Weight Problems in Personal Ads
I have a problem with weight. What do I do about this?
Men especially need to be aware of one thing regarding weight: It is an unfortunate fact that the majority of women (in the U.S. and Canada at least) believe they are overweight. Weight is a very touchy subject for both sexes, but for women it is especially bad.
For men: don't ever say you want a slim woman unless you're positive you want a stick woman, and are willing to exclude about 95% of the female population. The simple fact is that most women believe they are overweight. If you want to avoid obese women, say something like you're looking for someone "Not obese" or "physically fit" or "weight proportional to height."
For everyone: if you are obese, male or female, just say so in your ad. Don't be afraid of this. You're preparing yourself and whoever you meet for a letdown if you're not blunt on this subject. If you're fat, just say, "Hey, I'm queen sized" or "I'm John Goodman sized" or something "I'm a rubenesque woman" or something like that. Or just say "I'm fat." The point is, BE HONEST!
We live in a culture that values thinness, but there are a lot, and I mean a whole lot, of people out there who genuinely do not care about weight. There are even a good number of people out there who like fatness and find it very attractive.
Don't be timid about it. If you're overweight, be forthright and don't weasel around the subject, unless you look forward to the prospect of being embarrassed, disappointed, and hurt. Lots and lots of people will love you if you're fat, and you're not giving them a chance if you don't tell them you're fat right up front.
Say it over and over again: Honesty, honesty, honesty!
This article is reprinted by permission - Copyright 1995 and 1996 by Dean Esmay.
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