Keeping Relationships Fun

Relationship Fun Keeps A Relationship Alive

We all know how to have fun, at least we used to. For many adults we seem to have lost the ability to just let go and have some fun, along with some great, big belly laughs. Unfortunately that lack of fun can have serious negative effects on us, our health, and our relationships. Put some relationship fun back in your life. You might save your relationship...and your mind!

Having fun with your partner can be virtually anything that the two of you enjoy together. And if it makes you laugh out loud, that's even better. You can go to an amusement park, check out the latest comedy at the local movie theater, stay home and play a energetic video game, whatever. One word of caution though when playing games together: don't let your competitiveness become a problem This isn't a competition between you and your partner, it's a chance for the two of you to share an easy going, fun, time together.

If you are the type of person that is overly competitive (which is almost always a sign of being very insecure and you may want to get some counseling to help you feel better about yourself so you don't always have to 'win') then you'd be better off sticking to non- competitive fun things with your partner, forget the games for now.

When you really let go and act like a twit that can be a scary thing. You might be afraid your partner will think you're weird and make fun of you. When you can share these times with your partner and you are both acting silly together, that actually builds trust between the two of you. That is just another bond between the two of you and your relationship is one step stronger.

When you first started dating your partner, and falling in love, the two of you probably laughed and acted silly all the time. But as we grow into our relationship, especially when we start living together and start sharing the responsibilities of a household, we seem to have fun with our partners less and less.

One thing you can do to determine how much fun is in your relationship, is over the course of a week keep a journal. Mark down how many things you do with your partner that are pleasant such as watch a movie together, talk, go for a walk, play a game, and have sex, etc versus how many non-fun things you do together such as take out the trash, talk about your financial situations, talk about troubles at work, etc.

If this ratio of good times vs. bad times is like most relationships it's probably way out of balance. Most couples will have many more of the mundane daily interactions than they will of the fun loving, building a bond interactions. The first step to changing it is to recognize it.

You can strengthen your bond with your partner by putting some relationship fun back into your everyday lives. It's not a hard thing to do and you'll both feel better about yourselves, about each other, and about your relationship...what could be better?

Do You Need Counseling

Relationship Counseling Advice

He said. She said. Pretty soon, what either of you said doesn’t matter because all you are doing is fighting. When should you go get relationship counseling?

Relationship counseling is the term for going to a therapist as a couple to work out differences. You can go to a counselor when you are having difficulties in your relationship that might cause you to break up or when you are ready to take the relationship to a new level.

Relationship counseling helps you to open up new lines of communication. The therapist can help you by posing questions, pointing out contradictions, and helping you stay civil as you work out your differences.

Relationships are about compromise, but compromise is difficult. Relationship counseling can be helpful in working out these important compromises that will make your relationship work.

Relationship counseling only works if both parties are willing and able to commit to it. If your motivation is not sincere, you are not likely to get much out of it. While the skill of the therapist is an important factor in determining how successful the counseling is, even the most skilled therapist cannot work miracles with couples who are not thoroughly engaged in the counseling process.

Here is a brief summary of how to get the most out of relationship therapy.

1.) Acknowledge there is a problem. Until both parties are willing to state that there is a problem and that they have the willingness to work at resolving the problem, there is no hope for relationship therapy to succeed.

2.) Be prepared to realize that you are part of the reason there is a problem. Too many times, one partner wants to go into counseling because they perceive that the other partner has a problem. But a relationship is a two way street. Unless you are willing to find out that you have contributed to the problem in big ways and small, you will not have a good therapeutic experience.

3.) Be willing to change. Acknowledging that you are part of the problem isn’t on its face enough. You have to be willing to grow and change. The therapist can help you realize how to change, but you have to be willing to do the hard work of implementing the change.

4.) Don’t expect the therapist to be a magician. Your therapist can’t waive a magic wand and “fix” your relationship. Counseling is a mechanism for you to solve your problems, but it only works if you work. That is, it is a means for you to do the hard work in your relationship. If you come into relationship counseling with unrealistic expectations, you are bound to be dissatisfied with the results.

5.) Know that it takes time. You won’t solve your relationship problems in one session or even five. You have to commit to making counseling work for you, even if it means going for a fair amount of time.

Relationship counseling is a commitment of time, money, and emotional energy. If your relationship is worth saving, relationship counseling may be the answer for you.

One Night Stands with Women

Not All Men are After a One Night Stand

But all the men who make a move to contact a strange girl (in a public place) are not after one night stands, as you, the reader, may not be. With many men the main idea is to meet an exciting new girl. What develops out of the meeting, they can't predict. But it might end up being a meaningful relationship.

Still other men are just being friendly, with no immediate intentions further than that.

These differing objectives of other men make your pick-up attempt less obvious. When you are approaching a strange girl, whatever your intentions may be, any person watching, or the girl herself, really does not know what your intentions are. They cannot know if you are interested in getting her to bed. Not for sure anyhow. You can make your intentions known to the girl when you choose. This takes a lot of pressure off of you. You are not appearing in public, proclaiming to everyone that you are out looking for sex. You are simply a friendly, courteous individual saying "Hello" to a girl.

Relationship Advice on Cheaters

Relationship Advice

Relationship Break Up Advice - How To Save Your Relationship Or Move On

Are you looking for relationship breakup advice? Then you're probably feeling as though this is one of the lowest points in your life. Now that may very well be true, but however badly you're feeling right now, this feeling will pass! You will get through this!

What you do now, depends on the outcome you're looking for. If you're ready for the relationship to be over and have no interest in trying to save the relationship, then then you will go one way. If on the other hand you're looking for a way to save your relationship, then you will need a whole different set of tips and strategies to make this happen.

Relationship breakup advice for those who want to save their relationship is based on how you handle yourself in the run-up to the breakup and immediately after the breakup. If you are at the point in your relationship where your partner has just announced they want to end the relationship, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you.

Agree to the breakup, let your ex go and wish them well. Your plan now is to get yourself together. Yes you're devastated that the one you love has walked out, but you have to find a way to deal with that devastation and to deal with it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future.

So spend some time coming to terms with what has happened in the relationship. You need to do this on your own, without your ex. Make no attempt to contact your ex, instead find your friends and your family and let them help you through this upsetting time.

What you can also do is to make peace with yourself. We all make mistakes and depending on the level of your mistake, it is forgivable! So don't spend the next few weeks beating yourself up. When it comes to contacting your ex in a few weeks, you need to be emotionally sound and appealing to pull off the reconciliation.

If you have no interest in rekindling the relationship, then the relationship breakup advice you're looking for is about finding strategies about how to cope with the trauma. You need to be able to move on with your life, so above all, give yourself time. Treat the ending of the relationship almost like a death.

It really doesn't matter whether you wanted the relationship to end or not. The point is it has ended and there was a time when you had real hopes for the relationship. Acknowledge that and acknowledge your disappointment that it has ended and you'll come through this in time.

Relationship Advice on Break Ups

Relationship Advice

Relationship Break Up Advice - How To Save Your Relationship Or Move On

Are you looking for relationship breakup advice? Then you're probably feeling as though this is one of the lowest points in your life. Now that may very well be true, but however badly you're feeling right now, this feeling will pass! You will get through this!

What you do now, depends on the outcome you're looking for. If you're ready for the relationship to be over and have no interest in trying to save the relationship, then then you will go one way. If on the other hand you're looking for a way to save your relationship, then you will need a whole different set of tips and strategies to make this happen.

Relationship breakup advice for those who want to save their relationship is based on how you handle yourself in the run-up to the breakup and immediately after the breakup. If you are at the point in your relationship where your partner has just announced they want to end the relationship, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you.

Agree to the breakup, let your ex go and wish them well. Your plan now is to get yourself together. Yes you're devastated that the one you love has walked out, but you have to find a way to deal with that devastation and to deal with it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future.

So spend some time coming to terms with what has happened in the relationship. You need to do this on your own, without your ex. Make no attempt to contact your ex, instead find your friends and your family and let them help you through this upsetting time.

What you can also do is to make peace with yourself. We all make mistakes and depending on the level of your mistake, it is forgivable! So don't spend the next few weeks beating yourself up. When it comes to contacting your ex in a few weeks, you need to be emotionally sound and appealing to pull off the reconciliation.

If you have no interest in rekindling the relationship, then the relationship breakup advice you're looking for is about finding strategies about how to cope with the trauma. You need to be able to move on with your life, so above all, give yourself time. Treat the ending of the relationship almost like a death.

It really doesn't matter whether you wanted the relationship to end or not. The point is it has ended and there was a time when you had real hopes for the relationship. Acknowledge that and acknowledge your disappointment that it has ended and you'll come through this in time.

Relationship Advice Online

Relationship Advice Online

Most of us at one point or another in our lives will find ourselves in a difficult spot in our relationship. It can be tough to know which way to turn. There is help though, seeking out relationship advice online is one way to go.

For most people when faced with a crisis, of any kind, the first thing they do is talk things over with family or friends. And often, that's all it takes. Usually our problems aren't so in depth that it takes much more than a shoulder to cry on and a little tlc.

Sometimes, however, our problems go much deeper and not only do we need good advice, we need good un-biased advice, and that is something you can not go to your family and friends for. They will have their opinion sure, but it won't be unbiased. More than likely they will take your side in most everything...even if you're the one who is wrong.

If you're trying to salvage a relationship, that is not what you need. You need an objective person to tell you the truth, even the things you may not want to really hear. The painful truths, often the ones we run away from, are usually just what we need to hear.

Hiring a professional counselor or therapist can be a good way to go too. But before you do, keep a few things in mind. Therapists are just like any other group of professionals, some are better than others.

You should be particularly careful when choosing a faith based counselor. Why? Because sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes they will encourage you to stay in your relationship at all costs. They may be more concerned with their own religious beliefs and their bias against getting a divorce than they are for your well being and happiness. And the really bad part is they may not even realize they are doing it.

Now, I want to be clear. Using a faith based counseling service isn't a bad idea, just remember that everyone has an opinion, even non faith based therapists will have their own opinions, just make sure whatever therapist you see isn't blinded by their own opinion to the detriment of helping you figure out the best course of action for you.

And, last but not least, you can always use the enormous resources of the internet to help with your relationship questions. You could find forums, chat rooms, blogs, etc on relationships and relationship advice.

As with any other type of counseling just make sure you take everything with a grain of salt. Using online resources can be easier for some people since many people have a hard time opening up about personal issues face to face.

It can sometimes be easier to 'spill your guts' anonymously online. That can be a huge benefit since total honesty will be necessary to make the necessary changes in your life and to help you in your relationship.

So, if you're facing issues in your relationship and you want to get help just remember that you don't have to rely only on the 'traditional' offline methods. There is plenty of very good relationship advice online that can help you sort out all of your relationship issues.

How to Revive a Relationship

Rebuilding Your Relationship To Rekindle The Passion

There comes a point in almost any successful relationship where things calm down and cool off. There is no longer a major spark between the partners. They get comfortable in their relationship and develop a routine. They no longer find as much time to spend together. Often, this is not due to a lack of desire between the couple. Most often it is the fact that life gets in the way. They may have children or careers to deal with. They are busy and just do not have the free time that they had when their relationship was in the beginning stages.

Most people realize this problem and they will eventually have a desire to change it. They want to get that spark back and reconnect with each other. No matter how strong that desire and want is however, they have to find ways to change it. If they cannot, then there is no way that things will change and in the end they could have a relationship that ends due to the needs not being met. There is nothing worse than knowing that there is a problem and doing nothing to change it or make it better. This is a self destructive pattern.

It is important to make time to spend with your partner. No matter how long you have been in a relationship, you should still go on dates and have personal time alone. Not only does this keep the relationship healthy, but it also protects your sanity. You are free to focus on nothing but, the other person. There are no kids to contend with and no outside interference.

Ideally, dates should be made at least once a month. Hire a babysitter ahead of time so that you are not stuck without anyone to watch the kids on the night of your date. You do not have to go out and do anything that costs a lot of money. It is more about spending time together than it is about what you do.

A simple walk in the park or picnic under the stars is very romantic. In some cases, you do not even have to go out. Find friends or family that the kids can spend the night with. Then, have a candlelit dinner with your partner. You could also cuddle up on the couch together and watch a movie. There are unending possibilities of what you can do for your date. Just set the dates and stick to them. It is all about follow through.

Spending time together is often all that is needed to put the spark back into a relationship. You will find that you are less stressed and that your bond is stronger. You begin to find time to be together again. You have that old desire. There is no longer a monotonous life that has taken over.

You begin to change your relationship and get it back to the way that it used to be. This can ensure that you are together for a very long time and that you are both happy.