Forget knitting, crochet or golf. Senior Citizens Dating is booming as many of us reach retirement and realise that the golden years are ideal for sharing.

The family is raised - well yes I know they are probably still your babies and may even be living at home (when will they move out?) but in fairness once they hit 30 your job is done. The career ladder has been climbed, the retirement check has been cashed, but you are not yet ready for a life of rocking chairs and bingo.

Dating at any age can be nerve racking. Now we are older, we have, hopefully!, accepted that we aren't Grace Kelly or Rock Hudson. We are generally happy with our appearance although we would make an effort when going on a date. We have achieved most of what we want out of life so are not looking to another person to provide us with a family or stability. Just someone to share precious moments.

But while we may be happy with our lives and feel confident in most areas, it is very rare not to feel nervous when you first contact a senior citizen dating service. What type of service would you prefer to use? You can access senior online dating services, a senior dating group or the personals in your local paper should have a section for seniors.

So how do you prepare for your first senior date? Well to all intents and purposes it is almost like an interview. You need to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses. Some dating companies will ask you to complete a questionnaire detailing these.

It can be difficult to write a paragraph describing yourself in the best possible light but your best friends could help a lot. Just ask them to give you a list of your best qualities and to put your less attractive personality traits in the most positive language possible. For example, if you have a tendency to talk incessantly - a common complaint among us women, your best friend is not likely to describe you as having verbal diarrhea. Instead they may say you are exuberant or enthusiastic.

I am not suggesting you lie. It is a waste of time although very common. Have you ever looked at the personal ads? Almost every person describes themselves as having a GSOH i.e. a great sense of humour. Only say that if it is true. Your perfect match may not want someone who cracks jokes every five minutes. Be yourself, don't try to be someone else.

Also think about the qualities that you would like your partner to have. Would they be married, divorced, single or widowed? Does their religious or cultural background matter to you? What about their financial status?

Going dating is rather like going shopping. You hope that you will find the perfect match but you should be willing to enjoy the experience regardless. I think we should look, at senior citizens, dating as a way to grab whatever opportunities we have to enjoy our lives as much as possible.

Forget knitting, crochet or golf. Senior Citizens Dating is booming as many of us reach retirement and realize that the golden years are ideal for sharing.

The family is raised - well yes I know they are probably still your babies and may even be living at home (when will they move out?) but in fairness once they hit 30 your job is done. The career ladder has been climbed, the retirement check has been cashed, but you are not yet ready for a life of rocking chairs and bingo.

Dating at any age can be nerve racking. Now we are older, we have, hopefully!, accepted that we aren't Grace Kelly or Rock Hudson. We are generally happy with our appearance although we would make an effort when going on a date. We have achieved most of what we want out of life so are not looking to another person to provide us with a family or stability. Just someone to share precious moments.

But while we may be happy with our lives and feel confident in most areas, it is very rare not to feel nervous when you first contact a senior citizen dating service. What type of service would you prefer to use? You can access senior online dating services, a senior dating group or the personals in your local paper should have a section for seniors.

So how do you prepare for your first senior date? Well to all intents and purposes it is almost like an interview. You need to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses. Some dating companies will ask you to complete a questionnaire detailing these.

It can be difficult to write a paragraph describing yourself in the best possible light but your best friends could help a lot. Just ask them to give you a list of your best qualities and to put your less attractive personality traits in the most positive language possible. For example, if you have a tendency to talk incessantly - a common complaint among us women, your best friend is not likely to describe you as having verbal diarrhea. Instead they may say you are exuberant or enthusiastic.

I am not suggesting you lie. It is a waste of time although very common. Have you ever looked at the personal ads? Almost every person describes themselves as having a GSOH i.e. a great sense of humour. Only say that if it is true. Your perfect match may not want someone who cracks jokes every five minutes. Be yourself, don't try to be someone else.

Also think about the qualities that you would like your partner to have. Would they be married, divorced, single or widowed? Does their religious or cultural background matter to you? What about their financial status?

Going dating is rather like going shopping. You hope that you will find the perfect match but you should be willing to enjoy the experience regardless. I think we should look, at senior citizens, dating as a way to grab whatever opportunities we have to enjoy our lives as much as possible.

Senior citizen dating is far more common today than it once was. When marriages lasted for life, there was less need for older people to go out on dates. There has also always been some sense of taboo about older people needing companionship and romance in the later years of their life. But, as boomers age and their marriages fall apart, these taboos are falling away as well.

Going out on a first date is daunting no matter what your age is. At 16, there is anxiety and awkwardness. At 30, there may be a sense of desperation to find and land a mate. But at 50, there are another set of issues.

For one thing, many people in this age group have not been on a date in a long time. They feel out of practice. This article will give you some tips on how to approach a first date for senior citizen dating.

First of all, plan where you are going to go carefully. Remember, you do not have to commit to a full evening of events such as dinner and a movie. In fact, meeting for lunch or coffee may actually relieve some of the tension and first date jitters.

If you have a shared interest, it can be a good idea to plan a date around that. For instance, art lovers may enjoy a stroll around an art gallery or museum. You will find you have more to talk about when you have something in common.

Many people are not comfortable meeting someone alone on a first date. Lets face it, there are a lot of psychos out there. A senior citizen dating someone for the first time should consider meeting in a public place and arriving separately. That way, if things just are not right, either one can choose to end the date quickly. As an extra precaution, always let a friend or family member know where you are going and who you are going with.

It can be hard to meet new people for senior citizens. They have busy lives and have been involved with the same organizations for a long time. Sometimes meeting new people means breaking out of the mold and doing something new. This can include joining new organizations or taking up a new hobby.

Another option for senior citizen dating is to go onto one of the dating sites for mature people. These sites specialize in creating matches among the older set. They work the same way as dating sites for the general population, but are marketed to the 50 plus crowd.

Love and romance does not have to end as people age. Senior citizen dating is alive and well and we should all give a cheer for it.

Anyone that finds themselves in the dating scene will soon find that there is a specific order of people involved in that scene. This is often considered a pecking order. The process of establishing a pecking order results in clear definitions of who is the top and who is the bottom in situations that occur. For instance, a situation where one person takes control and the other follows that leader would be an example of pecking order. The top is the person that takes control and the bottom follows the leader.

A main component of pecking order revolves around a persons level of self confidence. Followers most often do not have very much confidence within themselves. Those willing to take control and lead are confident in themselves. They know what they want. They have direction and focus in their lives.

Self confidence is a huge factor in a successful relationship. You need to be confident if you plan on having a meaningful relationship. Confidence is something that is conveyed very clearly to other people. If you are confident in yourself this will radiate from you. You are much more likely to attract a potential mate if you are positive. You are also much more likely to start a conversation with other people and to be open to all of the new opportunities that can potentially present themselves.

At the same time, the bottom people in a relationship have their place also. It is not a bad thing to be a bottom or person that is more reserved. These people are also important within the relationship. Even in a relationship where both people are more confident and sure of themselves, one person is going to end up being the top and more in control of the relationship.

This is a fact of life. It is the way that humans are programmed and how we are meant to react. It is not a reaction that we have any control over. However, we can control which side of the pecking order we are found in. You can work to make yourself more confident and self assured.

In dong this, you will be changing the way that you react to situations and different aspects of life. You will also come across more positively to everyone that you come in contact with. In being more positive you are much more likely to have better, more meaningful relationships that can last for a long time to come.

The first thing that you need to do when making decisions about entering into a relationship is to figure out where your place is within the pecking order. If you are a leader, use that to your advantage. If you are a follower, seek out a leader that you are compatible with.

Two people that are compatible have the best chance of their relationship working out. If you are both the same within the pecking order, there will be conflict and constant struggling between you.

People say that the only perfect relationships that exist are those between a blind woman and a deaf man. He can't hear her nagging and she can't see all the mess he creates on those odd occasions when he tries to complete one simple domestic chore.

Seriously what do you need for a great partnership? If you ask any old couple who have been together for decades, they will tell you honesty, respect, trust and a healthy dose of sexual attraction. The lust does wear off after the first heady couple of years but it should be replaced by a mutual fascination strong enough to ward off all temptation.

Honesty is important between couples. Even simple things such as always doing what you say you will pay off huge dividends. No relationship is without its ups and downs but if you know your partner always means what he says, it helps to trust him when things do get tough.

Trust doesn't just mean that you feel secure when he is with other women. It also means that you know he will be there for you. That he believes in you and your abilities as a person, a mother or whatever role you fill in life. And it goes both ways, you have to believe in him too.

Mutual respect is also very important. Life is difficult and there are enough people out there who will put you down without your partner doing it too. If you do have disagreements, keep it private. It is pointless and disrespectful to share the intimate details of your row with the whole world. When you have forgotten about it someone else is bound to remember and remind you!

Sometimes things can get a little stale in the bedroom. Life gets in the way either through having kids or stressful jobs, or financial problems. While you will not be making love as often as you did when you first met, if it has been a while you need to address it. There is a secret bond that keeps couples together and that only comes about by being intimate. It is not all about sex though. Gentle touching, a lingering hug, just holding hands and a wispered "I love you" are just as important, if not more important.

To have a deeply loving relationship you need to trust the other person with your heart. You must be able to tell them your innermost secrets and desires. Sharing special moments will help to deepen the bond that exists between you.

It is often difficult to remember to put your relationship as a priority but unless you nurture it, it may fade and die. Yes it may take some juggling but try and arrange a night just for the two of you to enjoy. Ban all talk of your relatives, the kids, your finances and aim to concentrate on each other. It doesn't need to end up in the bedroom; well not always!

Sharing good times will help you through the dark days that hit every couple even those in perfect relationships.

Don't hold out for perfect relationships because you'll only be disappointed. So many people sabotage their chances at love because they place their loved one and/or their relationship on a pedestal.

Until you change your definition of what perfect is you are doomed to failure again and again. You will also cause yourself and anyone you enter into a relationship with, a lot of pain.

No one is perfect, but someone can be perfect for you. There is a difference. The sooner you can make that distinction the sooner you'll have a real shot at having a great, loving relationship.

To get a better idea of what someone who is perfect for you would like, I've compiled a list of some of the most commonly desired traits in a partner. Of course your ideas could be different but these traits are fairly common and they provide a good place to start in examining what you consider perfect.

1.Understanding:

People are comfortable with someone who 'gets' them. If you sing in the shower, like weird food combination's, or just like to act goofy sometimes, you'll want a partner who can play along with you.

Everyone has their own little quirks and your perfect partner will, at the minimum, accept those quirks without making fun of you and at best will have the same or similar quirks. You won't want someone who will roll their eyes or ridicule you whenever you do these things. They should love you, and accept you, just as you are.

2. Good self esteem:

One of the biggest problems I see in relationships is when one party is insecure. This insecurity is often hidden and it can come across as many other things. Very often someone who is overly sexual or overly aggressive is actually just trying to compensate for and cover up a very strong sense of insecurity.

As you get to know someone keep a close eye out for their actions, this will tell you a lot. For example, how do they react when something embarrassing happens? Do they get angry, defensive? Do they lash out at you, this should be a huge, huge, red flag. Or do they laugh and shrug and go along with it good naturedly. If they do the latter it probably means that they are a secure confidant person, and that is a trait you want to look for in a partner.

3. Outlook:

Do they share similar views on things that are important to you? You don't have to agree on everything. It's possible some relationships can thrive even if both parties are very different in many of their views; though it will only work if both parties are mature and secure and don't feel threatened that the other one doesn't agree with them on various issues.

For the most part though, it will work better if you and your potential partner have a common ground on the main issues, your core beliefs. If you value honesty and fidelity, for example, you won't be happy with someone who lies and cheats.

Believe it or not, it's actually pretty easy to find perfect relationships, or at least perfect for you. The problem is that people see what they want to see and not what is really there. I know it can be hard, especially in the beginning, but it's important for the long term health and happiness of the relationship that you take off the blinders and see your partner as they really are, not as you want them to be.

There are a lot of really tall women out there. And there are a lot of not-so-tall men who are attracted by them. But many feel that men dating taller women is an impossibility. Here are some tips for you shorter guys that can prove this wrong.

1. Don't make it an issue. Maybe you've tried approaching taller women before only to be shunned or laughed at. Maybe you've never even tried it out of fear or intimidation. Here's one thing you need to understand. Most tall women are perfectly fine with the fact that they are tall and you should be too. If you feel intimidated, it's because you are creating that feeling yourself. Most tall women are not going to purposefully try to intimidate anyone. Their height is not something they will use against you. Like any women, tall women care about what kind of guy you are. Not how tall (or short) you are.

2. Whatever you do. . .do NOT use the cheesy tall-women joke lines. Do you think that tall women have never heard them? that you are the first to show your "witty" self"? Do you want to make an impression? Don't even bring up the issue of height in any way, shape or form - hers or yours. Talk about something, anything, else.

3. Sadly, this seems to be one of the harder tasks for men dating taller women. Tall women want to be cuddled too. Hold their hand, put your arms around them. Wine and dine them. Maybe because of their height, they appear to strong to need this kind of attention. But they do. Show them that you love them for their height without making an issue out of it.

4. Ditch the sexual anxiety that you won't measure up in the bedroom. When it comes to sex, everyone is the same height.

5. This is a pretty obvious one but it's easy to do and makes a difference. Stop slouching and always practice good posture. Standing up straight not only makes you look taller, it actually makes you act and feel more confident. Always stand up straight with your shoulders squared. Make the most of your physical frame.

6. When in doubt, look at the stars. All of these famous on-the-short-side guys are dating (or married to) taller women: Michael J. Fox, Martin Sheen, Al Pacino, Tom Cruise, Emilio Estevez, Dustin Hoffman, and Prince, just to name a few.

7. Stop worrying about what other people think. If you happen to be one of those men dating taller women, do you know what other guys are thinking when they see the two of you together? They're thinking. . ."he must be filthy rich" or they are thinking. . ."he must be great in the sack". Not bad, huh?

Men and dating games seem to go hand in hand. Does this sound familiar. . .Mary and John met at a friends party. There was an immediate attraction and they spent most of the evening talking. John asked Mary for her number at the end of the night and she expected him to call the next day as he had said he would. He did call her. But it was three days later. Why is explained below along with some other games that men play.

1) Men have a 3 day rule. The guys will charm the woman upon their first acquaintance. He'll take her number and may even kiss her passionately good bye. But they don't call until 3 days later. Why? Because this takes the woman down a notch. By the third day, she's already at the point of giving up. She's asking herself why he isn't calling and what she did wrong. Then, he calls with the excuse that he's been really busy. Most women already know about the three day rule, but it works anyway.

2) Men and dating games aren't always recognized easily, especially in this example. Women generally assume that men have a hard time commiting to relationships and men take advantage of this stereotype. They use the excuse of "I'm getting over a serious relationship", "I've been scarred from my parent's divorce", "my last girlfriend cheated on me", among others.

But they are just excuses. While these events may actually be true, they aren't the reasons that a guy won't commit. He will use these lines to keep you attached without him having to be too attached. If this doesn't bother you, then there's no reason to worry. If it does, consider just letting him get over this phase while you date someone else with fewer issues.

3) You've met them. The guys that act as if they are God's gift to women. They behave as if they are doing you a favor by dating you. This isn't really a game. This type of guy probably really does believe this - but you shouldn't! If you're really into a guy like this, be careful. He can really get into your head and change your image of himself and even yourself. But if you're just looking for a little fun, this type of guy is probably the one to give it to you. Just turn the tables and take advantage of what he has to offer for a few days or however long you're interested.

Men and dating games are relatively new in comparison to women and dating games. It's pretty much understood that women are the manipulative ones when it comes to relationships. So hold no grudges - they're just trying to get in on the fun! Now that you are aware of some of their tricks, you can enjoy it too.

Mature women dating them is some guys fantasies. Mature women are more likely to be secure in their sexuality and their finances. They are not looking to settle down and have a new family. Instead, for mature women, dating is a social adventure and meant for fun.

If you are interested in dating mature women, there are some things you need to keep in mind.

First, mature women care about the way a man looks. If a man is younger than her, she will expect him to dress

Second, mature women will be more confident in the bedroom. Their years of experience will have taught them what they want and how to get it. Still, they will be more self-conscious about how they look and may feel that their bodies are betraying them as they age.

Third, realize that the mature woman that you are dating is not likely to either want to or be able to start a new family. She is going to want to enjoy her grandchildren. If you are thinking about fathering children of your own, dont pursue mature women. Dating is fun for these women. Any commitment will mean that your family will be the two of you.

So, if you take these factors into account, where will you find mature women to date? They wont be at the trendiest clubs. In fact, you are more likely to find an older lady improving herself than in a singles hang out. Here are some suggestions as to where ladies of a certain age can be found.

Courses local universities often offer classes through extension. Often, these are in subjects such as art and writing. Women flock to these classes as a hobby.

Public speaking clubs Being able to make a public presentation is very useful in moving up the career ladder. Yet giving a speech is one of the most terrifying things for many people. As a result, clubs like Toastmasters International allow people to practice their skills in a supportive forum. Many career women are members of Toastmasters in an effort to improve their career prospects.

Dance clubs and classes There are far more women who are interested in social dancing such as Salsa, Tango, and Ballroom dancing. As a result, they are always eager to find male partners. If you are interested in dancing, you are sure to have your pick of mature women for dating.

Social clubs for singles Women who are on the look out for men will often gather in social clubs such as Pros in the City, a Washington, D.C. club which features social activities. While they have some activities targeted at singles in specific age groups, many of their activities, which range from group outings to sporting events and the theater to private parties at hot clubs and embassies, are open to everyone.

Everywhere Really, mature women are everywhere! The next time you see an attractive older woman, just go up to her and strike up a conversation. If she is single and interested, you will be surprised at how quickly things move.

For mature women, dating may be more difficult than it was when they were younger. If you position yourself in places where older ladies are, you are sure to be able to start dating mature women quickly.

Many people believe in love at first sight. For some people, they may have had experiences with relationships that were based on falling in love when they first met someone. There are differing opinions throughout the world in regards to knowing the person you just met is the one and whether or not it is possible. The problem is that there is no direct research or information available to prove or disprove the theory of falling in love instantly. Therefore, it is more of an individual belief and is based on how each person perceives things.

Emotional attachment at first sighting is when you have a very strong, immediate connection to someone as soon as you see them. There does not have to be a single word uttered. You see this person and there is an immediate need to be with them. These feelings do not go away. If you are truly meant to be with someone, there is really no way to get rid of the feelings associated with that.

Although it is called love at first sight, there are some instances where the feelings involved do not actually include love. There will always be some sort of very strong emotional bond however. Whether it is love, longing, or just sexual energy, something is going to exist between you and the other person. This can all be termed love at first sight. It can also be the doorway to a happy, lasting relationship.

There are more and more people that say that their relationships were based on love at first sight. For example, look at the commercials that eHarmony has all over the television right now. These people say that they knew right away that the person they met was the one that they were meant to be with.

Some of these couples have been together for years now and are still very happy in their relationships and committed to each other. The interesting thing about these people is that they initially had first sight through photos of each other on the internet. Many people see this as a very strong testimonial to the fact that love at first sight does indeed exist and is a very strong power.

Emotional bonding when meeting someone can happen anywhere, at any time. You could be walking down the street and see someone that you are immediately emotionally charged about. Perhaps, you are at work and a co-worker, customer, or salesperson walks by. Or, maybe you are browsing profiles on an online dating site. All of these scenarios have the potential for bonding strongly with the special one. There are no set rules about where or how the connection can occur. It is very open and very broad. This is in reality what increases skepticism about the realness of love at first sight.

There have been many books and educational materials published on the topic of love at first sight. While none of these people are experts, they all have their own knowledge to offer. Some of the writers and people, which discuss this topic are people that claim to have had first hand experience with relationships that were based on love at first sight.

Long Distance Relationships

There is a lot of controversy and different opinions regarding long distance relationships. Many people will tell you that they can never work. Then, there are people who are involved in long distance relationships that will tell you that they are the best relationships they have ever been in. They would not change where they are at for anything in the world. Long distance relationships are essentially the same as any other relationship. They require the same things from both partners. So, what makes them work or fail?

The most important thing in any kind of relationship is trust and communication. If you are not able to talk to the person that you are spending time with, then you have nothing. If you cannot both completely trust each other, you will never have a meaningful relationship or make it work. In a long distance relationship, communication and trust are much more paramount. You have to rely on what your partner is saying. You are not there to know exactly what is going on. The same is true for your partner. You could be telling them one thing and doing something completely different. For many long distance couples, the internet plays a huge role in their relationship.

With instant messaging programs, webcams, microphones, and email, partners are able to communicate with each other in many different ways. The internet is often much cheaper than long distance phone calls. Plus with the use of a webcam, you can actually see the person that you are talking with. You know what they are doing and you know what is going on. It makes it much more personal. Now, if you want a very real experience, get on your webcams together and then call each other on the phone. This makes it seem as if you are actually right there together.

Long distance relationships require spending a lot of time together. You need to know that your partner is there for you. You are not together and cannot spend intimate time together. You have to rely on the time that you get together. This time that you are investing in each other helps to build a bond and strengthen your relationship. It makes it much more real and special. You both become closer and have a stronger desire for each other.

Long distance relationships have great potential in most circumstances. They can work and can lead to a lifetime of happiness. This does take time and it may be something that you both have to work hard to reach.

Perhaps right now, you are both at a point where you cannot leave your jobs, your homes, or anything else that is keeping you where you live. So, you live on the belief that someday that is going to change and that you will be together in real life. This does happen for people and it can turn into the best relationship that you have ever had in your life. It is all a matter of how much time you put into it and how patient and how able you are to wait for the right time to be together.

Some people have spent years in a long distance relationship before they have ever met their partner. Others are in a relationship for a few months and then they meet each other. They are not able to stay together at this point, but that short time that they have together means a great deal too both people.

 

When you have just been dumped by someone you love, writing poetry is a good way to express your feelings. Heres how to write a heartbroken poem.

Many of the great poems throughout human history have been on the topic of heartbreak. Some of these include Never Try to Trick Me With a Kiss by Sylvia Plath, My Letters! All Dead. Paper, Mute, and White, by Elizabeth Barrett Browning, and Speak! by William Woodsworth.

A poem is simply the outpouring of your soul set to form. The form of a poem is important because it gives structure to your thoughts.

Poetry used to be far more stylized than it is today. For instance, the Sonnet, which was popular in William Shakespeares day, has very rigid rules including exactly 14 lines and a formal a-b-a-b rhyme structure and end in a couplet.

Other strictly controlled poetry includes the Japanese Haiku (one line with five syllables, the next with seven syllables, and a final line with five syllables) and the limerick (which usually isnt appropriate as a heartbroken poem!)

Modern poetry tends toward free verse. Free verse can have rhymed or unrhymed lines and no metrical pattern. What sets free verse apart from prose is that the poems have complex patterns of one sort or another that readers or listeners will perceive to be part of a coherent whole.

While some people can just start writing a heartbroken poem and produce something that captures their feelings, other people need to go through a process. If you are one of the latter, consider this:

1. State your purpose if your purpose is to wash that guy (or girl) right out of your hair youve got your purpose.

2. Decide on the form of the poem.

3. Write down your thoughts so that you can organize them in poetical form.

4. Use descriptive images to express your feelings. Unhappiness, despair, or grief are all abstract concepts. Bring them to life by using concrete similes or metaphors.

5. Use poetic devises to make your poem more poem like. These can include rhyme, meter assonance, alliteration, and repetition.

6. Put your most powerful statement at the end of your poem.

7. Edit the poem when you finish it. Most great poems are not written in one draft. Get feedback from your friends on how to make it better.

When you are writing your heartbreak poem, you might want to consider listening to music to set the mood. If you had a couples song or other music that you associate with the relationship, that might help set the stage for writing the poem.

Put the element of surprise into your heartbreak poem. Perhaps end the poem with a resolution to move on. Not only will this make it a good poem, it may also help you to actually move on.

You have to decide whether to share your poem with others or keep it in a journal for yourself. But, dont toss it out or burn it. The effort you put into a heartbreak poem memorializes your feelings right here and right now. Its an important chapter in your life. Dont throw it away.

Do you want to know how to save a relationship? As time goes by, the flames of a relationship may tamper down. If both of parties do not know how to save a relationship, what was once thriving it will become mere embers.

If you are in a relationship be it a boyfriend and girlfriend type or a marriage - you need to learn how to save a relationship before it becomes irretrievably lost. These tips show you how you can keep the love alive and enjoy each other's company even after several years have already passed.

First of all, you need to rediscover each other. After a long time together, everything in your relationship becomes a routine. You feel you have to do this and that. When you get used to each other, you fail to realize that there are still a number of areas in your lives that you have not truly explored. This is especially true for married couples. The demands of life including the bills that must be paid and even the burden of raising your children may become walls that keep you from enjoying your spouse's company.

If you want to know how to save a relationship, you need to figure out if you have fallen into a routine. Often when the routine becomes too boring, one of the members of the couple tries to recapture their old romantic feelings by starting an affair. If you are thinking about doing this, take a time out. Ask yourself whether potentially losing your relationship is worth experiencing the feeling of being in love again. Think about ways that you can redevelop that feeling with your current husband or wife rather than looking outside the marital bonds.

Some suggestions for rekindling the flames are to:

          Have dates at the old places where you used to go

          Get dressed up and go to a romantic restaurant

          Walk along the beach at sunset

          Have a picnic at the park.

If none of these suggestions work, there is another thing you can do to save your relationship.

You should start to have adventures with each other. Step outside of your relative comfort zones. When you start doing things youve never done before together, the bond between you becomes stronger. You start to lean on each other for support through the adventure and thus you begin to lean on each other in all aspects of life. You begin to see each other in a new light. Youll probably find that youve missed the other person more as a result as well.

If the relationship is worth preserving, you need to be creative about the experiences you share. Turn an ordinary night of watching television into an extraordinary one by breaking out the Champaign. Write sexy messages on the bathroom mirror in lipstick. Write a love letter and place it in a bottle.

Make the ordinary extraordinary and you will spice up the relationship again. In this way you will learn how to save a relationship.

Are you looking for a tall, blonde woman who will appreciate you? Then you want to meet Russian women who are looking for an American guy to love and marry.

Many Russian women are interested in the qualities an American man have to offer. Many Russian women feel that they can not offer a secure future to any children they might have in Russia. They also say that there are not enough men in Russia. Finally, the men who are available in Russia are not gentlemen.

There are 10 million more women in Russia than there are men. Many women who want to get married and have a family are willing to look outside their homeland to find love and fulfillment.

And why wouldnt you want to meet Russian women like this? They are well groomed, stylish, well educated, and sincerely interested in family life. And, what is more, some are drop dead georgeous.

More than half of the Russian women you will meet through an agency speak English. This is because English is a compulsory subject in secondary school starting in 5th grade. Most Russian brides are completely fluent in English within 8 months of moving to their new home country.

Many of the agencies that allow you to meet Russian women also operate tours and programs in other former Soviet Republics such as the Ukraine and Belarus. While the cultures are not identical, the successor states were all under the Soviet yoke for so long that there are more similarities than differences. In fact, you will probably find more differences between two individual Russian women than you will between Russian women and Ukrainian women as a whole.

The Russian women that you meet may indicate that they prefer to live in a big city. This is because they have an instinctual fear of small towns. They associate small towns with the dirty, squalid villages in Russia. If you live in a rural area in the United States, you may have some work cut out for you convincing a Russian woman that you live in a fine place.

In this case, you may want to consider hiring an agency that introduces you to women outside of the major centers such as Moscow or St. Petersburg. You should also let the women know about all of the things your small town has to offer such as cafes, television reception, and internet access. Believe it or not, these women will find it surprising that you have access to such modern conveniences if you live in a small town!

One concern that many American men have is that they will be used as a means to a visa and then the woman of their dreams will dump them when the womans citizenship is secure. If you are an older gentleman, consider looking for a woman who is over 40. Women over the age of 40 rarely have the opportunity to get married in Russia.

You need to understand that Russian women are culturally sensitized to wanting a home and children. Youll meet Russian women who want to be married. These are not women who are just looking for a visa. They are looking for a lifetime partnership. If you have a child with your Russian bride, she will put the needs of the child ahead of her own needs and will sacrifice her own happiness so that the child can have an intact family.

One of the surprising things that you will realize when you meet Russian women is that they arent looking for superman. They simply want a man who is normal. They want someone with an education, a stable job, and the ability to stay sober most of the time.

If you want to meet Russian women, there are many opportunities to do so through internet based dating services.

Getting over a break up is never easy. You can do a hundred different things to try to make it easy, and some of them help. But they never change the fact that getting over a break up hurts, and it can hurt for a very long time.

The worst pain of a relationship break up is usually right at first. Often, we dont see these things coming, so the relationship ending can be something of a shock. Once the shock starts to wear off, the pain and sadness set in.

These feelings are perfectly natural, even though theyre also very unpleasant. None of us want to sit around feeling sad and hurt, but its important that you let yourself be sad and let yourself cry about the ending relationship.

This is important because without really dealing with your emotions its hard to move on and start getting over a break up. If you keep pushing the sadness away and refusing to deal with it, itll stay there waiting for you to finally give in and let it happen. So the longer you put off dealing with your feelings, the longer the whole process takes.

And even if youre denying your feelings, you still do feel sad and upset deep down. By refusing to deal with it, youre forcing yourself to feel bad much longer than necessary. So the first tip is to truly let yourself cry and feel all the negative emotions associated with a break up.

The second tip to help with getting over a break up will be hardest for those who still remain in a little denial about the end of the relationship. If you entertain the hope that youll get your ex back one day, this will be very hard.

But the relationship is over, and by holding out hope that youll get back together you keep yourself from moving forward in your own life. So the best thing to do is to remove all memories of your ex for right now, and completely avoid seeing the person as much as possible.

Maybe the break up was a civil one and you want to stay friends. Thats great! And that makes it more likely that he or she will understand your need to distance yourself for a while. Getting over a break up is hard when youre faced with the person you miss every day or often.

Staying friends is admirable but youre hurting right now. Seeing that person will only remind you of that pain. You can reestablish contact when youre feeling stronger and less likely to pine for the lost relationship every time you see him or her.

If your ex wants to remain friends with you, then he or she should understand your need to take care of yourself for a while, especially if they are the one who ended the relationship. While it hurts to take that final step of avoiding the ex, its really necessary for getting over a break up.

Free Dating Advice For Men Invaluable Tips

If you're a guy looking for free dating advice for men, you're in luck. You can find all kinds of free tips about dating and relationships on the web. This particular article will revolve around the following statistics. Dr. Albert Mehrabian, an expert in nonverbal communication, discovered that nonverbal communication accounts for at least 93 percent of the impact of our communication. Words account for only 7 percent. The 93 percent is made up of pace, pitch and tone of voice (38 percent) and facial expressions (55 percent). It's been proven that body language is VERY important. Understanding that translates into the following tips.

Keep good eye contact with your date. You've probably already heard this one but it is sometimes easier said than done, especially if you are nervous. And remember, the worst sin you can commit on a date is to stare (or even be caught glancing) at your date's chest. Do everything in your power to NOT look at her chest. This will make sure you don't offend her and it may even cause her to wonder why you're not looking and actually lead her to start trying to provoke you to look! When talking to your date, try to maintain eye contact. Don't stare at her constantly but make a conscious effort to look into her eyes (about 70 percent of the time is a good rule of thumb). Try to be natural.

One of the more overlooked pieces of free dating advice for men. . .stand up straight! This communicates that you are strong, confident and healthy.

Remember to smile. A great big honest smile shows your date that you are friendly, fun and, most importantly, comfortable around women. Some people smile more naturally than others. If you don't consider yourself a "smiler", practice smiling a little bit. You'll probably be surprised at home many people smile back.

In certain situations, opening your palms and facing them upwards while you speak can gain your date's trust. This subconsciously tells your date that you are being honest. You can use this to defend yourself against an accusation or simply to make a point about yourself. Remember to smile along with this gesture too.

Avoid fidgeting, running your fingers through your hair, tracing invisible lines in the table or any sort of compulsive gesture that you may do to combat discomfort or nervousness. Try to keep your hands in your lap (if you are sitting) or straight down at your sides (if you are standing). This conveys a sense that you are at ease with yourself and others. And confidence is one major quality that women seek in men.

Don't be afraid of moments of silence in your conversation. Most people try to fill silence as soon as possible. Realize that it's ok. Take a moment to just enjoy the moment.

These are just a few pieces of free dating advice for men. Remember that nonverbal communication is just as, if not more, important than verbal communication. . .especially on a first date!

What makes a great relationship? What are the ingredients for creating a happy, healthy, forever kind of partnership in life? I believe there are four necessities, things you must both provide in order to have a relationship that is as close to perfect as humans can make them.

I call those four necessities Pillars of Perfection, and these four pillars are the basic cornerstones underpinning every great, lasting relationship the world has ever known. What are they?

The First C is Caring: Both parties in a thriving relationship has to care about themselves, yes, but most especially about each other and about the relationship as a third, separate entity.

Why? Because a person will tend to only work on things they truly care about. So the first pillar in a great relationship is caring.

The Second C is Commitment: You must be willing to commit to forever. This means, good or bad, heaven or hell, war and/or peace, you're willing to stand up and fight for what you care about, which is each other.

You must be dedicated to your relationship, to creating a life and lifestyle that suits you both and then doing whatever it takes to maintain it for the rest of your lives together. So commitment is the second pillar in a great relationship.

The Third C is Communication: Communication is our way of getting our own thoughts, hopes, fears, and ideas across to someone else. If we do not communicate, our partners have no way of knowing what we expect, what we want, need, desire, or crave from our relationships.

You must be willing and able to talk, to communicate openly and honestly about your expectations in order to maintain a happy, healthy, long-term relationship.

The Fourth C is Compromise: From the mouth of John Michael Montgomery, from the text of the Bible, and from the lips of just about every person in the world, in some form or the other, come these fateful words: You do have to give if you want to receive.

There is a give and take in any relationship. Problems start when one person does more giving than taking (or more taking than giving). To avoid this, you must be willing to compromise in order to create a harmonic balance in your relationship. That is why the fourth pillar of perfection in great relationships is compromise.

Think your relationship is lacking one or two of these pillars of perfection? There is no time better than now to begin work on constructing those pillars you feel your relationship lacks. Why now? Because tomorrow may be too late, and you would hate to miss out on being able to look back on 50, 60, 70 years or more of contented togetherness, wouldn't you?

I wouldn't be willing to trade that for anything in the world.

So forget about the work involved, and just be happy you are able to put in the time and effort now to ensure your relationship is one that will last, one that can stand the tests of time and endure forever.

Entering into a marriage is a huge commitment. For many people, it is a lifelong commitment. Marriage is a sacred union between two people. They are professing their love for each other and formalizing things with a ceremony. They will share this time with friends and family and they will have everyone that means a lot to them present at the wedding.

Entering into this new part of your life is often a very huge step for people. There can be a lot of anxiety and uncertainty that goes along with the decision to get married. However, there are some things that can help make things go smoothly and help you to make a conscious decision about whether you are ready to marry your partner or not. By answering these five questions, you will get a clear idea of exactly what your relationship is built on and where it has the potential to go in the future.

1. Children - Yes or No?

The first thing to discuss is whether you and your partner have the same thoughts and feelings on children. Do you both want children? Are you both planning on becoming parents at some point in the future? If there is a difference of opinion here, then you need to seriously rethink your relationship. A difference of opinion on children can wreak havoc on a marriage later on. It is not fair to your spouse or to the children that you may have in the future; if they are not wanted.

2. Family Finances:

Your next issue is money and spending habits. Are you and your partner able to have practical conversations regarding your finances and how money is spent? If you have a hard time talking about this prior to getting married, you are going to have a much harder time talking about it after you are married and are sharing all of the financial responsibilities. This can doom a marriage to failure before it ever starts. Plus, the majority of all divorces are caused by financial issues.

3. Marriage Bed:

can you talk openly about sex with your partner? If you are not completely satisfied or see some things that need to be worked on, are you able to tell your partner this? Are you both open to listening and working out any issues that either of you have? If you are not able to have an open sex life with each other and talk about it, there is no way that you are ready to enter into a marriage together. Chances are that if you are already having issues related to your sex life, they are only going to get worse over time.

4. Mother and Father In Law:

You need to know how much the in-laws are going to be in your life. They may be the most wonderful people in the world. Perhaps they are very loving and caring. They may have deep feelings for both you and your partner. However, they cannot run your life. They are not in control of your marriage or your relationship. If there are no boundaries and in-laws are allowed to do as they please, you are both setting yourselves up for disaster.

5. Household Chores:

The last thing that needs to be discussed is chores. Ask your partner if they will clean the toilet. Now, this may sound crazy, but think about it. Do you want to be responsible for doing all of the housework? Do you think it is fair that you be solely responsible for cleaning up messes that both of you make? If your partners answer to this question is, No or isnt that your job? you need to take a long hard look at whether or not you are ready to enter into a marriage with this person or not.

Let's face facts. Finding your senior match can often be more difficult than dating for the first time at high school. Sure at school you were nervous but everyone around you was in the same boat. You were all teenagers and it was exciting and unknown territory.

But when you are trying to find love in later years, it is completely different. Not least because the majority of your peers are either still involved in happy couple land or else they are happily single. There are many different reasons why people look for love in their twilight years. They may have been recently bereaved or divorced or perhaps now for the first time, they have time to spend on dating and romance. Whatever the reason, it may be slightly more difficult but the good news is that it is possible to find romance if you know where to look.

The world of dating has changed in more ways than one. Whereas in the old days, you relied on friends, neighbors and your local dance hall to find dates, now you are limited only by how far you are prepared to look. The internet has broken down global barriers with some people finding new love in foreign lands. It is very socially acceptable to post a personal advert in your local newspaper or you could try joining a dating service.

Check out your local town to find out if they run singles clubs or speed dating nights. You will obviously want to check the age group that these activities are aimed at. You may feel young at heart, but a night with a bunch of teenagers or early twenty year olds is enough to put years on anyone!

If you are shy and retiring, you may prefer to join a singles dinner club. These places arrange nights out at local restaurants and organize groups of people to attend. It is all very casual and there is no pressure on anyone to pair off. It can be a very good way to broaden your social circle.

Don't forget to ask your friends to see if they know anyone who is in a similar situation. You may not be attracted to each other, but you could end up going to these single events together for some moral support.

Also join a few clubs and associations in your area. People meet new partners every day through shared interests so you never know what may happen.

Be open minded and look at every new situation in a positive light. Be safe though. If you are going out to meet someone new, always use a public venue and let your friends know where you are going, if possible who you are meeting and when you will be home. It pays to be safe.

Who knows when Cupids arrow may strike but one thing is certain, if you don't put yourself out onto the social scene, nobody not even Cupid will know you are available.

Good luck finding your senior match.