Relationships and Pitfalls
Relationship Pitfalls
There are some things in a relationship that almost always end any relationship very quickly. In rare circumstances, a relationship may be able to survive these hardships, but more often than not, they will end. If you know what to look for and what to avoid in your relationship, you can avoid these things that will destroy everything that you have worked to build with your partner.
One of the biggest reasons for a relationship ending is dishonesty and trust issues. It is essential to be able to trust your partner in a relationship. If you are not able to have complete trust and honesty, it leads to a relationship where you are questioning every little thing that happens. You begin to find reasons to fight with your partner. You look for little subtle signs of a problem and you blow this way out of proportion. Granted, none of this would happen if your partner was just being open and honest with you. However, you are taking this to a whole new level and compounding the problem.
Another huge problem within relationships is infidelity and cheating. It does not matter if you are just dating or if you are married to someone. The impact of an unfaithful partner is the same in any situation.
This can lead to a lot of questioning and self esteem issues. You begin to wonder why you cannot make them happy. You wonder why they had to find someone else to be with you. Then, the anger sets in.
You are hurt and betrayed. You seek revenge. You want to get back at your partner for being unfaithful to you. In some cases, you blame the person that they cheated with and not your partner. This is not the right answer at all.
Your partner is the one that is in a relationship with you. Therefore, it was their decision to be with someone else. The other person may not have even known that they were in a relationship. Make sure that the right people are getting the blame. But, most often if someone is unfaithful once, it is going to happen again. For this reason, many people choose to just end the relationship after finding out about an episode of being unfaithful.
Another way to ruin a relationship is to avoid your partner. You make excuses and find reasons to not spend time with your partner. When you are together, you are doing your own thing and not spending any quality time with them. You may be in another room. You may be on the computer. You will find anything that you possibly can to avoid having to spend any time with them. Perhaps you are no longer interested in them and are just not sure how to tell them. It could also be that you are tired of the relationship or that you want something new and different in the relationship and are afraid to ask for it.
Whatever the case may be, it is much easier and less harmful to just end a relationship than to go on pretending that everything is fine. In the end, the effects are a lot more devastating if there are major issues thrown into the mix. If you no longer want to be with someone, the best way to address this with the least amount of hurt possible is to be upfront and honest. Losing a love is always painful, but losing a love due to lying, cheating, or any other major issue is a lot worse than having someone tell you that they are no longer interested. The emotional toll is much worse.
