6 Problems with Picking Up Girls

Common Problems When Trying to Pick Up Girls

You may be one of the lucky men who are already successful in the art of picking up girls. You may be reading this book only to see if you can improve your technique. Many will do this. Fine! We hope you learn something. Or, you may want to pick up girls, but just can't do it. If that is the case, let us look at some of the problems you might have. The most common are:

(1) You don't think you are attractive enough. This is much less of a problem than most men think. Sure, it is easier for a handsome man to make the very first moves. Girls tend to give him appreciative looks, which boost his confidence and help to get him started. But the less attractive man will find that once he has approached a girl (and this is very easy to do) he can be just as effective as a more handsome man. Women are usually more impressed by a man's personality than by his appearance.

(2) You don't know what to say to open a conversation. This problem is quite easily solved. There is plenty of material and many ideas in later parts of this book.

(3) You dry up after starting a conversation. You can't think of anything interesting to say. What you should do is prepare yourself and have ideas ready. Before you even approach a girl you should have a whole array of subjects and activities in your mind and ready. Much suitable material is included in later chapters.

(4) You can't get girls to consider you as a lover, even though you can start a conversation and have no difficulty keeping it going. This is a very common problem. It is usually the result of being too timid in your actions and conversation. A bolder attitude should be introduced into your general manner, as early in a relationship as you can manage it. This is discussed at length later.

(5) You've tried a few pick-ups but have gotten rejected, or brushed aside, immediately, and you don't know why. Perhaps your opening moves weren't positive enough. Perhaps you accepted the rejection too easily; you have to be a little persistent. Perhaps you chose a girl who simply didn't want to be picked up; there are many like that. Don't worry; your performance should improve after you learn some more.

(6) The BIG Problem. Lack of Confidence. You just can't pluck up the courage to try. Probably your fears are based on the knowledge that you have problems in some (or all) of the five areas already mentioned. Or you may be affected by shyness or an unreasonable fear of rejection. P.S. This is an excerpt from our besting selling book called, "How to Talk to Women."