Advice for Online Dating

Seven Tips to Help You Succeed at Online Dating!

by Robert Lee

Very often I am asked by people how they can improve their results using online dating services.

Although the answers may vary slightly when looking for individual improvements, generally everyone can do better by following these simple, but sometimes overlooked, changes to their profile and how they approach online dating.

- Login regularly. Many services show the last time you logged in, so if you haven’t been there for a while odds are good that possible new friends will overlook your profile because it seems ’stale’ or abandoned.

- Post a recent picture. Most online services offer the search option to “search only profiles with a picture”, so if you don’t have a picture uploaded with your profile you’re missing out on a substantial amount of possible visitors to your profile. And keep in mind to post a recently taken photo of yourself, with only you in the frame and an upper body or head and shoulders only shot.

- Don’t Annoy Others. Did you find the perfect match but he/she never replied to your messages? Maybe they didn’t feel that immediate spark that you did. Maybe they don’t login any more. No matter what you feel, sending more than a couple messages to someone is a sure way to be an annoyance, if not being branded an “online stalker’.

- Be positive. We all know that life has it’s ups and downs, but sharing bad or negative details in your profile is a sure way to not get any responses. Positive people bring out the best in others, do your part.

- Be proactive. Participate in all areas of the dating service you are a member of. Do they have a blog? Comment on it. Do they have a forum, polls, story submission? Your name is your “brand”, use it as much as possible (without contravening any of the above tips, of course) so that other members see your name and check out your profile. Activities other than just posting your profile can greatly enhance the visits to your profile page.

- Reply promptly. You don’t have to be logged in every moment, but try your best to log in every day about the same time and answer messages within one day. If someone is waiting for a reply from you and they don’t get it, they might just make plans with someone else.

- Update your profile regularly. Many dating services rotate to the top of the search results profiles that have been recently edited. You usually don’t have to make any major changes to your profile just a sentence or two and save it.

Author Resources:

Robert Lee is the editor of www.aLoveLinksPlus.com, the source for online dating advice and dating service reviews since 1999. Article (c) 2009 and is published with permission

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A Few Great Ideas for Dates

Where to Take a Date to Impress Women

1. HAYRIDES -Have you ever been on a hayride? It's a lot of fun and something very different to do.
2. HELICOPTER RIDES -This was one of the most exciting dates I ever went on. My date and I took a helicopter tour of downtown Houston and the Astrodome area. I was especially fascinated flying over the skyscrapers and looking down on them. This will be an expensive date because to charter a helicopter can cost you up to $500 an hour. If you can afford it, it's worth the money just for the experience.
3. HIKING -Enjoy the great outdoors by going on the hiking trails in your area. Bring a backpack and have a romantic picnic in a secluded area.
4. HIGH SCHOOL SPORTING EVENTS -Find out what high school your date went to and invite her to attend a football game, baseball game, basketball game, etc. She's sure to enjoy it and have a good time and going back to your old high school brings back a lot of good memories and good times.
5. HORSE RACES -Here's another fun activity you can both share and make some money too if your lucky.
6. HORSEBACK RIDING -This is something everyone enjoys, especially if you love horses like I do. There's probably a stable near you somewhere that rent horses by the hour.
7. HOTEL NIGHT CLUB -Don't overlook these as a place to take a date. It's a great place to take a date for drinks and dancing. Some of them even have live entertainment. Also, some of them offer free buffet dinners and drink specials in the evening.
8. ICE SKATING -Don't know how to skate? No problem, It's a lot of fun just learning. Sure, you're going to take a few spills on the ice. It's all part of the fun! This is great place to go on a date even if you don't know how to ice skate. You can always take lessons too.
9. THE IMAX THEATRE -If you have one of these near you don't miss this thrill of a lifetime. You will see special movies viewed on a screen six stories high. IMAX movie images are far sharper than ordinary movies. You feel like you're there in person. Also the theatre has state-of-the-art surround stereo. These special movies only last around 30 minutes but are well worth the experience.
10. INDIAN RESERVATION -If you have any Indian reservations near you don't pass this up as a dating experience. They are usually rich in history and the one near Houston offers educational activities, fishing, canoeing, camping, tours, natural beauty and family fun. Also, you can watch them do tribal dances.

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P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

How to Write Personal Ads

Don't Exaggerate Your Personal Attributes in Personal Ads

I've already touched on the value of presenting a positive and honest self-image. I have also warned you against fibbing about yourself. This point is so important and so often ignored it can not be stressed enough.

Like describing your physical appearance, it's sometimes tempting to make other claims that may not quite be lies, but stretch the truth. I'm talking about things like what you tell others you do for a living, what you own and what kind of personality you have. It's like keeping your stomach sucked in at the beach. It may work for a short time, but sooner or later the real you will show.

If you pump gas for a living and drive a 1976 Plymouth Volare station wagon, you might not feel like bragging about it, but it isn't a sin. It doesn't make you any lesser a person than a doctor who drives a Jaguar. You both put your pants on one leg at a time.

Regardless of what you do for a living or what you have, you can meet someone through a personal ad that will appreciate you for being you. Cliche but true. Meeting that person will be hard to do though if you tell someone that you drive a Jaguar, but you keep showing up for your dates driving your Volare with the excuse that the Jaguar is still in the shop because the clutch is back-ordered and is being shipped by boat all the way from England. God forbid that you also claimed to be a physician and she insists that you remove a small wart that she has...and you try to do it.

I once dated a woman who told me about the time that she responded to an ad by a man who mentioned in passing during their first phone conversation that he was an emergency room physician. It was only a couple of minutes before they decided that they would like to meet each other. She hadn't had time to tell him on the phone that she had been an emergency room nurse. When they met for dinner, she said that it was obvious that he didn't know a fibula from a tibia. She debated with herself whether or not to tell him that she knew he wasn't a doctor. Other than the slight oversight that he lied about his occupation, she said he seemed like a very nice guy.

She decided that she would call his bluff and she confronted him. She thought that by doing this she might save some other woman from his lie(s). It was a very uncomfortable scene for both of them. He was really a grocery checker who wanted to be a doctor. She told me that he seemed to have a lot of really good qualities and that she wouldn't have cared what he did for a living if he had been honest. She never saw him again because she didn't think she could trust him and she wondered what else he had lied about.

Try hard to be realistic and honest when you talk about your personality traits and personal habits. You don't need to always want to be around crowds to be considered gregarious, but if you won't get in an elevator if someone else is in it, you probably are not. If you can't boil water, do not claim that you are a gourmet cook. If you are a couch potato, do not say that you never watch TV.

Many men say something in their ad about being kind, caring and/or sensitive. Women aren't stupid. If every man who said that he was sensitive really were, there wouldn't be as many battered women in the world as there are. If you aren't particularly sensitive, it will become obvious soon enough. But, I don't want to just pick on men, women are also not always truthful about themselves and frequently give false information.

This article is an excerpt from our book, "Effective Personal Ads - How to Write Personal Ads or Respond to Personal Ads."

Dating Seasons and How to Cope with Them

Dating Seasons in Your Love Life

We all go through what I call "Dating Seasons." Things can be going great in your love life and you're meeting, dating, and seducing lots of single women.

Then you go through a season where you have bad luck with women. You are getting rejected, single women ignore you, you have trouble getting dates, women are not receptive to your physical advances, you get stood up, etc. Just nothing seems to be going right.

You may be tempted to just throw in the towel, lose your enthusiasm for women, and just be tempted to give up.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that this is just the way things are going to be.

Trust me, another season will come when things turn around for you. You must stay in faith that this temporary season of bad luck will pass. Better times are just around the corner.

No matter how difficult the bad times may seem, keep believing that the good times with single women are soon to come.

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Advice on Rejection by Topless Dancers

What to do When You get Rejected by a Topless Dancer

It happens to us guys in all areas of life when dealing with women. It's no different in topless clubs. Not all dancers are going to be receptive to you trying to pick them up. Some may be sitting with you and it seems like you're really hitting it off and suddenly she gets up and leaves. If this happens, be sure and tell her to come back and party with you. You may mistake her leaving as rejecting you. It could be that she's leaving to entertain a high-paying customer who's buying a lot of dances from her. Don't take this personally, she's only doing her job and that's to make money and make it as fast as she can.

At other times you may be with a dancer that hardly talks to you and acts like she's not interested in you. Maybe she doesn't feel well or maybe she's just turned off by you.

If you feel you're being rejected by a dancer, don't waste anymore time or money on her. Move on to another dancer or another club. Don't hang around where you're not wanted. If you practice your charm and seduction techniques, eventually you'll find a dancer who is receptive to you.

10 of My Favorite Places to Take a Date

Ten of my Very Favorite Places to Take a Date

1. BEACH OR LAKE -This is one of my favorite places to take a date, especially at night: There's nothing more romantic than taking a moonlight stroll along the beach or lake.

2. BEACH HOUSE RENTAL -Great for getting away from the hectic life in the city for some rest and relaxation.

3. BED & BREAKFAST INNS -For a change of pace from regular motels and hotels, try a bed & breakfast inn where you will be treated like royalty. They offer rooms where you feel like you're at home instead of a dreary motel room. Also, you will be treated to a tasty, elegant breakfast and have the option of many other amenities.

4. BILLARD PARLORS (POOL HALLS) -Do you like to play pool? This is a great place to go to have a good time, shoot a few rounds of pool, have a few drinks, and some offer food.

5. BINGO -This is one fun date you can go on and come home with some extra cash in your pocket.

6. BOAT RENTAL -This makes for a unique experience and it's so relaxing and enjoyable. You can charter a boat with captain and crew or rent a powerboat for skiing, fishing, or just for cruising.

7. BOAT SHOW -If you live near a large city, this makes for an interesting date. You will get to see all the latest boats, sailboats, and yachts on the market.

8. BOOGIE BOARDS -Can't go surfing or don't have a desire to? Well, boogie boards are just as much fun and don't require any skill. A boogie board is a body board that's less than half the size of a surfboard and is used for body surfing. You just lay on this board and ride the waves. They are tons of fun and you can buy them at any Toys R' Us stores. At some seashores they are available for rent.

9. BOWLING -What a great way to have some fun and exercise at the same time. The best time to bowl is during the day on weekends and weekdays. The lanes are usually taken up by bowling leagues in the evenings. Just be sure to call ahead of time to make sure some lanes are available.

10. BRUNCH -Here's your opportunity to have a breakfast and lunch feast. Just be sure and go on an empty stomach. Most brunches are held on Sundays, with a few on Saturdays. Here in Houston, a lot of the major hotels offer brunches.

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Advice for Dating When You Are a Senior

Senior Dating - What You See is What You Get

If you are single and in the midlife stage then most probably the majority of people around you are "pressuring" you to find a true love and start living. This pressure can really takes it toll sometimes because you get to feel there is something wrong with you for not having that eagerness and drive to have what they want for you. The truth of the matter about senior dating is it will come if it will come. Trying too hard to have it or find it really feels off. Senior dating is all about finding the right person for companionship and friendship.

It is all about taking it easy and not wasting your time to people who you can't jive and are just too heavy to carry- emotionally and mentally that is. It is all about getting real and not about playing around anymore. With all the things that you have been through being with someone that you can truly connect and bond is what you truly deserve. The lack of eagerness and enthusiasm is not a sign that you have totally given up on romance, on the contrary it is about having faith that by being yourself and doing the things that interests you, the person that you are looking for will come along.

Some baby boomer visit senior dating sites to seek the person they are looking for. This can actually be a good idea to visit senior dating sites because you can do it the comfort of your own home. There is also a clear and mutual line or understanding that you are considering a relationship so you don't need to blurt out in the site that you are looking for romance making it easier and less awkward and more casual about your goals and intentions. When you reach the age of midlife, you just want things to work out well and good.

Midlife is the stage where you have proven yourself already that's why you don't need to play the "trivial" things in meeting someone. This is actually the great time and age to date and meet people. You are stable and more secure. You know what you want and how to get it, that's why you are more relaxed when it comes to waiting for the right person. You go on doing the things you love and hopefully if destiny will allow it, the person you are waiting for will come along. The great thing about today's era is that most girls or women go for men that are more emotionally and mentally established, that's why men who are in their fifties still have a vast market share in dating.

For senior dating, here are some few things to remember. First is to continue what you're doing, be yourself. Eventually if you meet someone through your interest it will not be as hard to connect with each other. Next is to keep it casual. It's quite a good idea that before going to a real first dinner date, have a few coffee dates first to see if you really hit it off together without the effects of date stress. Another is to be transparent about your intentions. If you have no plans to be exclusive tell your date so and if you do but your potential lover seems to disagree don't be upset.

Give her the credit for being honest and enjoy each other's company and what you and your date have to offer for the meantime. Senior dating all about taking it your pace and enjoying every minute you have, to take things at it is, to enjoy what you have and what you don't have, to make the most out of the moment.

The author of this article Ruth Purple is a Relationships Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Ruth recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website http://www.relazine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.