Probably all of us have known some man who is an absolute natural at picking up girls. Maybe it is a combination of boyish good looks, disarming charm, quick wit and super confidence. But he can walk up to any girl and she will like him right away, almost instinctively. He can approach a girl and, with just a few words, take charge immediately - make a date with her, take her off to a party, or whatever. He has instant momentum. He is not apologetic, but rather, positive or even aggressive with his opening lines

. Of course you envy him.

But don't try to copy him, unless you have the same attractive assets he has. You probably don't have, or you would be using them already.

People like that usually have been successful socially for a long time; that is why they seem so natural. Probably as a child they learned they had good looks and started learning how to use them to get the things they wanted. They were developing their charm. For you to try and learn to compete with that type of "class" would be like a middle-aged man saying, "I'm going to learn to play tennis, and beat John McEnroe." Hyping up your confidence is one thing, but overreaching and falling flat on your face only destroys confidence. Be realistic. Don't waste your time trying to be someone you can't be. Settle for a little slower (and surer) approach. Develop a style that can work for you first. You may be able to improve your methods later.

1. OBSERVATION DECKS -In most major cities the tallest skyscrapers offer spectacular views of the city from their observation decks open to the public. For breath-taking views, be sure and visit these skyscrapers. Even better are restaurants at the top of sky scrappers that offer scenic views of the
city.
2. PADDLE BOAT RIDES -This is a fun thing to do, especially on a hot summer day. A lot of public lakes offer paddleboat rentals.
3. PARACHUTE JUMPING -If you've both got the guts, this is an experience you will never forget! I know this may seem a little scary to you but it's really a very safe sport. Check out your area for companies that offer parachute jumping. You can train and jump all in one day.
4. PARKS -There's nothing quite like spending a fun day at the park. Be sure and bring a blanket, radio, ice chest filled with drinks, and picnic supplies.

5. PERFORMING ARTS -From operas, ballets, symphonies, to plays, musicals and concerts you just can't go wrong by taking a date to these.
6. PICNICS -This is tops on my list for dating ideas. It is especially great for first dates. Just bring a bottle of wine, cheese and crackers, or even better just pick up some fried chicken and potato salad. Don't forget the blanket and radio!
7. RACQUETBALL COURTS -This is a great way to have some competitive fun and get plenty of exercise at the same time. Consult your telephone directory for the raquetball clubs in your area. Some YMCA's offer raquetball too.
8. RANCHES -A lot of people have never visited a ranch and I highly recommend that you take a date here. There are ranches that are open to the public that offer tons of fun activities such as horseback riding, swimming, moonlight hayrides, petting zoos, softball, volleyball, horseshoes, miniature golf, ping pong, fishing, mechanical horse, etc.
9. RESORTS -There's probably a resort area near you to get away from it all for some romance, recreation, and relaxation. They offer a variety of activities such as golf, boating, water sports, tennis, fishing, casual and elegant dining, swimming, lodging, dancing, movies, live entertainment, health spas, etc.
10. RIFLE & PISTOL RANGES -This is certainly a fun experience to share. You can bring you're own gun or just rent one for target practice.

So what do you think? Don't you agree these date selections would leave a lasting impression on you date?