Break Up Advice

Dealing With A Break Up - Love Yourself

When you’re dealing with a break up it’s easy to get mired down in bad feelings. You’ve got a broken heart, you’re angry and you feel completely rejected by someone who claimed to love and care about you. It hurts, and it’s necessary to feel that pain when dealing with a break up.

But it’s all too easy to never quite get past it. It’s okay to feel sad, depressed, lonely and even feel sorry for yourself for a while. But don’t let your ex boyfriend or girlfriend ruin your self-confidence and self-esteem.

They did not want to remain in a relationship with you—that’s all it means. It says nothing about you—it’s all about them. It’s all too easy to start thinking things like you’re not smart, funny, pretty or sexy enough for them, so maybe the fault lies with you.

Don’t let yourself think this way! It’s a big lie! If your ex said any of those things to you in anger, that’s just what it was. They were lashing out in anger and pain to try to hurt you. Don’t let it!

When you’re dealing with a break up there are already so many bad feelings there that adding in feelings of inadequacy will only make you feel worse. And you’ll feel bad for a longer period of time. It can even sabotage your other relationships if you truly start to feel badly about yourself.

If you already have low self-confidence or self-esteem, these kinds of feelings will only send you spiraling down into a real mess of emotions. You have to understand that rejection is part of life, and just because one person rejects you it doesn’t mean that you’re unworthy of love and affection from other people.

If you feel at all like you’re unworthy or that inadequacies that you have are why you’re now dealing with a break up, try reading a couple of books about relationships and how to make them work. Read about how to be a more giving part of a couple.

Even if you’re not the one at fault, it never hurts to learn more about relationships. You might learn some tips and gain some insight that can help your next relationship.

Next, try reading a book or two about how to gain self-confidence and self-esteem. The things you learn in those books won’t just help your next relationship but they’ll help you in every aspect of your life. If you’re feeling badly about yourself from dealing with a break up, you need to read things like that to build yourself back up and help you get over it.

Read motivational books about self-confidence and personal power and really practice the tips they give to help you feel more comfortable with yourself. And if there’s something about yourself that you’re really not happy about, and it’s something that’s bothered you for a long time, then change it.

Dealing with a break up can open doors to all sorts of self-improvement and self-love if only you’ll let it.

 

Sex advice

Becoming physically intimate too soon can be fatal to a relationship. It can shatter the slowly developing friendship and trust between the two of you. It magnifies and distorts feelings, clouds judgment, and superimposes cruel reality on hopes and dreams ("Is that all there is?"). It narrows options and introduces tensions and pressures into what was a joyous and carefree acquaintanceship. It damns you for lack of respect for the woman, and for lack of discipline on your part. It is begging for trouble.

Getting to know a woman, "touching" her is critically important in a relationship. Physical contact at the wrong time can intrude, hinder real understanding, block communication.

You can learn more about each other by joining your voices in song, by becoming one in music and lyrics and poetry, than by sleeping together. You can get a deeper sense of communion by sharing a meal than by sharing a bed. Just holding hands or a gentle kiss can easily be more explosively effective in linking the two of you than having sex.

Physical intimacy implies commitment, responsibility, a sense of permanence. It is a promise. The two of you should be fully committed to each other before you seal the bond with lovemaking. Sex should never be undertaken lightly, without a full understanding of its implications... and consequences.

How You Dress When Around Women

Discussion on How You Dress

Perhaps the most important reason for being well dressed is the effect it has upon you. Certainly you are aware of how much better you feel when you are dressed up and kissin' fresh. Your confidence really soars. If you know you look sharp, your self-esteem is increased dramatically.

I have noticed that when I am well dressed, people definitely are friendlier and more receptive to me. Whether it is their favorable reaction to my appearance, or a reflection of my own confidence, I can't be sure. But the effect is very real, and a very important asset.

Nevertheless, you may sometimes find an opportunity to pick up a girl when you are in working clothes (and with some occupations you may get quite dirty). You should try anyway. Men are often quite successful in these situations. In fact sometimes the only opportunity you may get with a particular girl may be while working (or just after work). But we still feel that being well dressed and clean is an advantage; and you should strive for it if you have any choice in the matter.

52 Free Things To Do With Your Partner On Date Night

Where to Go on Dates

One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner, cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is left?

Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other less important things will crowd in and take what precious little time you do have. Pick a night that will be “date night” with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.

To get you started, I’ve come up with some suggestions to help you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.

WINTER

• 1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations.
• 2. Play cards---perhaps strip poker.
• 3. Watch a movie together.
• 4. Go outside and have a snowball fight.
• 5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass.
• 6. Go sleigh riding.
• 7. Go ice skating.
• 8. Work out or exercise together.
• 9. Stage your own improvisation show.
• 10. Sing to each other.
• 11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.
• 12. Play a board game---perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister.
• 13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours.

SPRING

• 14. Work on a remodeling project together.
• 15. Plan and complete a yard work project together.
• 16. Do the spring cleaning together---room by room. When done, reward yourself by making love in the room you’ve cleaned.
• 17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle after some drenching rain.
• 18. Give each other a massage.
• 19. Play catch---football, baseball, softball or Frisbee.
• 20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your dreams.
• 21. Shoot basketball together.
• 22. Dance together.
• 23. Take a shower together and wash each other---everywhere.
• 24. Take a free adult education class together.
• 25. Go to a mall and have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free samples.
• 26. Go rollerblading or bike riding.

SUMMER

• 27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows.
• 28. Go swimming or skinny dipping.
• 29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure.
• 30. Go somewhere crowded to people watch.
• 31. Go to a free outdoor event, perhaps a concert.
• 32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars.
• 33. Go on a picnic.
• 34. Watch a fireworks display.
• 35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you’d like to be for the night who is also exciting for your partner.
• 36. Sit by the water somewhere.
• 37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other.
• 38. Have a water balloon fight.
• 39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other.

FALL

• 40. Go for a drive together.
• 41. Go window shopping.
• 42. Incorporate food into your love making---chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries---anything you and your partner enjoy.
• 43. Call or write to someone you haven’t had contact with in a while.
• 44. Cook something together.
• 45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events.
• 46. Take a bubble bath together.
• 47. Go to a free movie or museum.
• 48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties.
• 49. Create an imaginary story together---either orally or in written form.
• 50. Take turns being each other’s genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner’s every wish and fantasy.
• 51. Play in the fallen leaves.
• 52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.

Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you don’t have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or to repeat your favorites as often as you’d like.

The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.

As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.

Please don’t let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean---the job, the kids, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time you’ve set aside for each other.

Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises, do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influence. With more than 50% of today’s marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. What’s stopping you? Start today.

How to Approch Women with Friendly Attitude

The Friendly Happy Attitude

The Friendly Happy Attitude

A friendly, happy attitude is a very important part of your approach to a girl. It should start before you even begin talking. It can be displayed as you walk towards her, by eye contact, body language, and a pleasant smile. A smile is infectious. Your smile will usually be answered by a smile, and you have thus set the scene for a friendly conversation.

Of course, you should not freeze a perpetual smile on your face -you would appear a little stupid. Your smile should be modulated according to the circumstance - used only when appropriate.

13 Types of Girls You Should Avoid Dating

Avoid Dating These Girls

In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman. Many of them consider that if she is beautiful and well dressed, its the perfect partner they are looking for. But they don't know that behind this appearance its hiding something worst.

Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid for to not be hurt again.

Desperate girl

-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn't get married yet because she hasn't met the perfect man for her

-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does

-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage material

-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her

Materialistic girl

-usually is good looking and well dressed

-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker

-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet

-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female

-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more

-she is greed personified

-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings

-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money

Angry girl

-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle

-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address

-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man

-she is always upset and angry

-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the words like she wants

-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at any moment

Insecure girl

-she is very nice and treats men very well

-but she suffers by frustration

-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision

-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat

-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries incessantly

Stupid girl

-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing smart

-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation

Uptown girl

-she is very rich

-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it

-she only dates the best of best

-is entirely focused on herself

-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little girl''

-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes

Childish girl

-everything in life hurts this kind of girl

-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her

-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake -avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will

be thrown on yourself

Elusive girl

-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship

-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present

-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away

-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never understand her

Talking girl

-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything

-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is happening or speaking around her

Romantic girl

-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels

-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her

-she doesn't know how the real world is

-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess

Dragger girl

-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that

-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag

-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing that could happen ever

Controlling girl

-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too

-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat

-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic until you give up

Flirting girl

-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity

-has a big power of attraction

-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along

With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.

Overcoming First Date Nervous

How to Overcome First Date Nerves with Women

Tip #1: Add a bit of boost to your regular hygiene regimen by putting some sweet scents in your bath. Indulge in a good long soak early enough on the night of your date to give the fragrance time to soak into your skin. Your body will carry the scent throughout the date.

Tip #2: Instead of worrying about your clothes, pick an outfit you feel comfortable in, one that makes you feel good about yourself, and whether or not your butt looks fat will be the last thing on your mind.

Tip #3: Be you. Don't try to hamper or hinder your normal state. Just be yourself. If the guy you're with doesn't appreciate your originality, then he's probably not the guy for you anyway. You want a man who will love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be when you're with him, right? So always be who you are.

Tip #4: Talk before the date. If you have certain expectations about your upcoming date, you need to make sure the person you're going to be with knows what those expectations are. For example, if you feel uncomfortable around crowds and prefer to dine in a more private setting, he needs to know this before he makes reservations.

Tip #5: Enjoy yourself. First dates aren't wedding ceremonies, so you aren't being locked into a commitment for the rest of your life based on this one night out. Remember that, and just allow yourself to have a good time. You might enjoy yourself so much you're tempted to repeat the experience!