How to Get Women to Talk
Up until this point you have done all the talking; you have opened a conversation with her, given her a reason for your approaching her, and introduced yourself. Now it is time for you to invite her to do some talking. The best thing is to ask her about herself, e.g., "Anyway Joan, what do you do around here?" The usual mundane questions such as where she lives, where she works, are quite acceptable at this stage. You are really just marking time, and probing. An interesting train of conversation will often develop out of these ordinary subjects. But even if it doesn't, it serves good purpose. You are learning about the girl. You start to get hints of how she feels about things. Also, it makes her somewhat more at ease. Admittedly you are putting the spotlight on her by making her talk. But, she feels more appreciated if she is putting some of her own ideas into the encounter.
You may feel foolish asking a question like "Do you live around here?" I mean, it sounds like a corny line. But I don't worry, that is the way the game is played. It is an "accepted" conventional thing to say, such as when you say "Hello! How are you?" to someone.
The girl knows that it is hard for you to come up with anything pertinent right away. She can tell that you are trying to meet her. So, if she approves of you, she will cooperate with your efforts to get a conversation going.
You are trying to draw her out. But she may still be self-conscious and only give very short answers to your questions. In fact, the whole encounter, from your opening line to her telling you where she works, and where she lives, could take as little as 20 seconds, if she were playing you short, refusing to be drawn out. So then you have to try something else.
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