When You Need Space in a Relationship

Dating Advice When You Need Space

So you're not in your twenties or thirties anymore and you want to get back into the dating game. Dating can be hard at any age but it's especially hard it you haven't done it for a long time. Everything can become much easier, though, if you understand some basic concepts about women. Use the following dating advice for men from women to your advantage.

A lot of men that get back into dating have been set in their own lifestyle patterns for a while and find it a bit overwhelming to bring a new person into their routine (or to adjust their routine to fit this new person). Some men are very eager to make their new girlfriends or dates happy and initially try to bend over backwards for them. This may include giving up time with friends, by themselves or just an afternoon in front of a football game on TV. This might work for a little while but eventually you will most likely become resentful of these missed events.

If the new woman in your life is starting to demand more and more of your time and it makes you uncomfortable, you will need to convey this to her. . .but you need to do it the right way if you want to keep her. This piece of dating advice for men from women is extremely important so pay attention. Here's what you might want to say. . ."Things are moving a little too fast for me and I need some time by myself". But please don't say that. While this might not seem to be a rejection in your eyes, your new girl will definitely see it as that. She will most probably take this very personally and either cling to you even more or just back off and start over-analyzing what you said over and over. Women are very sensitive and have a natural tendency to over-analyze everything. She will no longer be comfortable around you and you will probably feel awkward as well.

So, that's what you don't want to do. The right way to discuss your feelings with the new lady in your life is to tell her that you want to work on a couple of things to make your relationship better. And that includes taking a little time for yourself because that is very important to you. Keep the focus on "improving the relationship" by going a little slower and not rushing into things too much.

Remember that women can turn very many comments into rejection in their heads. Something that you could say to another guy could be forgotten after two minutes. That same comment will not leave a woman's head and it will be turned around over and over again. So keep that in mind.

So, just to recap this dating advice for men from women. . .if you're feeling like things are moving too fast and you don't have your own space, you do need to bring it up to your the new woman in your life. Tell her in a way that shows her you want to work on the relationship and not to shut her out of your life. Remember that women feel hurt and rejection very easily.

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