Having your marriage break apart is an extremely difficult and painful thing to go through. When kids are involved it's just that much harder since you have to worry about them as well as try to deal
with your own emotions. But there is hope. You can find the best ways to get your wife back and use the techniques you learn to save your marriage.
There is a lot of information available online. As you know not all of it is accurate. You don't want to waste time following bad advice. You want to make sure the advice you get has a real chance
of working.
I have included a list of some things you should do to save your marriage and some things you should avoid at all costs. Follow this list and you'll be well on your way to saving your marriage.
DON'T
1) Don't whine, get angry, threaten, or seem needy. No one likes to be pushed around and manipulated and that's what you'd be doing if you do any of the above things. If your wife feels
like you are trying to force her into something she will react like most people would when being pushed: she's going to push back and/or run away.
2) Don't obsess about everything, constantly replaying conversations over in your head, driving yourself crazy wondering what she's doing (and who she's doing it with).
DO
1) Do talk. I mean talk, not lecture. That is a big mistake so many men make, they try to talk over their wife. They don't really listen to what she is trying to explain. If you want to save your
marriage and get your wife back you have to try very hard to put yourself in her shoes, to see things from her perspective.
Remember, perspective isn't right or wrong it's just how you see things. You are both entitled to your view of the situation. If you respect each other's opinions and feelings and are willing
to listen, you might just find that you aren't as far apart as you think.
2) Try to remind your wife of what it was that attracted her to you in the first place. Be fun and try hard to live your life. No one wants to be around a boring, depressed person. Wallowing in your
pain isn't the way to win her back.
Going out with your friends and trying to live your life to the fullest, even while you are working on getting your wife back, will not only make the situation easier for you it can also help her to see
you in a new light. She can see you as the man she fell in love with and maybe some of those old feelings will re-ignite.
One word of caution though: do not hookup! If you truly want your wife back you don't want to cheat on her during this period. It might seem ok since you're not together but if she finds out,
and she will, she will never be able to go back with you.
Think about it, how would you feel if the situation was reversed and your wife hooked up with someone so soon after your split. Wouldn't it hurt you deeply to think she could forget you and be with
someone else so soon? That's how she would feel too. Plus, it's not fair to the other woman. You would essentially be using her to ease your own pain.
Relationships can be difficult, but that doesn't mean that it's not worth saving. If you follow the best ways to get your wife back listed above you will have a real shot at repairing, and maybe
even improving, your relationship.
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