Misconceived Beliefs of Shy Men

If  I Ask a Woman to Dance and  She Turns Me Down or If I Talk  to a Woman and She Ignores Me, It's Because I'm Not Worthwhile or Good Enough For Her.

This irrational  belief causes shy men to fear approaching a woman  and produces  low self-esteem when they are  rejected. This  fear of  being rejected  and turned  down  prevents  shy men from making contact with women.

If  you're turned  down for  a dance,  it doesn't mean that you're not worthwhile or not good enough for her. She just  may not feel like dancing at the moment. She may just be tired. She may not even dance. There can be a number  of reasons. So don't take it personally.  However, what to do in  a  case like this is to ask her, "Would you like to dance later?" If she says yes,  just ask her again  later. Even better, just ask her, "Well, can I join you for some conversation?" In the mean time just ask other women to  dance.  Also,  I might  add, a lot of guys get turned down  to  dance,  so  don't  feel that you're the only man  in the world that happens  to. It happens to all men, even real good-looking men.

If  you  approach  a  woman  and  try to start up a con- sation and  she  ignores  you,  don't  take that personally either. She  just may not feel  like talking or  being  bothered.  Perhaps  she's  tied down  to  a boyfriend  or even married. Also,  you just might not be using the  proper social skills.  So if she  ignores you, move  on to the next woman  and you'll find someone who will respond to your advances.