3 Things to Help You Survive a Break Up

Surviving A Breakup - 3 Things To Help

Surviving a breakup can feel impossible, especially if you didn’t really want the relationship to end. But even if you were the one who decided it was over, it can feel crummy to have such an important part of your life end. There are three important things you can to help with surviving a breakup.

First, let yourself be sad. It’s natural to not want to feel sad. None of us likes to be upset or depressed. But when a relationship ends, no matter who ended it, you lose a part of your life. If you haven’t been dating long, the sad period probably won’t last that long. But for a long-term relationship, you might be sad for a long time.

It’s important, as painful as it is, to allow yourself to feel that way. The tendency is to avoid those feelings and try to move on to something that feels better. But being sad is a necessary step in the healing process.

Letting yourself feel the sadness will let you deal with the emotions and the pain. Remember that surviving a breakup is more than just moving on. If you can deal with the bad feelings, you’ll be better to able to experience the good feelings that come when you’ve moved on.

Second, keep busy. You have to deal with the sadness and not deny it or push it aside, but that doesn’t mean you can or should let yourself wallow in it. If you feel like spending the entire day in bed crying, you can let yourself do that. But the next day, even if you feel that way again, make yourself do something else.

Let yourself cry for an hour, and then find an activity to help distract you. Even if it’s only watching a movie, at least you’ll be able to concentrate on something else for brief periods of time.

Keep in mind that no matter how “active” your activity might be, sad thoughts and memories will still creep in. Even if you’re solving a hard puzzle and concentrating to distract yourself, now and then a memory will pop up and your mind will be back on the breakup. This is normal.

You just have to deal with the feeling briefly and not let it sidetrack you. Feel it, cry for a bit if you need to, and then keep concentrating on your activity. Soon, the sad thoughts and feelings will pop up less and less when you’re doing other things.

Finally, decide to forgive your ex. Surviving a breakup isn’t just about leaving one relationship and looking for another.

You need to resolve things in the old relationship to help you be more emotionally healthy in the next relationship. If you were hurt in the relationship, forgive your ex for his or her part in that.

This might seem an impossible task. Start by realizing that it really does take two, and that surviving a breakup is more important than having someone to blame for it.

How to Use Speed Dating

Speed Dating to Meet the Opposite Sex

Speed dating occurs when people go to a speed dating place looking for someone who might be a good match for them. This includes a very quick meeting with many different people and you see if there is someone there who you might be compatible with.

Speed dating is when many women and men sit at tables. A woman and a man will sit at each table for a specified period of time. It may be two minutes or ten minutes depending on the speed dating place you are at.

During this period of time, the two will ask each other questions and get to know a little about each other. They have the opportunity to quickly get a run down on each person and decide if they are someone they might be interested in getting to know a little better after.

When the time is up then the women or the men will move to the next table and talk to another person.

After each of the couples have met and spoke to each other they will give the numbers of the people or say which people they are interested in. If both people show an interest then they have the opportunity to communicate and go out together.

During the speed dating process while couples are at the table they may exchange information with each other also, if they hit it off right away.

Speed dating is not for everyone but some people really like meeting new people and finding a date this way. Many people like this method because they get to meet the people in person and talk with them rather than online or by going on a blind date.

It is said that if there is chemistry between the two people then it is immediately recognized during a speed dating session.

How to be a Successful Couple

Successful Relationship Couples Work Hard To Keep The Spark Alive

In a successful relationship, couples work very hard to keep the spark alive. So how do they do that? By honest and open communication. It is amazing how many misunderstandings crop up between men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don’t Read Maps" etc.

All couples argue but it is how they do it that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Try being open about how you are feeling. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!

Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each other's to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.

One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asker, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.

A very important part of having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.

In order to be part of a successful couple, you first have to love yourself. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.

You also cannot depend on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. You have a life of your own and if you live it fully, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.

Advice on Wheter to Use Internet Matchmaking Sites to Meet and Date Seniors

Senior Internet Dating - Great Idea Or Cheap Thrill

Senior Internet Dating sites are starting to become more widespread. Are they a great idea or a cheap thrill?

Internet dating is very inexpensive. In fact, a lot of the sites are free to join. You have to pay small fees if you want to access the full service such as emailing people you would be interesting in meeting, or to be told that someone wants to meet you.

So what is the downside to senior internet dating? Well, there is no personal service. You are left to your own devices. You have to come up with your own description, decide whether to post a photo or not, decide on what type of partner you are looking for etc.

With an introduction agency, you pay someone to help you with all of these details. They also help you to discover some potential matches. So while cheap, it does have its drawbacks.

But the plus points to senior internet dating is that you immediately weed out a lot of timewasters. Those that don't meet your criteria based on sex, ethnicity, marital status etc won't appear on your list of prospects. There also tends to be more men online than woman which may be a plus point. For some reason, women tend to live longer than men (my husband says we nag men to death - I say we are in fact the stronger sex!), so when it comes to senior dating opportunities, the men can be a little scarce.

Some people are understandably wary of using the internet to find potential partners. It can help to remember that the other people in the dating site are there for the same reason you are. Most internet dating sites insist that their members keep their personal details such as real name, address and cell numbers a secret. You communicate via the sites own internal email system so you don't even need to disclose your private email address.

You may not meet your ideal mate directly via the site but be open to the possibilities. when I was younger and single, my Mom used to encourage me to go on dates with guys even when I thought they weren't my type. Her reasoning was that while they may not be my Mr Right, their brother or best friend might be. The same applies online. Meeting people via dating sites opens up a whole new field of potential social encounters. Introductions that wouldn't have happened had you not agreed to one date with Mr X or Ms Y.

When it comes to senior internet dating, always put your best foot forward. Don't be shy when writing your personal profile. Remember that your winning smile can't be seen if you haven't posted a photo so your profile is what will "sell" you to prospective admirers. But treat your profile with respect. Remember less is more - never use it to rant on about the problems with x, y or z. You want to attract people not repel them in their droves.

Have fun with senior internet dating. Don't take it too seriously and you just may end up with the partner of your dreams.

The Art of Giving Flowers

Giving Flowers

There is the expected, and there is the unexpected. When it's a special day for your significant other or close friend, he or she may be expecting something, and it is important to come through. But, most people agree that the best time to receive flowers and gifts is when they aren't expecting them at all.

A recent survey shows that for every 20 Americans who think Valentine's Day is the best time to receive flowers, 30 others think it's even more special when flowers are received with no special occasion in mind. It's the unexpected surprise and thoughtfulness behind the gift that means so much.

A gift on an Anniversary or Mother's Day may be rightfully expected, but receiving a gift that express love in the middle of a stressful week can turn a troubled time to a happy one. When you really love someone, it's often the little unexpected gestures that really show them how much you care. And, sending a surprise message of caring doesn't have to cost a bundle.

While 26% percent of Americans named jewelry as the gift most likely to make them smile, flowers ranked a close second at 23%, and there are a variety of fresh flower gift options at most local florists in the $10 to $20 range. Other great gifts include candies, cards, books, CDs, a special dinner out, or a romantic movie at home. Use your imagination.

Giving Flowers

There is the expected, and there is the unexpected. When it's a special day for your significant other or close friend, he or she may be expecting something, and it is important to come through. But, most people agree that the best time to receive flowers and gifts is when they aren't expecting them at all.

A recent survey shows that for every 20 Americans who think Valentine's Day is the best time to receive flowers, 30 others think it's even more special when flowers are received with no special occasion in mind. It's the unexpected surprise and thoughtfulness behind the gift that means so much.

A gift on an Anniversary or Mother's Day may be rightfully expected, but receiving a gift that express love in the middle of a stressful week can turn a troubled time to a happy one. When you really love someone, it's often the little unexpected gestures that really show them how much you care. And, sending a surprise message of caring doesn't have to cost a bundle.

While 26% percent of Americans named jewelry as the gift most likely to make them smile, flowers ranked a close second at 23%, and there are a variety of fresh flower gift options at most local florists in the $10 to $20 range. Other great gifts include candies, cards, books, CDs, a special dinner out, or a romantic movie at home. Use your imagination.

Think flowers and gifts are just for women? Think again. Research shows that men are just as likely as women to appreciate flowers and gifts, especially when given for no special occasion. A colorful bouquet with a bold, masculine flair can brighten up any guy's office workday, and the gift's beauty and aroma will remind him of you every time he sees it.

We all like presents, and most people agree that an unexpected gift can turn a day around. So, remember what great gift-givers throughout the ages have always known -- it's that thoughtful gift and personal note for "no special reason" that really gets noticed. Whether it's a Monday, a bad hair day, laundry day, or any day of the week, you can always make it more special with flowers, a card, or some other personal token delivered. But whatever it is, the most important thing is that it is straight from the heart.

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By John E. Williams, courtesy of the fresh flowers gift people at 1-800-FLORALS, providing same day and next day florist delivery of roses, bouquets, plants, and gift baskets throughout the USA and Canada, since 1923.

You may repost this article in its entirety on the Internet as long as the link and byline are included.

Think flowers and gifts are just for women? Think again. Research shows that men are just as likely as women to appreciate flowers and gifts, especially when given for no special occasion. A colorful bouquet with a bold, masculine flair can brighten up any guy's office workday, and the gift's beauty and aroma will remind him of you every time he sees it.

We all like presents, and most people agree that an unexpected gift can turn a day around. So, remember what great gift-givers throughout the ages have always known -- it's that thoughtful gift and personal note for "no special reason" that really gets noticed. Whether it's a Monday, a bad hair day, laundry day, or any day of the week, you can always make it more special with flowers, a card, or some other personal token delivered. But whatever it is, the most important thing is that it is straight from the heart.

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By John E. Williams, courtesy of the fresh flowers gift people at 1-800-FLORALS, providing same day and next day florist delivery of roses, bouquets, plants, and gift baskets throughout the USA and Canada, since 1923.

You may repost this article in its entirety on the Internet as long as the link and byline are included.

Signs You Are Clicking with Your Date

Tips For Deciding If You Click With Your Date

There is a sad reality that is happening in our society today. We go on a date with someone. We think that things are going great. We have had a wonderful time. After the date is over, we never hear from the other person again. We are left with feelings of inadequacy, confusion, and frustration. We do not know why things did not work out or what the reasoning is, so this makes the situation even worse. We blame ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong.

You can find out on a first date how things are going and if there is a future for the relationship. There are specific signs that you should watch for. If you are able to spot these signs on a first date you will know what the future is going to bring.

You should pay attention to the body language of your date. See how they are reacting to you during conversations. This includes things such as eye contact. If a person is interested in you, they will look into your eyes while you are talking. Eyes are the key to a person’s soul. If you watch the eyes, you will soon find out what the person is thinking and how they are feeling about things.

Mimicking your gestures is another part of body language that is very important. It will be done out of habit. It is not a conscious reaction, but occurs when you are doing something that your date finds attractive. The more your date is copying your actions and motions, the more interested they are in you.

If a person is mimicking your actions or leaning towards you during a conversation, these are signs that the date is going well and is a success. Head nodding or tilting while you are speaking are other signs to pay attention to. These signs mean that a person is interested in the conversation and what you are saying. If a person crosses their arms while you are talking, this is a negative sign and a warning flag. They are showing signs of resistance or anger towards you and the way that the date is going.

There are many differences between genuine flirting and faking a date. Knowing the difference between these can help you to know the future of the relationship and where things are headed. If the person is smiling, has eye contact for long periods of time, and can be seen biting or licking their lips while touching you, it is a good sign that they are into you.

People that spend time touching or fixing their clothes or hair shows that they are focused on their appearance. Oftentimes women will cross and then uncross their legs. Men will throw their shoulders back as a sign of flirting.

The ending of the date is also very important. You need to focus on how the other person acts when they are leaving you after the date. If a person walks you to the door instead of dropping you off at the curb, this is a very good sign. This is a sign of respect and is also a way of the other person showing you that they want to spend time with you and want to see you again. They are showing that they care about your security and your safety. This is shown through their willingness to walk you to the door and make sure that you get there safely.

Let’s face it guys and gals making sure you click with your date, can mean the difference between having a meaningful relationship are getting the “bums rush".

Personals the Best Way to go for Senior Men

Senior Dating - Personals Are The Way Forward

When you are ready to start senior dating, personals can be the best way to obtaining that first date.

Contrary to urban myth, the personal section of most quality newspapers are full of likeminded individuals all looking for a partner to share their lives. Most personals are divided into sections based on sexual orientation and then sub divided by age.

Always state the age of the person you would like to meet. You can pick a broad range but keep it realistic or else your first date could look like a babysitting outing.

Don't discard any replies that are not your ideal mate. You should aim to meet those that match the friendship criteria i.e. you are not attracted to them but would like to spend time with them based on their qualities.

People who fail to meet their partners via personal ads or dating sites are those that close their mind to the other opportunities available. Your new best friend could be into senior golf i.e. he or she could introduce you to a whole golf club of potential partner candidates.

When writing your senior dating personals, you need to put your positive thinking cap on. You are trying to sum up in a few little lines, all those great qualities that make you such an attractive date. Spend time drafting an outline and ask your friends to do the same. Then amalgamate the two and see what the final ad is like.

Proof read your ad several times, sleep on it and then proof read it again. Appearances matter only now you will be judged on your writing and editorial skills not your looks.

Avoid common platitudes. It can sometimes appear as if every single personal ad has a great sense of humour. Be original and a little different - that way you stand out and your ad has more chance of being read.

Post your ad in the correct paper - this may appear obvious but some people end up posting an ad in a paper whose target market doesn't include their ideal partner.

Yes, you should have a fairly good idea of who your ideal partner would be. This way, you will write the ad targeted at that particular market.

Ok success - he or she has phoned in response to your ad. So what do you do now? Well obviously phone them back. Try to stay calm and reduce the nerves.

Always use a code to prevent your real number being revealed (safety, safety) and pick a time when you are feeling relaxed and happy. Keep the call light and obviously check that now is a good time for the other person to talk. Make arrangements to meet in a public place and then end the call.

Do not put pressure on yourself to get to know him/her over the phone. Some people cannot communicate via the phone and thus may not show their best side.

Senior dating personals just may be the road to your new life partnership.