Forgetting the Past to Create New Future in Dating

You Need to Stop Dwelling on the Past

A lot of guys spend way to much time and energy focusing on their past negative experiences in dating women. They think about all the mistakes they have made. They think about all the disappointments they have with women. They may not be aware of it, but dwelling on the past is interfering with them moving forward in their dating life.

You have just got to let go of all the negative experiences in dating to make room for the new positive experiences. Trust me, there will be ups and downs in dating. Not everything goes according to plan and sometimes things just don't work out in relationships. We all get hurt when playing the dating game. You just learn from it and move on.

If you are living trapped in the past as far as dating goes there is always a new beginning and the best way for you to prepare for it is by getting rid of the old past. Don't spend time dwelling on where you have been. It's time to focus on where you are going in dating today. Don't worry about the past. What is done is done. Don't allow the past to dictate your future in dating. Begin today by making a commitment and declare that your negative dating experiences are over and forgotten.

Dating Tips for Men

Some Dating Tips to Help You Succeed with Women

Usually, after a man approaches a strange girl in public it takes longer to reach the point where he can suggest making love, because it takes longer to gain her trust than it would if they met at a party or at work. However, many women are now accepting men as lovers, after much shorter courtships than they were a few years ago.

Another modem feature is that girls sometimes approach men to pick them up. But don't get lazy and depend on this. The really attractive girls aren't the ones most likely to do this, so you still have to get out and make your own opportunities.

Men can be attractive to girls. This is an obvious fact. Whether it is a combination of looks, mannerisms, personality (or whatever else), the end result is that special magic called sex appeal.

You must become a believer in yourself. You must believe that you too can have sex appeal. And of course you can. You simply have to improve and cultivate the assets you already possess.

How to French Kiss a Woman

A Guide to French Kissing a Woman

1. PLEASE DO NOT START OFF WITH A FRENCH KISS, use a proper move and the way to do a regular kiss above.

2. Ok, now you have done a regular kiss and you have pulled away.

3. Instead of just leaving, you go back in and start off again with a regular kiss…note..that is two regular kisses now!

4. During your regular kiss you will turn your head sideways.

5. Then, once your head is slanted you can put your tongue between her lips. NOTE: GRADUALLY AND GENTLY PUT IT IN!

6. Do not put your tongue in very far, you don’t need her choking on your tongue. After you feel your tongue touch hers, just stop and let them touch.

7. After you and your partner have French kissed a few times, then you can start in movement with the tongue.

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How to Give a Relaxing Massage

How to Relax Your Partner's Body When Giving a Massage

Start by connecting with your partner. There may be specific ways you and your partner prefer to do this. If not, try kind words, soft gazing into each other's eyes, synchronized breathing, and/or caressing each others' faces or hands.

When both of you are ready, have your partner lie face down, naked, on the massage table. Start by quieting and focusing your mind while resting your hands on the receiving partner's upper and lower back. Then, perform a relaxing massage on the back, legs, and feet. Basic principles of relaxing massage include keeping your hands in contact with your partner, taking your time, being rhythmic yet sensitive, and proceeding from long gliding strokes to deeper ones. When giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanics: use your body weight rather than arm strength for deep strokes, during gliding strokes keep your knees slightly bent and fluid, and don't lean over the table.

After relaxing your partner's back, legs, and feet, have him or her turn over. Massage the chest, arms, and hands. Then glide down to the legs. It can feel good to brush the genitals when going down to the legs. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet, glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals, teasing them. This teasing process can be drawn out by brushing the inner thighs near the genitals, very lightly touching the pubic region, etc. At this point erotic energy is often building, making it a natural time to start shifting the focus to more explicitly sexual activities.

Especially if this is your first massage with this partner, it's a good idea to look into your partner's eyes while cradling his or her genitals, and somehow ask his or her permission to go further. The rest of the massage will focus on the genitals, with periodic sweeps up and down the body to spread, balance, and integrate the sensations. One of the skills that comes with practice is being able to read the energy and arousal levels of your partner, and smoothly and gradually ramp up from relaxing massage to more arousing and sexual.

A Guide to Using Lubricants for Massage

Lubrication Tips for Massage

One similarity between men and women is that some sort of lubricant needs to be used when massaging their genitals: this will make the experience more pleasurable and prevent sore spots from developing. One difference between men and women is that one may use oil-based, water-based, or silicone-based lubricants on men, while one should use only water-based lubricants on women to avoid encouraging vaginal infections. For genital massage on men, or for massage elsewhere on a man or woman's body, you can purchase special massage oils at massage supply shops or else just use a light vegetable oil (such as Safflower, Sunflower, or grapeseed) from the supermarket. Lubricants and oils should be reapplied as necessary, so it's good to keep them handy.

It's very convenient to have flip-top squeeze bottles for lubes and oils, and one of those massage oil "belts" that massage supply shops sell. Since many of these belts have two pockets, you could use one for lube and the other for massage oil. Be sure lubes and oils are warm before putting them on someone; if you wish you can run hot tap water over your flip-top bottles for a few minutes before using them, or maybe you could just keep the plastic bottles in a bowl of warm water instead of using a belt. It's also a good idea to put lubricants in your hand before applying them so you have a chance to rub your hands together to warm them if necessary. Oh, and one final word of advice: please be sure any water-based lube you may be using DOESN'T contain Nonoxynol-9. In this context Nonoxynol-9 is unlikely to do anything but irritate.

How to Get Ready to Massage a Woman

Getting Set Up to Massage a Woman

Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your erotic massage shows that you care about your woman and value pleasure. Start by turning off the phones. You may wish to put a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door, illuminate the room with either candles or soft indirect lamps, burn incense, and turn up the heat to where one would be comfortable lying down naked. Keep your lubricants, oils, and gloves (if needed or desired) within easy reach, and cover the massage table with a blanket and place a clean sheet over this blanket. You can let the sides of the blanket and sheet drape over the sides of the table so that they may be brought up to cover the receiving partner (keeping him or her warm) after the massage is finished.

Pieces of (possibly fake) fur or feathers can be used for additional sensual tantalization, and an eye pillow or blindfold can be helpful in blocking out any unwanted light for your partner.

Putting a CD (or prerecorded tape) of your favorite music on repeat play is a good idea. Some people are more comfortable with a pillow or rolled bath towel underneath their knees and/or head (when lying face up) or their ankles (when lying face down), and some women will be more comfortable with a pillow underneath their hips; if this is your first massage with your partner you might want to experiment a little or ask him or her.

If you're going to be giving the massage, take a look at your fingernails and clip them if necessary.