Advice on Using Personals to Meet Women

Should You Use the Personals to Meet Women?

Admit it...meeting people and dating now is the pits. It doesn't matter where you live, how young or how old you are, what you do for a living or what sex you are. Finding another person to date, much less a mate, just isn't as easy as it used to be - at least as easy as we think it used to be.

We've all heard about men who have rented billboards and put personal ads on them. We've seen daughters go on TV talk shows to try to find dates for their mothers from a studio made up of eligible men. It is a jungle out there. Between the fear of AIDS and all of the just plain weird people that there are in the world, many people have just about given up and are trying to find the positive aspects of celibacy and the monastic life.

Most of us don't consider celibacy or the monastic life to be viable options. Most of us can't afford to rent a billboard. Sally and Oprah don't want to hear our sad stories. There are just too many of us. Joining a dating service is usually too expensive. Some of us do the next best thing, we turn to answering or writing personal ads.

The personal ads are a lot like supermarket tabloids. Everyone jokes about them. Everyone makes fun of people that read them. Everyone is skeptical of what is written in them. Everyone wonders who writes them. And everyone reads them.

You've been tempted to either answer a personal ad or to write a personal ad yourself or you wouldn't be reading this right now. If you haven't responded to a personal ad, you probably worry that only losers and weirdos place them. You may worry that you'll only meet people who can't get a date any other way other than through personal ads. Even though you aren't a loser and you're thinking about placing or responding to an ad, you still aren't convinced that it's a safe or sane way to connect with safe or sane people.

Using the personals ads to meet people seems like such a desperate step to take. Its like you're admitting to the whole world that you can't meet people any other way. So you put down the personal ads, go out to the kitchen and make stir-fry for one and watch TV alone again.

Is it possible to meet attractive and compatible people through a personal ad? Absolutely. My younger brother met the woman that he married through a personal ad. It didn't happen overnight. He had to put in quite a few personal ads and went on a lot of dates that didn't lead anywhere. He finally found his sweetie though. I haven't found my perfect match yet, but I have met a lot of really nice women and had a number of very satisfying long-term relationships. I'm still friends with some of the women that I've met through personals ads. I also have a lot of stories to tell. You probably have friends who are dating or may have even married people that they met through personal ads, but are too ashamed to admit how they met.

This article is an excerpt from our publication, "Effective Personal Ads - How to Write Personal Ads or Respond to Personal Ads."

Tips for Men to Turn Your Love Life Around

Time to Pull Up the Stakes to Your Tent

Where have you pitched your tent today when it comes to thoughts about your dating and love life? Just what are you expecting to happen in your love and dating life this year?

Are you hopeful and optimistic about someone new coming into your life and filling your heart with lots of love, happiness, and contentment?

If things are not working out in your love life and you feel hopeless, lonely and you are constantly thinking about what's wrong and what is not working, then I would suggest that it's time to pack up your belongings in the land of discouragement and pull up your tent stakes.

It is time for you to move out of the subdivision of lonelyville. Make up your mind now to pack your bags in your mind and move into a new subdivision called hope, faith, and expectations to turn your love and dating life around.

Chose to set your mind free of all negative thoughts that are holding you back from finding love again and someone new. Also, chose to release your past experiences in dating that did not work our for you. It's time for a fresh start.

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The Long View - What about when you are dating (searching)?

The trick is to balance your hormones with your gray matter. You should be thinking as much as you are feeling. The feeling part is very easy. It almost takes care of itself. Look. Be honest. It would be possible for you to work up some heat for a very wide variety of women. Every single woman has some level of charm and sexuality.

The hard part is thinking about the other factors - matching value systems, an equal interest in the relationship and the ability to relate intellectually. It will take time and thought to uncover this information. You are seeking potential. However, sometimes you can tell right away. The problem is that it is easy to overlook red flags when your testosterone is controlling the show.

Don't forget that it goes the other way. Dating is a true marketplace. You must exhibit potential as a partner in order to start the process. You will both be evaluating each other.

The Odds - Fairy Tales and Love Songs

The reality is that there are thousands, perhaps millions of single women who would work out just fine as dates or long term commitments. It is a matter of compromise, readiness, need and circumstance. You must realize that you don't end up with the absolute best choice available for a girlfriend or a wife.

If you look at it in statistical terms, there must be thousands of single women who have more to offer. You just don't have the time and resources to meet them all. Picture it as a major event like a college football game. You have one afternoon and about 20,000 available women. How many can you get to know well enough to ask out for Saturday night? OK, all analogies leak, but you get the point.

So with luck, you could hope to date less than 100 single girls during your bachelor-hood. (We're being generous.) With luck, the average Joe will experience a dozen or so "relationships" lasting more than a couple weeks. One or two of these will result in marriages. Maybe. Are you depressed? Don't be - these are just the facts. Check with your older friends and relatives for verification. (By the way, don't forget that single women are also out there meeting, rejecting, accepting, dating and marrying guys constantly - just to add to the confusion!)

P.S. - These are article excerpts from the book, "A Man's Field Guide to Women."

10 Things Don't do on First Dates with Women

Never Do These 10 Things When on a First Date with Women

1. Bragging on yourself. Keep the conversation focused on her and her interests.
2. Pretending to be someone you are not. Just be yourself.
3. Picking your nose. If you must pick your nose, excuse yourself and go to the restroom to do it.
4. Trying too hard to impress your date.
5. Talking about sex or anything sexual.
6. Cutting down your ex or past girlfriends.
7. Chewing food with an open mouth.
8. Bringing a friend along on your date.
9. Passing gas. Please hold it in.
10. Wearing wrinkled clothes on your date.

How to Talk to Women Using Good Speech Delivery

Speech Delivery When Talking to Women

Don't talk too fast. When feeling the emotional pressures of talking with a strange girl, men sometimes become a little flustered and excited. They speak carelessly, too fast, blurring their words. Your words should be spoken clearly and at a leisurely pace. You should be continually on guard for this.

Watch and listen to someone who speaks well, either in real life or a professional performer on TV, or in a play or film. Delivery is improved by dramatic emphasizing of words and phrases. It is very effective to pause after a statement, to allow your words to be digested, even though it feels more natural to rush on to your next statement. This requires some discipline on the part of the speaker.

Another effective feature of speaking is the upbeat sentence ending. You sound much more positive and dynamic if your voice rises in tone and sharpens in tempo at .the end of important sentences. By contrast, if your sentence drops in tone at the end, and trails off, the effect is one of indecision and vagueness.

The upbeat tone tends to urge your listener on to agree with you. It is like adding an imperative "Come on!" to the end of your sentence. You can practice speaking some sentences out loud and hear this effect.

Try to improve your speech as much as possible. A well-paced speech style is always much more effective than a hurried, nervous one. P.S. This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book called, "How to Talk to Women."

Great Pick Up Lines to Meet Women in Museums

Museum Pick Up Lines to Use on Women

Museum Pick-Up Lines - What a great place to meet cultured women with an appreciation for the arts. So, head for your local art museums and try some of these conversation starters and best pick up lines to use on women:

"Doesn't it seem like all these paintings look alike?"

Stand in front of a painting and when a woman comes up, make a comment on the painting. Then say, "Would you mind if I tour the gallery with you?"

"Your pretty face sure would make a beautiful painting."

"See that painting? I'd buy it for you if I had a million dollars."

"You know, I keep seeing a portrait of you and me meeting for a cup of coffee. Can we meet somewhere tomorrow?"

"Have you ever posed nude?"

Stand in front of a painting and comment to women, "Do you understand what the artist is trying to say with his paintbrush in this painting?"

"I would love to draw you. Would you pose for me? Then set up a date and bring a note pad and pencil and draw her. Don't know how to draw? Just fake it and you both can have a good laugh when you show her your finished work.

Old Men That are Dating Younger Women

The trend of old men dating younger women by Javedpk

There was a time when dating was considered as an immoral thing but now the era has changed and it is considered as the need of the time. People do what their heart says. Heart is given privileged over the mind as it guides through the passage of love and that is what a person desires. According to their own desire, it is usually seen that most of the old men do not try to find the date of their age mate but they go for the younger girls who can give them a reminder of their previous years they have passed as golden period of their lifetime.

Research has revealed that this is not only the case with men. Even young girls try to seek the company of older men who can guide them perfectly and take a good care of them. This task of finding the partner of your own choice has been made easy by the arrival of online dating websites where you can find your desired partner in a nice and easy manner. For the sake of dating, you do not have to dress up properly. You can just switch on your computer and you can have a date with your loved one. The ease with which a person can find his date online has revealed many things including the choices of youngsters. On the basis of the results of different surveys that were conducted by such websites, it is said that mostly couples having younger girl and old men enjoy good time as compared to age mates.

People find it really awful if they get to know about a marriage in which a 20 years girl has married to a man of 40 years age. But this is a fact that girls find old men more attractive as compared to their age mates and it has been seen that in most of the cases such couples live a pretty happy life. Hence, it will be unwise to say that this is an unhealthy trend. The youth body and charming looks of a young woman also attracts the older men and that’s why they love to find a young lady. Hence as a result of their mating, a strong relationship can be built that is long lasting and is sincere. However some cases can give deviating results also.