Take It or Leave It
Men sometimes do pull off a "moving" pick-up line, with just a few words like, "Hi! Do you want to go to a party?" and other similarly direct approaches. But we feel you will ruin a lot of good opportunities that way, even if you might be successful sometimes. But it is up to you, the reader, to decide. Maybe you want to try such direct approaches a few times and see how you do. At least it is very simple and easy to do.
We think that the chance of success of a direct approach depends more on the appearance of the man than other approaches. If a girl is very impressed by a man's appearance, she may well go along with it. But if a man is more ordinary looking, she may not. Such a man would do better to build up his case more slowly, in the more conventional way.
There are often situations where people find that they are attracted to someone at work. This is not something that can be helped. We do not determine who we are going to be attracted to or fall in love
with. However, there are certain things that need to be kept in mind and considered before entering into a relationship with a co-worker.
The first thing that you need to do is find out what your companies policy is on dating among co-workers. Read your employee manual and see what it says. If you cannot find information there, you may need
to go to a supervisor for information. The only problem with this is that the person is going to wonder why you are asking. If interoffice relationships are forbidden, you could be putting yourself into a bad situation before
you have ever done anything. You will be under the microscope just for asking. So, if you can find the information any other way, it is best to avoid going to higher ups.
As we cannot control our feelings and desires, there is really no way to avoid falling for a co-worker if that is what is meant to be. However, there are often risks and complications involved. You could
end up losing your job once the relationship is out in the open. You could also have problems with other co-workers who may not approve of the relationship. Your boss could start treating you differently due to the fact that
you are involved in a relationship within the office. There are numerous possible consequences of pursuing a relationship at work.
Talk with the person that you are interested in to determine what the best way to deal with the situation is. If you are both attracted to each other, you need to decide how to tell people. You will also
want to discuss how you will handle any problems that arise. If there is a rule about not dating, you need to decide if the relationship is worth losing your job over. In some cases one person could switch to a different office
or department. At other times, one person may need to quit their job in order to have their love and happiness. There are many possibilities and you both need to know how to deal with them before they come up.
Do not try to hide the relationship if you both decide it is what you want. You will often find that honesty is the best policy. If you are open and upfront with everyone from the beginning, you are more
likely to get a more favorable response. If you try to hide it, then when it is found out, there could be much worse ramifications of your behavior and denial. Everyone needs to be made aware as soon as the relationship has
begun. Tell your boss how you plan to deal with the relationship and the possible problems.
No matter what you do, it is important to avoid letting your relationship interfere with your work. This is the most common reason for a relationship to be frowned upon at work. It is also likely to result
in negative repercussions. Keep work and personal life separate from each other at all costs.
Compliments are something both men and women desire and enjoy getting. From "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks - just for being you," compliments make us feel good
about ourselves ... especially when they come from those we care about the most.
It is kind of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though
it is so much more than that.
What is the greatest compliment you could give or receive? Simple.
It is I don't need you.
Now hold on a second. Don't go off thinking I've completely lost it. I realize you may be thinking I'm nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you'll change
your mind.
Yes, I know someone somewhere said "All people want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is, all people want to feel wanted.
See, a "need" is something a person *must have* in order to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us sometimes feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days
and weeks without that special someone by our side, the truth is - we could.
Now think of this: are you with your current partner because you feel you couldn't survive without them because they take care of things you can't or won't do or provide things
you don't feel you can get on your own?
Or are you with your partner because although you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life simply because you love them?
In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon begin to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give - such as a paycheck.
I couldn't tell you how many men I've heard say their wives only stayed with them for the money.
Or sex. Again, I've heard many, many women complain that their partner only kept them around for sex.
Which would you rather have in your life? Someone who wanted you for what you could give/bring? Or someone who wants you for *you* - no strings, no conditions?
That's why I say the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else.
I don't need you but I love you.
What do you think?
This is a prayer from my book, "How to Use the Power of Jesus to Help You Meet, Date, Attract Women" at: www.getgirls.com/power.htm
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