How to Deal With Step Family Problems
Introducing Step Parents, Good Bad And Ugly Of It
In many cases step parents are considered the enemy by many children. They believe that the step parent is trying to replace their parent that is no longer living with them. They refuse to let this person ruin their lives and take the place of their mom or dad. This can lead to resentment and hostility towards a step parent. It can also create chaos and unrest within the entire family structure.
The best possible way to avoid problems with a step family is to stop problems before they ever happen. Spend a lot of time with your children and make sure that they always know how much they mean to you. Make sure that you continue to enforce the fact that the new person in your life is not going to take you away from them.
Also make sure that they know that both you and the parent that is no longer living with you both love and care about them. Oftentimes, it is just a matter of the children knowing that they are still loved and that even though their parents are not living together anymore, they still love the children and will both be there for them.
If you have been dating someone and you want to take that relationship to the next level, it is time to start including the children in your activities. You want them to start to develop a friendship or the start of a relationship with the person that you want to have in your life. The more time that the children spend with your partner and the more that they are included, the more they will realize that you are not leaving them and that no one will take you away from them. They soon associate the other person, who is in the relationship, with good things and fun. They want to be with this person and they want them to be a part of your life and want to spend more and more time with them.
If you try to hide your relationship you are going to cause a great deal of problems and animosity. Your children will have reason to fear and question things. If you are hiding things from them, they have reason to be concerned. If you cannot be honest and open with your children, there is a definite problem. There is nothing wrong with parents deciding to get on with their lives and wanting to move on. However, it is best to be open about it and involve everyone that needs to be in the decision.
It is also a good idea to let your ex know that you are seeing someone. This can prevent problems later on when they are faced with a situation where your new partner is there. There is nothing more awkward than a parent that goes to pick up their children and finds themselves faced with an unexpected person in the house that used to be theirs.
It can create a wide variety of problems. It is best to have all of the necessary information available ahead of time. That is often a surefire way to prevent hostility or anger. Of course this is dependent on how the relationship ended and the individual circumstances.
As a general rule, honesty is the best policy. It can make transitioning into a step parent situation smooth and easy in most cases.
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