracted to you.

Category #3: Undecided: The majority of the times about 80 percent is you are an average guy you are going to fall in this Category which if you have done your studying and reading on seduction and how to attract women is a perfect place to be. Because as long as you are in the Undecided category you can work on creating the desire and attraction in a woman that you want. This is very good news for you my friend.

Of course the time is now for you to get your life in order so that when you walk up to a woman that you find to be a potential partner and she is thinking to herself maybe or maybe not over the course of a cup of coffee or tea you can turn that maybe into a yeas and increase your success with women tremendously.

Dating Exclusively Is It For You

Dating exclusively means that two people in a relationship do not spend time with other members of the opposite sex as anything more than friends. You are able to explain what you were doing when you are away from your mate without having done anything wrong or deceiving them. Your partner can unexpectedly stop by your home and you will welcome them with open arms.

You are always looking for ways and reasons to spend time with that special person in your life. You enjoy having your free time spent with them. Two people in an exclusive relationship communicate with each other and they know nearly everything that is going on in each others lives.

Exclusive dating is a very serious thing. It should not be taken lightly. Several things are important when making a decision to enter into an exclusive dating relationship with another person. There has to be an attraction between both people. Most often the couple has dated for months and love spending time together and being with each other. The couple has dated other people and they have both decided that they want to be with each other and not with anyone else. They want to potentially spend the rest of their lives together.

A decision to not date exclusively can have potentially negative effects. One partner in the relationship could be spending time with other single people that may not realize that there is a serious relationship between two people. These single people could end up trying to take your partner away from you and trying to start a relationship with them themselves. You will soon find yourself spending more and more time alone and you will not have that commitment and companionship as they move farther away from you.

It is essential to make sure that you spend time getting to know someone. Spend a great deal of time with a person that you are interested in. find out all that you can about them and do it in different situations. People often act differently when they are with their friends than when they are with their family or people that they work with. People that change and have different personalities based on the people that they are around often bring problems with them. This is a potentially destructible behavior and can ruin any kind of relationship that they have.

Exclusive dating is an informal commitment that is made in a relationship. This does not mean that there will be marriage or that they have even discussed the possibility of marriage. Simply put, it means that they have decided not to date other people and to only date one person. This is a joint decision that is made and is an agreement that they will get to know each other better through only dating each other and not others.

Exclusive dating brings about major changes in your life. You have someone that you answer to about your life. If you do not want to answer to someone about your life and what you do, then you do not want to be in an exclusive dating relationship. You will give up some of your independence that you have when you are single. This can be a very good thing if you are ready for the commitment and what is involved. You must be prepared for these changes.

Dating Etiquette

When you go on a date there are certain things and ways you should behave. Of course you want the person to get to know you so you shouldnt try and be someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you should look and dress nice. This will show the other person you care about your appearance but you also care about what they think about you. If you don't care about what the other person thinks then you probably shouldn't be going out on a date with them.

Depending on the person you are taking out you should also remember to open the car doors and all doors for your date.

If the woman you are going out with is a feminist, then let her open the doors and do things for herself or it will bother her. She also will want to pay for her own meal.

If you are not going on a date with an independent woman who is a feminist then you should open the

doors, be on time when you pick her up, and be prepared to pay for the entire date.

Dont take your date somewhere you cannot afford and never find yourself asking your date for money to cover the bill.

Dating etiquette also includes not making the other person feel as if they are on an interview. It is

common for people on a date to ask many questions and they just want to get to know the other person.

However, dont make them feel as if they are on an interview or you might scare them off. Be sure to

create a comfortable atmosphere.

Many people have a difficult time getting back into the dating world after they have been divorced. There is a period of grieving and healing that has to take place. The length of this period is different for each individual person. There is no set amount of time for getting over a divorce. Each situation and each individual are completely unique.

People that have been married for a very long period of time often have the hardest time reentering the dating world. They have gotten so used to being with their spouse and they have not been on a date in so long. Often, they have forgotten what is involved in dating.

Another thing that is working against them is the fact that times are always changing. There are new forms of dating, people are always changing, and improvements are made to everything. Society forces us to change and adapt. If you have been married for a long time, you will not be aware of the changes that have been made. You are at a loss going into the dating field.

People that are younger and that have not been married for a long period of time will often find it easier to reenter the dating world. They have not been off the market for as long. They are still pretty fresh.

They know what is involved in dating and what the aspects are. Younger people are much more likely to successfully date after a divorce due to these factors. However, young people that get married are also much more likely to get divorced. This creates a vicious cycle. It also changes the dynamics of the dating world.

If you have a large group of young or middle age people that are all together, chances are the majority of them will have been divorced. Sometimes, people in this situation will have self esteem issues. They are afraid to get back into the dating scene.

The fact that the majority of young people are divorced makes it easier in some ways for them to start dating again. They are surrounded by peers that have been through the same things that they are going through. Both people are dealing with insecurities, fears, and uncertainties. They tend to click more and enjoy spending time together.

The one thing that divorcees should be careful of when they are reentering the dating world is the fact that they are on the rebound. Some people like to take advantage of this fact.

They think that they can get what they want or can manipulate the person that is recovering from the divorce. At the same time, some people that have been divorced will be looking for someone to fill the void in their life. This is not appropriate and can ruin the chance for a successful relationship. They give false hopes to other people and end up hurting themselves and the other person.

If you are divorced and looking to get back into the dating world, you need to use caution. It is very possible to have a successful relationship after a divorce. You just need to use proper planning and know what you are wanting. Give yourself time to grieve your loss and get over the feelings that you have towards your ex. This will allow you to start dating with a clean slate and a clear frame of mind.

Dating Advice For Short Men The Dos And Donts

Dating can be fun and invigorating or it can be frustrating and intimidating for anyone, men and women alike. And many people start to focus on the parts of themselves that they like the least when they start dating. While your "defects" may not even come into your date's mind, they may definitely be on yours.

If you happen to be a little shorter than the average guy, you may feel that you've already got one strike against you. You shouldn't feel like that and this dating advice for short men will explain why.

A lot of short men feel that they can't compete for a woman's attention if they're standing next to a tall guy. Believe it or not, this is definitely not true. The reality is that some women are attracted to tall men and some women are attracted to short men.

And a good rule to follow is this: what you are lacking in height, you can make up for in other qualities. For example, Women love confidence in men. But don't overdo it or confuse confidence with arrogance. Just don't make your height an issue and the women you date won't make it an issue either.

Here is one of the best pieces of dating advice for short men. We all know that many women love a good sense of humor. So be funny. This is one of the best dating tips for short guys. If you feel comfortable with it, you can even include your height in your jokes. Again, don't focus only on that.

If you do, your date will soon realize that this so-called joke is really an issue in disguise. But if you can make your date laugh without being self-deprecating, she will surely be impressed. A word of caution, this doesn't mean you need to bring up one slapstick joke after the other. Use subtle humor to your advantage in normal conversation.

And here's one of the most common mistakes that short men make when it comes to dating. They don't even try. You shouldn't ever allow your height to get in the way of meeting a woman you find attractive by immediately assuming that she only likes tall men. If you put some of these above tips into action, you'll soon realize that women don't even notice your height because they are bowled over by your charm.

And finally, when you do approach a woman, get out of your own head and away from your insecurities and focus on what she is saying. Nothing turns a woman on more than if you are interested in her. Ask her questions about herself and listen to her answers. You don't want to go overboard on this and just rattle off question after question either. Just show her that you are genuinely interested.

Remember, how you feel about yourself has a direct influence on how others feel about you. You have the power to control how women fell about you so don't leave it to wishes and chance. Take action with the above pieces of dating advice for short men.

Dating Advice For Men From The Biological Standpoint

Are you one of the millions of men who wonders what makes women tick? Why do some men have all the luck with women and others can't even seem to get a date? Here's some dating advice for men from a biological point of view.

As you've probably already figured out, women do not think like men. So don't make your decisions based on what you would say, think or act like. And the first thing you need to do is focus more on how women show what they want instead of what they say what they want.

Some women are consistent what they say and what they show. But many times, this isn't the case. A woman may say that she wants someone who listens to her. But the guy she decides to date is someone who is always talking. She says the most important quality in a man is his sense of humor. But she chooses a really good looking bore.

Why does this contradiction take place? In their defense, women don't do this consciously. It happens because what the women thinks she wants and what she biologically needs may be two different things. Biologically, women are wired to have children. And their natural instincts are to choose the best provider for themselves and their children. This doesn't necessarily mean he will be a good listener or have a great sense of humor.

Again, take this dating advice for men from the biological point of view. . .women are looking for men who will be good providers in both the short and long term. They see this quality in healthy, strong, confident men.

Another point they will focus on (even if they don't tell you this, and even if they tell you otherwise) is your job. Once again, it's all about being a good provider. The better job or the more career goals you have, the better you look in her eyes.

And it's not just about the money. Women want to see that their men know how to manage their money in a way that it is beneficial to the whole family. This is one reason that many women really place a high value on expensive gifts. Take jewelry for example. When you give a woman a piece of jewelry, you are showing her in a roundabout sort of way that you can provide for in the future.

Nowadays most people make livings by using their brains and not their brawn. But women are still wired to perceive strength as equal to the ability to provide.

So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary point of view and give it to her.

Hopefully this dating advice for men from a biological viewpoint helps you get an idea of what women are really looking for, whether they know it or not!

Broken Relationship Help - Saving Your Relationship With 3 Easy Steps

It seems like in todays society relationships go from one extreme to another. Either no one bothers to work on their relationship and they let it just slip away, or they become obsessive and sometimes dangerous. Finding broken relationship help is easy. Following it, not so much.

Before you start trying to put your relationship back together this would be a good time to really, and honestly, decide if the relationship should really be saved. Let's face it, not all relationships should continue.

If you decide after careful soul searching that your relationship is worth saving than you can use the following 3 steps to help fix your love life and get your relationship back on track:

1) Be honest. Be brutally honest with yourself. This is the hardest thing you will do. It's not easy to admit to yourself that you were wrong. Whether you were wrong about the way you handled things in your relationship or you were wrong about the value of the relationship itself you have to take stock before you can move forward.

Once you've honestly evaluated your relationship and your part in the deterioration of it you can decide if you are ready and willing to make the changes needed to make the relationship work. Again, this is the time for brutal honesty. If you really don't think you care enough to work on fixing the problems, both yours personally and the relationship problems in general, than its' time to cut your losses and move on.

2) Talk. Honest communication seems to be so difficult for a lot of people today. That is one of the most important skills you can learn if you want to have a loving relationship. Remember though, it takes two. Even if you are capable of having an honest, open, and adult conversation, if your partner isn't than there is nothing you can do.

3) Be ready to sincerely apologize for your mistakes and your part in the deterioration of the relationship. The two of you have to be able to work together and that means accepting responsibility for your mistakes. If you or your partner is unable or unwilling to admit fault and apologize than the hurts and resentments will continue to mount and it will be very difficult to save your relationship.

By dedicating yourself to following this broken relationship help with your partner you have a very good chance of having the type of honest, respectful and loving relationship you really want. Just be sure that its' what your partner wants too.

Breaking up and getting back together, can it work? That is a question that a lot of people ask. It's not uncommon to break up with someone and later regret the breakup and try to reconcile. The question is, will it work? The answer is, it depends...

It depends on many factors. Below is a list of some things you have to honestly consider before you get back together with your ex:

1) Why did you break up in the first place? If you broke up because of major differences in your outlooks and personalities and found that you were constantly clashing then getting back together would be a bad idea.

Neither of you will be able to completely change your personality. Nor should you. If you are just not compatible that won't change. It's time to move on and find someone you are more in sync with.

2) If the reason you broke up was fairly minor daily hassles you have to decide if either of you are willing, and able, to honestly discuss it and make the changes necessary to make the relationship work. If you think that the two of you are mature enough to have an honest discussion of the problems and work on fixing them then you might be able to make it work this time around.

3) Was there infidelity or abuse? For the most part, if either of these things were present you're probably better off finding someone new. Most people don't really change to a significant degree. If you or your ex is a cheater that pattern will more than likely continue unless extensive therapy is undertaken.

If abuse is the problem no one should be given a second chance to hit or hurt you again. Leave, and don't look back. Hopefully your ex will get help and be able to overcome the problem but that type of treatment isn't always successful and could take years, it's time for you to move on for good.

Breaking up and getting back together, for the most part, can only be accomplished if you and your ex can be totally honest with yourself and each other. It's not impossible to make changes but it can be challenging and unless both parties are in agreement and are committed to making the positive changes needed to make the relationship work it's probably better to call it quits and move on.