When to Ask for a Date

Saturday, January 09, 2010 | | 2 comments »

If possible, avoid asking a single girl out for the first time for a Friday or Saturday night date. Here's why:

1. The odds of her being busy are high so she may have to turn you down, which creates bad vibes right off the bat.
2. It tells her that you don't have a date for the weekend with someone else so you
may have trouble getting dates.
3. The weekend implies formal dating, so the pressure is on.
4. If you do get the date, she may have to turn down other offers because of her commitment to you, and go into the evening regretting having to turn down others. After all, she has no way of knowing whether she is going to have a good time
with you or not.

On the other hand, if you ask her out during the week:

1. You imply that you are busy on the weekend. In other words, you are involved with other girls.
2. The odds of her being available are greater.
3. Weeknights imply casual-no pressure, a good atmosphere to get to know her.
4. You have turned a dull weeknight into a good time for her - good
vibes right off the bat.


  1. Dave Sanders // January 11, 2010 at 12:23 PM  

    I don't ask...I tell...believe it or not it always works. I will say something like "I want to go to dinner with you. Does Monday night or Tuesday night better for you." I didn't ask "do you want to go to dinner" which would show a weakness.

  2. Don Diebel // January 15, 2010 at 5:43 PM  

    Great comment! This lets a woman know that you are in control and confident. Women like this....