First Date Jitters with Women

5 Tips For Getting Rid Of The First Date Fidgets

Got the first date fidgets? Don't worry, it's natural. First dates tend to make all of us a bit jittery. We worry about things like “bad breath” and “body odor” and whether or not our dress makes our butt look fat.

We wonder whether or not we should laugh at his jokes (“Oh, no, how do I not giggle if he says something funny?”, “Does my laugh sound totally corny?”, “Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut...”) and we tend to expect the guys we're heading out with to know these things already, to know we're feeling more than a little self-conscious, especially since it is our “first date.”

Oddly enough, we also know confidence feels synonymous with power, and the more confident we are, the less we need to worry about all those little things that tend to make us nervous about first dates.

So, to help you into a state of confidence about yourself and out of those horrid “first date fidgets,” I've put together five short, worry-busting confidence boosters you can try before your next first night out.

Tip #1: Add a bit of boost to your regular hygiene regimen by putting some sweet scents in your bath. Indulge in a good long soak early enough on the night of your date to give the fragrance time to soak into your skin. Your body will carry the scent throughout the date.

Tip #2: Instead of worrying about your clothes, pick an outfit you feel comfortable in, one that makes you feel good about yourself, and whether or not your butt looks fat will be the last thing on your mind.

Tip #3: Be you. Don't try to hamper or hinder your normal state. Just be yourself. If the guy you're with doesn't appreciate your originality, then he's probably not the guy for you anyway. You want a man who will love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be when you're with him, right? So always be who you are.

Tip #4: Talk before the date. If you have certain expectations about your upcoming date, you need to make sure the person you're going to be with knows what those expectations are. For example, if you feel uncomfortable around crowds and prefer to dine in a more private setting, he needs to know this before he makes reservations.

Tip #5: Enjoy yourself. First dates aren't wedding ceremonies, so you aren't being locked into a commitment for the rest of your life based on this one night out. Remember that, and just allow yourself to have a good time. You might enjoy yourself so much you're tempted to repeat the experience!

The Five Stages of Courtship Defined

5 Stages of Courtship

In any and all courtships, there are five stages of non-verbal communication that occur. No matter what culture, society, or demographics that a person has, they will always follow these stages in their courtship. Let’s take a look at the five stages and what is involved with each one.

The first stage in courtship is getting attention. You want to let people know that you are single and looking. You do this through your posture, movements, facial expressions, clothing, and other forms of communication that are all non-verbal. You are getting attention in a very subtle way.

Your second stage is learning to read body language. After you have gotten attention, you need to start looking for positive signs from those around you. You are looking for who is responding to your signs asking for attention. Who recognizes your non-verbal cues and is in tune enough to show an interest in them? These are all things that you will see in the body language of the people that are around you. This can tell you a lot about whom to move on to the next stage of courtship with.

In the third stage, verbal communication is introduced. Once you know who is interested, you can start talking with them. However, this stage is also mostly centered on non-verbal communication. There are many things that can be implied by simply saying, “Hello” to someone. It is all in body language and tone of voice.

You can get a good understanding of how things are progressing by what is not being said. Pay close attention to the non-verbal signs that people are giving off. If you see cues that are saying the person is definitely interested, it is much easier to approach them and say Hello. It is also much less frightening and awkward this way.

The fourth stage of courtship involves physical touch. This stage can be very subtle and start out completely innocently. There could be an accidental brushing up against someone or an accidental touch. The response that is received is what will determine where this stage goes. If the person is not interested in taking things further, their non-verbal communication will clearly display this. They will give off clear signs that they have no interest in what is going on. There are different time frames for this stage to last. It is different for each individual couple and their unique situations.

The last stage in courtship involves adding intimacy and sex to the relationship. Once again, as with the first four stages, the non-verbal cues should be your guide in moving forward in this stage. Cuddling, gazing, stroking, kissing, holding hands and other ways to show and display affection will all present themselves during this stage.

If you do not see these signs from your partner, then you are not both ready to move into this stage. When people are intimate with each other, their body language will be very clear. However, their voice and tone will change as well. After all, tone of voice and how we speak can go a long way towards letting our partner know how interested we are in them and how much we desire them and the intimacy that is to follow.

Advice for Improving Relationships

5 relationships Improvement Techniques

Whenever you are balancing the needs of more than one person it can be a challenge, this is especially true in long term relationships. The reason that a long term relationship can present additional challenges is because a lot of small things that have occurred over the years can build up and create a lot of resentment, when that happens, it doesn't take much to upset the whole balance. Use these 5 relationships tips to help get back the balance, and love, your relationship might be missing.

1. It's so easy to let everyday life to get in the way of your intimacy. It can easily seem like too much effort to dress up and go out on a date. It happens all the time. The good news is that even though this can be a common problem, it's also a fairly easy problem to overcome.

Take time for the two of you, even if that means spending some money on a babysitter. When the two of you are out together, make any conversation about finances, kids, or work completely off limits, just enjoy each others company and have some fun. It's important for the overall health of your relationship and the kids will actually benefit in the long run from having two parents who aren't overworked, overstressed and fighting all the time. Invest a few bucks in a sitter now so you don't end up splitting up later.

2. No matter who you are, you can only give your attention to so many things. Some people can divide themselves up more than others, but everyone has a limit. Instead of parceling out your time and attention to your partner, make suer that you find a way to give them your uninterrupted attention. Everyone wants to feel loved and heard, don't make your spouse feel like they're competing for your time, let them feel like they're important to you and that no matter how crazy things get you care enough about them that you will make the effort to make time for them.

3. Learn to talk, really talk. This doesn't mean nag, or whine, or complain, or insult, it means taking turns talking and listening. Give your partner a safe haven to talk about whatever is on their mind without making them feel ridiculed or like their concerns aren't really important.

4. If your partner has a criticism about some aspect of your behavior, don't just get angry. Instead try to objectively look at the situation from your partners point of view. Try to make simple changes if it will make your partner happy.

5. Don't be afraid to tell your partner what you want or need. It's not about making demands, it's about letting someone who cares about you know what they can do that will make you happy.

Don't make your relationship hard work, it really doesn't have to be. Just be willing to listen to your partner and encourage them to listen to you and use these 5 relationships tips as a guideline on your path to a better relationship.

Are You Still in Love with Your Ex

Why Am I Still In Love My Ex

Sometimes you will find yourself in a situation where you can say "While I am still in love, my ex does not feel the same way", and that is surely a horrible situation to find yourself in. How do you go about rekindling love when your ex no longer seems to be interested in making things work? When you approach a situation where you are saying to yourself,

"I am still in love, my ex wants nothing to do with me", it may be time for you to sit down and take something of an inventory of your relationship, not only in its current state but the last state experienced before the breakup actually occurred. Is there anything that you have the power to change or undo in order to restore better feelings between you and your ex? Now is the ideal time to figure this out for your own self.

"What do I do if while I am still in love, my ex does not want anything to do with me?"

The first thing that you need to do is to figure out why your ex is avoiding you. If tensions are still too high following the breakup, then the clear solution is to back off and give him or her some time to chill. If your ex is avoiding you for a specific reason then it may be more advantageous to figure out why. If you cannot ask your ex specifically, you may want to ask any mutual friends that you have to see if you can score some insights about the current tension and what it is that will restore your ex's faith in you again.

Here is some practical advice:

When I realized that I was still in love, my ex still did not seem all too keen on rekindling things with me. I figured I had two different routes that I could take: I could give up on the fact that I was still in love, my ex coming out as the winner in the situation, or I could find some way to truly rekindle things, knowing that it would take work but would have much better potential results. So here's what I did:

* First, without letting on that I was still in love, my ex and I sat down and had a conversation about what "broke down" in the relationship to create the break up in the first place.

* Then I separated myself from my ex for a while so tempers could be calmed and so I could formulate a plan for rekindling things.

* When I felt braver, I re-approached my ex and we started talking about rekindling things again. I was surer of myself and was more obvious about the fact that I was still in love, my ex responded well to my confidence and we ended up rekindling things.

Why You Must be Sensitive to Attract Women

How to be Sensitive with Women

If you are hoping to be successful in the world of seduction, you're going to have to know how to be sensitive. When a woman looks at a man, from her unique perspective, one of the key things she sees is how sensitive you are. It can truly be a pass or fail characteristic. If the lady in your life doesn't see a sensitive side, she's going to be put off. Personality counts for so much, especially if you're hoping to go further with a relationship.

To begin with, it's important to understand just what sensitivity is. Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one of those things that's gotten such a bad rap as to make it virtually a taboo. But false impressions are to blame for that, and we can dismiss such misconceptions here so we can get on with the business of becoming a more sensitive man. But what sensitivity really is, in truth, is responsiveness to things around you. It's a general sense of what's going on.

Unfortunately, you may be thinking you've already got it pegged. But don't think it's just a matter of self-awareness and a general idea of the world around you. The sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit further. Or, put more directly, women are looking for a specific kind of sensitivity in men.

Here's an example you're sure to remember from some movie you once saw: a young couple are walking along a street at night, and the temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had remembered to bring his. He notices her shivering, and quickly offers his coat to her, despite his own need for the coat.

Okay, that's a basic example. But what matters is that the guy was aware of his girlfriend's need, and he did something about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for her. This is a big deal. When a man can be more concerned about the welfare of someone else than himself, he's got a chance to impress the ladies.

Coversation Starters to Use on Women

How to Talk to Women

A very common one-liner to start a conversation with a woman in a bar or a dancing is: "Don't I know you from somewhere? You seem familiar..." But it is one VERY BAD one-liner. Because a woman obviously doesn't want to look "familiar." She wants to look "special". And because this one-liner is so old and not in the least original. And what to do if she says NO? Then you are left with the suggestion that, even IF you two had ever met, you are obviously not a man for her to remember. Not a good thing for your confidence...

A much better variant to this one-liner would be: "I don't think I've ever seen you. Because I would surely remember a nice looking woman like you". In this case you stay in charge. You started a conversation and made her a compliment in one single move. That shows balls. And you're not dependent of her answer.

Most of the women will say: "thank you." Then you can immediately offer her a drink. NEVER EVER say: "You're welcome." Because that shows that you where merely making her a compliment and that you don't mean it.

Some women will turn themselves away from you, or hide their face, or start laughing. That's really scary at first. You get the impression that you made a fool of yourself. But NO man is EVER a fool to a decent woman if he made her a nice compliment. In most cases it just means that she is shy and not used to getting compliments. Just apologize with a friendly voice for making her feel uncomfortable. Give her a few seconds time and she will come back to you. Then offer her a drink. DON'T put your hand on her back or her shoulder to comfort her. It will make things worse!

If she shows no sign at all of coming back to you, just leave her alone without saying a word. And don't start thinking that everyone around has been watching you while you were turned down. If it's crowded, no one has seen a damn thing! Don't leave the bar feeling ashamed. Have a drink and try another woman. Convince yourself as soon as possible that not every woman reacts the way she did.

How to Find the Perfect Gift for a Girlfriend

5 Ways to Get Birthday Gift Ideas and Boyfriend Bonus Points

Trying to find the perfect birthday gift for your girlfriend can be pretty difficult. Most men will labor over this purchase, as they want to impress their girlfriend with a unique and thoughtful gift. If you are looking for a birthday gift, simply use one or more of these tactics. Use these 5 ways to get birthday gift ideas (and boyfriend bonus points) to get your girlfriend the best birthday gift possible.

Simply Ask for a List

One of the easiest ways to get birthday gift ideas is to ask your girlfriend what she wants for her birthday. While this may seem unoriginal, it is perfect for those who struggle to find the right gift for their loved ones. When you ask them what they want, you can be sure that they will use and enjoy their gift. It may be unoriginal, but it will give them exactly what they want.

Talk to Her Best Friends

If you are looking for the perfect gift for your girlfriend, turn to her best friends. Her best friends will know exactly what she wants, and will be able to give you multiple ideas. You need to make sure that you find a friend who can keep a secret, however, as you do not want a friend running the surprise.

Talk to her Family

A good approach to take, when looking for a gift for your girlfriend, is to take to her family. Talk to parents, brothers, and sisters to try to find something that she will enjoy. Family members will often provide ideas that have some sort of sentimental value.

Pay Attention

If you want to get your girlfriend something she wants, pay attention to what she says. Your girlfriend will often slip in phrases such as ÒOh IÕd love that!Ó or ÒWow I HAVE to have that!Ó during everyday activities. These hints will lead you to the perfect gifts for your girlfriend.

Go Window Shopping

If you are trying to think of ideas, simply take your girlfriend window shopping. While wandering around a mall or store, your girlfriend will gravitate toward the items that she likes. Take a mental note of the stores that she goes into, or the actual items that she looks at. She will be surprised to find that you bought her something that she said she liked a month or two before her birthday.

Some people take a straight forward approach, and simply ask the girlfriend what she would wants. If you want to be unique, ignore this approach, ad go straight to friends and family. If you can manage to come up with ideas without her knowing, your gift will be seen as more thoughtful. Use these 5 ways to get birthday gift ideas (and boyfriend bonus points) to lead yourself to the best gift idea for your girlfriend.