Advice About Answering Personal Ads

What to Do When That Sexy Single Woman of Your Dreams

Sends You E-mail in Response to Your Online Personal Ad?

She wrote me! She wrote me! She wrote Me!!! OMIGOD! What do I do?

Simmer down. All the lady did was decide your ad was interesting and send you some e-mail. She's not ready to jump into your arms and have your baby. She's just given you a nibble. It's up to you to make it work from here. And remember, if this doesn't work out, there will be others, if you have a good ad and are just patient!

Here are some important things to keep in mind:

Don't question it: She is interested in you, or she wouldn't have answered your ad. So, get over your insecurities. She's a woman looking for a man, and you sound interesting to her. Now you just have to see whether you're interested in her, and whether there's enough of what she wants in you to sustain her interest.

But here's the important thing: Be patient. Yeah, once you get a response, you have to be patient again.

• Don't push to get her phone number.
• Don't push for a face-to-face meeting.
• Don't whine to her about your personal problems with women.
• Don't talk about sex or anything of that nature.

Instead, be friendly, and be polite. Ask her about herself, and tell a bit more about yourself. Ask her questions. Encourage her to ask you about anything she might be curious about. Find out about her without being nosy -- don't ask for her address, or where she works (but asking what town she lives in is probably okay).

Don't pester her with lots of e-mail. Let her explore who you are at her own pace. If she takes a couple of days to respond to one of your letters, sit on your fingers and wait. If it's been more than three or four days, you might try one letter to the effect of "hey, where'd you go?" but that's IT. If you don't hear anything more, either she doesn't want to talk to you, or she's not reading her e-mail anymore, or she's just busy.

Keep this in mind: it's scary for a woman to go away for a few days and to come back and find a dozen plaintive, "Oh, where oh where did you go?" letters. It just makes you look desperate and weird.

All in all, the most important thing to remember in this situation is that it is easy to scare a woman away. If she thinks you're a weirdo, or a psychotic, or a pathetic, lonely loser, she's going to walk away. (And by the way, if you ARE a pathetic, lonely loser, STOP IT. Find something else to do with your time and realize that the only way you're going to get a woman is if you stop assuming you'll never get one.)

Now, besides all this, you need to remember something even more important: you BOTH need time for a relationship to develop, so you actually have something to talk about when finally you do meet. Rushing to meet someone and suddenly finding you have nothing to talk about can be very uncomfortable.

If you are an impatient man, you might as well not bother advertising. You'll get nowhere.

Anything I Should Look Out For?

Anybody, male or female, needs to be cautious. Placing or answering an ad might get you a psychotic, or someone who's dishonest with you.

The single biggest hazard is probably those strange creatures out there who post messages pretending to be what they aren't. Especially common these days seem to be "MorFs" (Male or Females) who are usually men pretending to be women, who are often provocative teases.

All in all, if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Don't get your heart crushed by a liar; use caution, and don't buy too much of anything until you actually meet the person face-to-face, or at least by phone call. Watch for the warning signs of someone yanking your chain, or wrapped up in their own fantasies and not really paying attention to who you are. Don't fall in love or get your heart ripped out by someone who may just be a fantasy-woman (or man). Don't be paranoid, but make sure you don't expect too much until you actually meet the other person face-to-face -- and remember that you can meet someone nasty, sociopathic, or criminal anywhere, not just online. Don't be paranoid, but do use common sense!

This article was posted with permission of Dean Esmay and this entire article is Copyright 1995, 1996 by Dean Esmay.

Advice on How to Deal with Single Women Sexual Behavior

Are You Sometimes Confused by Women's Sexual Behavior?

This week I would like to focus on women's behavior:

For example, has this ever happened to you? You meet this really hot & sexy single girl at a nightclub and the sexual chemistry between you is incredible. While slow-dancing you are rubbing each others back, grinding your crotches, kissing each others neck, kissing, etc. I'm sure you're getting the picture. It's getting late and you invite her over to your place for a drink.

Then after she comes over you sit on the couch and start making out. Things really start to get hot and heavy. You start to undress her and she reluctantly pulls back and says, "not tonight." This really frustrates you after getting all worked up and you're totally confused about what's going on here. You're wondering why she seemed ready to make love but got cold feet.

Before you jump to conclusions and consider her a prude or a prick-teaser, these are the most likely reasons why she chickened out:

1. Mother Nature has made her monthly call and she's on her period.
2. She is concerned that if she has sex with you so soon in the relationship you will think she is nothing but a promiscuous cheap whore and you won't see her again.
3. She is concerned that she might get pregnant or even worse, contract a sexual disease.
4. She only has sex with someone that she is in love with and being that you have just met she has not had time to get to know you and feel love for you.
5. When she has had casual sex in the past she feels empty and ashamed of herself the next morning. So, she feels uncomfortable repeated the same empty and unfulfilling experience.

So, what is the lesson to be learned from this? First of all, single men and single women are different when it comes to hoping in bed with someone. Men will go to bed with women at the drop of a hat, even if they have only known each other a couple of hours. Single women are different. Most of them aren't into casual sex. They want to get to know you and develop feelings for you before they give their body to you.

So, my advice is to take things slow with a single woman. Take time for you to get to know each other and develop chemistry, communication, and feelings for each other. You really don't even have to rush sex. If sex is going to happen, it's going to happen naturally anyway. Believe me, the woman will really respect you and admire you for not rushing her into a sexual relationship. Plus, you will really make a favorable impression on her because you're different than the other men she's used to who come on all hot and horny acting like a dog in heat.

In conclusion, if a woman continues to reject your advances, be sure and have a heart to heart talk with her about you are not getting your needs met in the relationship. If she refuses to compromise, then it's a simple choice. Live with it or move on someone who can meet your physical needs

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Single Man's Guide to Flirting with Single Women

How to Flirt with Single Women in Bars and Nightclubs

This week I would like to focus on how to flirt with women in bars and nightclubs:

While you are cruising the nightclub, keep your flirting eyes out for the woman that is alone. She is usually the easiest to meet and attract. She is there for a reason and you can be the lucky man to fulfill that reason.

Also while walking, keep that sexy-looking gleam in your eye. Literally try to melt women with your eyes. If you make eye contact with a woman, make sure you give her a friendly smile and if she is close enough to you, simply say,"Hi." That is all it takes and with practice it will come easy.

If you make contact with some woman across the way from you and she turns away, don't give up on her. Try to make eye contact again and smile at her. If she smiles back, approach her immediately! This is an opportunity that must not be passed up because it's an open invitation for you to come over and introduce yourself or ask her to dance.

Whatever you do, don't stare at a woman. This is impolite and nobody likes to be stared at. Just look at her long enough to make it quite clear that you see her and then immediately look away. What you are saying with your eyes when you look at her this way is, "I know you are there and I would not dream of invading your privacy." Just keep looking at her off and on until you establish some meaningful eye contact and exchange smiles. So, there you have it, the art of flirting.

What really amazes me is these guys at the nightclubs that don't even flirt with women. They just stare into space or look down at the floor. If they do accidentally catch the eye of a woman, they look away as quickly as possible and let it go at that. They just don't know what they are missing and what they are missing out on is meeting women the easy way.

So my friend, if you're like this, make it a point to stop staring into space and start flirting with women. Flirt with every woman in sight. It's a lot of fun and you will be attracting more women than ever before.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Air Mattress for Picking Up Women in Swimming Pools

How to Pick Up Single Women with an Air Mattress

This week I would like to focus on a method I used to successfully meet, attract, and pick up sexy beautiful single women at swimming pools. This easy technique I used in the summer got me lots of dates filled with love, sex, and romance.

I call this technique the "air mattress" method. Here's how it works:

Sit your ice chest on the edge of the swimming pool to where you have access to it while laying on your air mattress in the pool. Now, get on your air mattress with a can of beer or mixed drink in hand (I might add that it would be a good idea to try and keep your hair dry. This way you'll look more attractive. With wet hair, you just won't look at your best).

Now, maneuver your air mattress around the pool and park it across from a female you're attracted to that's near the pool or sitting on the edge. Then simply remark, "You sure are getting a nice tan today." This breaks the ice and then you follow up with, "I've got an extra air mattress. Would you like to join me?"

Then you offer her a drink from your ice chest (stocked with beer, mixed drinks in a can, soda, etc.) Then you simply get acquainted and ask her out.

This technique will really work for you successfully and I highly recommend that you try it. Also, if there are other females in the pool on air mattresses, pull up beside them and feed them the same opening lines about her tan and offering her a drink.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Why Bad Breath Can Cause Dating Problems and What to Do About It

Are You Aware That Bad Breath Can Prevent

You From Scoring with Single Women?

If you have bad breath, this can be a major turn-off when you are trying to meet and pick up single women. And the main problem is that you may not even be aware that you have bad breath which can instantly ruin your chances of attracting and dating all those hot & sexy single women of your dreams. At the end of this article I will show you how to test your breath.

"Over a 24-hour period, everyone has bouts of bad breath," said Carol Meyer, a dental hygienist and president of Personal Breath Consultants Inc., based in Long Island, NY.

The American Dental Association estimates that 40 percent of adults - 85 million Americans - have chronic bad breath. The most common cause of bad breath is bacteria, trapped food between the teeth, and poor dental hygiene.

Today, Americans spend more than $1 billion each year on rinses, mints and gums to make their breath fresher. Unfortunately, these are only short-term fixes. "They temporarily help," said Dr. Richard Haydon, a University of Kentucky ear, nose and throat specialist. Mouthwashes, for instance, will last less than an hour. Haydon also cautions that most mouthwashes contain alcohol, which can irritate the tissues of the mouth.

Ironically, excess alcohol also causes bad breath, so people who use excessive amounts of mouthwashes with alcohol might end up with worse breath than they started with.

There's only one way for most people to control bad breath: "Immaculate oral hygiene," Dr. Ted Raybould, a University of Kentucky dentist said. That includes brushing twice daily for at least two minutes each time, making sure to hit all areas of every tooth. "And flossing's the biggest one," Raybould said. "Food gets stuck between the teeth and starts to rot."

Tongue cleaning is also important in eliminating bad breath. Toothbrushes aren't really designed to clean the tongue, especially the back areas of the tongue, where offensive bacteria collect. The best way to clean the tongue is by using tongue cleaners you can purchase from your dentists, drug store, and other outlets. A University of Toronto study found that tongue cleaning reduced sulfur gases and offensive odor by 75 percent - 50 percent more than just brushing.

It is also recommended while brushing your teeth that you gently brush inside the cheeks and gums and the roof of the mouth.

Using the advice contained in this article should eliminate any bad breath problems that can affect your dating and love life. If you follow this program for good dental hygiene and you still have bad breath, then perhaps you have a medical problem that causes bad breath and you should see your doctor.

So, how can you tell if you have bad breath? There are three easy ways, according to Meyer, a leading breath consultant:

Lick your wrist and take a whiff of it.

Swab the inside of your cheeks or tongue with a piece of gauze or cotton swab and sniff.

Floss with unscented dental floss and smell the floss.

Trust me, this is the most accurate method of testing your breath. Breathing into your cupped hands and taking a whiff is not accurate.

I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to not have bad breath when you're trying to meet, attract, date, and seduce single women. I know you may think it's a pain in the ass to take care of your teeth and tongue, but it's worth it because you certainly don't want to become a failure with women because of something that you can easily correct.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Adult Education Classes, University Courses for Meeting Single Women

Meeting Single Women for Love, Romance, and Relationships

Using Adult Education Classes and University Extension Courses

Most good-sized communities in the United States offer adult education courses. The courses are varied and offer something for everyone. The classes are held at convenient times for full time workers and are available at no cost or for a small fee. A good example of these courses are the ones sponsored by the organization called Leisure Learning which are located in most large cities in the United States.

These courses are an excellent channel for meeting single women. The key to it all is to take courses that appeal to women. Let me offer some suggestions of courses that will be made up of mostly women: Interior decorating, arts and crafts, cooking, ballet, astrology, handwriting analysis, tarot, tennis, writing, etc. By taking these courses you will be one of the few men in the class. You will be surrounded by single women and you will get all the attention and you will be in demand. The women will be literally fighting amongst themselves for your attention.

Let me tell you about my friend Bill who took a cooking class at my urging. This is what he told me about the class: "Well, there were fifteen women in the class and I was the only guy. Most of them were single and most of them were around my age. Now, I've only been to three of the classes and have three more to go and I've already dated four of the women...and I'm becoming a great cook on top of it. You know Don, this was a really great idea of yours. Probably none of these single women would have talked to me if I had approached them in a supermarket or on the street, but no woman refuses to talk to you over a pasta."

A word of advice. Arrive at the classes early. Everyone sits around and shoots the bull and the atmosphere is very relaxed and there's no pressure to meet someone like in a singles bar. By arriving early you can make the rounds and converse with the women before class.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Warning About Women Afraid of Getting Involved

The Dark Side of Meeting the Wrong Type of Single Women

This week I want to discuss the subject of should you date commitaphobic women.

I want to alert you to a certain type of single woman that can cause you problems. I call this type of woman, "The Commitaphobic." Let me describe The Commitaphobic to you:

The Commitaphobic single woman is confused. She really has little idea of what she wants from a relationship, and often breaks up and then comes back only to break up again. She hates being alone, but likewise is incapable of making a solid commitment.

There is nothing wrong, or evil about her, she is simply undecided as to what part she wants you to play in her future. She is happy to "coast" along, for months or even years if you let her, but as soon as you do or say anything that looks like tying her down, she runs a mile, only to come back and ask for one more chance.

The problem here develops when you keep taking her back. This tells her that she can treat you like a doormat, come and go as she pleases, and only ever give you dribs and drabs of her love. The longer and longer it goes on the less she understands what, or who it is she wants in her life, if anyone.

The only possible solution is to not take her back next time she leaves. That way she can get the experience she needs with other people to eventually come to a decision about the kind of person she can really commit to. If you aren't it, then it's better to know now rather than after she's taken years of your youth. Years that in the meantime you can use to find someone who does know what they want.

I never really intended to focus on the negative aspects of meeting single women for my Dating Tips of the Week. But, I feel that single men need to be exposed to the dark side of meeting the wrong type of women. I want you to be happy and be able to recognize when women may be playing head games with you.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com