Compliments are something both men and women desire and enjoy getting. From "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks - just for being you," compliments make us feel good about ourselves ... especially when they come from those we care about the most.

It is kind of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though it is so much more than that.

What is the greatest compliment you could give or receive? Simple.

It is I don't need you.

Now hold on a second. Don't go off thinking I've completely lost it. I realize you may be thinking I'm nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you'll change your mind.

Yes, I know someone somewhere said "All people want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is, all people want to feel wanted.

See, a "need" is something a person *must have* in order to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us sometimes feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special someone by our side, the truth is - we could.

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Now think of this: are you with your current partner because you feel you couldn't survive without them because they take care of things you can't or won't do or provide things you don't feel you can get on your own?

Or are you with your partner because although you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life simply because you love them?

In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon begin to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give - such as a paycheck.

I couldn't tell you how many men I've heard say their wives only stayed with them for the money.

Or sex. Again, I've heard many, many women complain that their partner only kept them around for sex.

Which would you rather have in your life? Someone who wanted you for what you could give/bring? Or someone who wants you for *you* - no strings, no conditions?

That's why I say the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else.

I don't need you but I love you.

What do you think?

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What's one of the best investments you can make to improve your love and sex life? Buy a hot tub. Why? This is one of best inventions ever created for seducing hot  sexy women. Here's how I used my hot tub to seduce tons of sexy beautiful women:

1. Keep a stock of pink champagne and margaritas on hand.

2. Also, buy some extra bathrobes for women and pairs of women's shorts (she can wear this with a T-shirt in case she doesn't have a bathing suit or doesn't want to skinny-dip).

3. The next step is to invite single women over for a date. I would suggest inviting her over for a steak dinner in which you do all the cooking and by all means have a candlelight dinner with romantic and sexy music in the background (if you really want to get her to crave you sexually, order our subliminal seduction tapes at: http://www.getgirls.com/sublim.htm) to create a romantic atmosphere.

4. Your next step is to offer her champagne or margaritas throughout the evening to warm her up and make her lose her inhibitions when you seduce her in your hot tub.

5. Start your seductive routine with kissing her tenderly to get some chemistry going (don't go any further than kissing her lips, neck, and shoulders - you'll get down to business later in the hot tub).

6. Your next step is to give her a massage. When you feel the time is right and you have worked her into a state of arousal tell her, "Let's go relax in the hot tub." If she says, "I don't have anything to wear." Reply, "I've got an extra bathrobe you can wear out to the hot tub if you prefer to skinny-dip or I can give you a pair of shorts and a T-shirt to wear."

7. If she prefers to skinny-dip then I can assure you you're going to score. If she does prefer to skinny-dip then you need to do likewise, otherwise if she prefers to wear shorts and T-shirt, then wear your bathing suit in the hot tub because she may become paranoid if you jump in the hot tub naked.

8. Now, we get to the good part! You're both in the hot tub and the combination of the heat, the jets of water massaging your bodies, the steam rising off the water, and being under the influence of alcohol will act as a natural aphrodisiac to put both of you in a state of heated passion and horniness. P.S. - Be sure and bring your iced bucket of champagne or margaritas out to the hot tub to drink while you're there to put her in a romantic mood.

9. All you gotta do now is make your moves. Bring her in close to you and start kissing her all over, working her into a heated frenzy. If she has clothes on, start to remove them when she is warmed up with lots of foreplay.

In conclusion, I guarantee you that you will seduce and make love to more single women if you buy a hot tub. Single women really lose their inhibitions and get real horny when they get in a hot tub, especially under the influence of alcohol. Hot tubs make it so much easier to seduce women. Believe me, I know and I have so many wonderful and lustful memories of the fun times and sex I had in my hot tub.

Also, be sure and make your hot tub area very private and discreet. Surround it by a lattice fence, bamboo fence, wood fence, or trees and shrubs. Some women will not want to make love if she thinks the neighbors can see you.

P.S. When you go to nightclubs or topless clubs, ask women if they want to come over for a "hot tub" party. I got some extra action with this method and a lot of interesting things can happen when you get some naked topless dancers in the hot tub with you - they really love to party!

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If you are a senior, Christian dating opportunities may seem limited. But dont despair. Besides the traditional venues to meet religious members of the opposite sex (like Church), the internet has opened up many new doors. Now you can go online to find a partner who shares your values. This article will look at how to choose and use a senior Christian dating site.

There are several different approaches you can follow when selecting a senior Christian dating site. First, you can go to a general site such as EHarmony or Match dot com and select for the age group you are in and the Christian religion. Or, you can go to a Christian only dating site and select the age group you are in. On the flip side, you can go to a seniors dating site and select for the Christian religion. Finally, you can get very specific and go to a site that is set up specifically for Christian Seniors.

You will be able to try out a senior Christian dating site, but in order to use the full range of services, you will need to join. The fee can range from a few dollars a month to hundreds of dollars a year.

One of the first things you will do is create a personal profile. Some sites have drop down menus and check boxes which make everyone look pretty generic but makes searching for people with similar interests easier. Others allow you to post a long essay about yourself that gives potential dates great insight into you.

You will also be able to upload a photo of yourself. I recommend that you do upload the photo because people with photos receive twenty times more messages than people without them. Some senior Christian dating sites also allow you to upload video. If you have this option, it is advisable to do so.

Your profile, photos, and videos allow people to be drawn to you. But, it also allows people to weed you out. This is actually a good thing. Some of these sites have more than 100,000 members. Remember, you are not looking for many loves, you are looking for one. So, finding someone who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you is paramount.

Many people join single Christian dating sites because they take their faith seriously and want to meet someone who cares about Jesus as much as they do. But be aware that the level of commitment to the church varies among members. So, if your purpose in joining a Christian site is to find someone with the same level of religiousness as you have, you still must do your screening for this.

One of the advantages of a senior Christian dating site over the more general dating pool is that you know in advance that you have something in common. People wouldnt join such a site specifically if they werent looking for a fellow Christian.

If you want to meet other Christians and you are over age 50, join a senior Christian dating site today.

In a successful relationship, couples work very hard to keep the spark alive. So how do they do that? By honest and open communication. It is amazing how many misunderstandings crop up between men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don't Read Maps" etc.

All couples argue but it is how they do it that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Try being open about how you are feeling. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!

Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each other's to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.

One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asker, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.

A very important part of having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.

In order to be part of a successful couple, you first have to love yourself. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.

You also cannot depend on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. You have a life of your own and if you live it fully, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.

So to sum up, you don't get anything worth having in this life without a little work and that applies to successful relationships. Couples who work hard get to play hard!

I want to alert you to a certain type of single woman that can cause you relationship problems. I call this type of woman, "The Commitaphobic." Let me describe The Commitaphobic to you:

The Commitaphobic single woman is confused. She really has little idea of what she wants from a relationship, and often breaks up and then comes back only to break up again. She hates being alone, but likewise is incapable of making a solid commitment.

There is nothing wrong, or evil about her, she is simply undecided as to what part she wants you to play in her future. She is happy to "coast" along, for months or even years if you let her, but as soon as you do or say anything that looks like tying her down, she runs a mile, only to come back and ask for one more chance.

The problem here develops when you keep taking her back. This tells her that she can treat you like a door mat, come and go as she pleases, and only ever give you dribs and drabs of her love. The longer and longer it goes on the less she understands what, or who it is she wants in her life, if anyone.

The only possible solution is to not take her back next time she leaves. That way she can get the experience she needs with other people to eventually come to a decision about the kind of person she can really commit to. If you aren't it, then it's better to know now rather than after she's taken years of your youth. Years that in the meantime you can use to find someone who does know what they want.

Please share your experiences with this type of women to the readers of this blog...Thanks...Don

In a successful relationship, couples work very hard to keep the spark alive. So how do they do that? By honest and open communication. It is amazing how many misunderstandings crop up between men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don't Read Maps" etc.

All couples argue but it is how they do it that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Try being open about how you are feeling. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!

Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each other's to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.

One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asker, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.

A very important part of having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.

In order to be part of a successful couple, you first have to love yourself. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.

You also cannot depend on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. You have a life of your own and if you live it fully, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.

So to sum up, you don't get anything worth having in this life without a little work and that applies to successful relationships. Couples who work hard get to play hard!

In most cases, once you have been introduced to a person you are able to handle the date and know what you are doing. Oftentimes, the initial meeting is the hardest part of starting any relationship. If you know how situations are different and changed as you grow older and meet new people will help you to understand what you will be up against when you are trying to meet someone and date.

As women get older, they have a higher chance of meeting people due to the fact that there is a much higher woman to men ratio for older women. The older the woman, the more competition they are going to have. At the age of 50, the odds are increased even higher and the competition goes up again.

As for men, as they age they have a much lower rate due to an increase in suicide and death. So, there are less men looking to meet women as age increases. It is well known that most often women outlive men. This makes the ratio of men to women different and more sided toward women with increase in age.

People sometimes choose to let their friends set them up for a date. There can be good and bad things with this situation. If it is a successful relationship, it is wonderful. However, it is much more common that it does not work out and then friends can become offended or feel like they are in the middle. They may very well have the best intentions, but you need to do some serious thinking before you decide to accept this date and their help that they are offering.

There are ways to increase your odds of finding the right person to be in your life. Look closely at yourself. What picture are you giving to others? How do they see you? This is very important to look at and figure out. Look carefully at yourself to find out if there are changes that you need to make in order to be more presentable and appealing to potential mates. It is imperative to make yourself as desirable as possible if you want the best odds of finding a partner.

Are you the type of person that starts conversations? Most often, this is the best way to meet a new person. Take the initiative and be the first to talk to someone. Create an open door of potential for a new friend or possibly more. In some cases, you have to take the initiative yourself and stick your neck out. Take the chance and talk to people to make sure that you can take advantage of every possible opportunity to meet someone that could potentially turn into a relationship.

Starting a conversation or talking to people does not have to be a complex task. It is very simple. Introduce yourself. Tell them your name. Comment about their outfit or what they are wearing. Tell them about something that you witnessed them doing and what you thought about it. It is simply a matter of talking and starting a conversation. You just need to open the door.