YOU MAY NOT NEED A DATING SERVICE: Other methods are usually less expensive and more productive for meeting, dating, and seducing single women.

CHOOSE A DATING SERVICE WITH A GOOD REPUTATION: Exhaustively research dating services until you do find one with a good reputation and lots of legitimate single women to choose from. The dating service will claim having a great reputation, don't rely on their word only.

DATING SERVICES TO AVOID: Large national chains that offer other single female members by profile and videos.

BEST DATING SERVICES TO CONSIDER: Local dating services that match by "intuition."

DON'T PAY FULL PRICE: Bargain. Rule of thumb is pay no more than one-third the quoted price, especially at the large national chains. Make sure there are no hidden costs to surprise you later.

BE SURE SERVICE IS SUITABLE TO YOU: Find out how many single female members they have that meet your basic requirements, such as male/female ratio, race, age, etc.

SCRUTINIZE THE CONTRACT: Try to get a copy to take home and study and take to an attorney for review. Mark out or rewrite any statements limiting your rights. Get the statements signed by management. Make sure you have any verbal promises written into the contract and signed by management.

GET IT IN WRITING AND SIGNED BY MANAGEMENT: This can not be over emphasized. Make sure everything they promised and claim, changed in the contract, and the total monetary amount of the service is written and signed by the owner or management. And don't lose any of your copies of the paperwork.

I hope this guide will help single men in choosing and dealing with a dating service. You really have to be careful and don't get ripped off!

P.S. If you do find a good dating service in your area, publicize it! A lot of the local dating services cannot afford the expensive advertising like that of the large national chains. Let everyone know about a good deal, not just the bad ones.

Hello my friends, let's talk about some excuses we have that prevent us from meeting and scoring with single women:

Please don't let these three words prevent you from meeting women. What are these three words that can really screw up your lovelife? - "I don't have time" is the culprit.

Whatever the circumstances are (busy with your career, education, caring for a parent or children, etc.) do not allow a supposed lack of time to prevent you from enjoying love and romance with women.

Maybe you need to step back and evaluate better ways to organize your time so you can have more time to socialize and meet more women.

And whatever you do, don't fall into the trap of becoming a workaholic and lose your ability to enjoy life. Life is just to short to spend all of your time working. You've got to balance your life with work and pleasure. Trust me, real pleasure in life is being with a woman you're really attracted to that turns you on.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21) - She's very independent and loves her freedom. If you try to pin her down and you're the jealous and possessive type, you will scare this woman away.

She loves the outdoors and sports, so plan you're activities outside and play sports and attend sporting events. She loves to travel, so take her places to capture her heart. Enjoy her while she's around because her heart is known to wander. She doesn't like long-term commitments. You must have a good sense of humor and be happy-go-lucky like her.

1. When with a woman on a date, under no circumstances whatsoever, look at and flirt with other women. This is just plain rude and disrespectful. It's very degrading to a woman and makes her feel very unimportant. It really hurts their feelings, especially if she isattracted to you.

2. Don't play head games - Don't just use single women for sex and string them along with no intentions for emotional commitment. The worse thing you can do is to tell them that you love them and not even mean it. And, even worse is to tell them that you love them just to get them in bed for sex. Don't get involved with a woman you have no interest in or desire to have a relationship with and suddenly tell her after several dates and sexual relations, "I don't want a girlfriend right now" or "I'm not interested in having a relationship." They will feel used, hurt and abused. If all you want from a woman is just sex, just be honest and up front with her and tell her, "I'm not interested in being tied down in a relationship with you and I would prefer to have a sexual relationship only with no strings attached."

3. Don't make women feel self-concious by making comments on things that she is self-concious about such as her weight, her big ass, large nose, small eyes, hairy arms, pale skin, bony legs, big thighs, her protruding stomach, birthmark, stretch marks, acne, blemishes, etc.

4. Listen to women when they talk. Focus all your attention on every word she says. Don't talk to her while on the telephone and try to watch television at the same time. Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special. Women do not like to be ignored.

5. Be considerate of a woman's family and friends. In this imperfect world, we are not exactly crazy about everyone we meet, but at least make your best effort possible to get along with and form a bond with her family and friends. Here's why: If you get along fine with them, they won't be so inclined to pressure her to dump you.

You would be surprised what an influence her friends and family have on her
relationships with men. Also, keep in close touch with your own friends and relatives. They will resent her for you forgetting about them and spending all your time with your girlfriend.

I was using the online Personals for a while and met a great girl and was seeing her for about 1 year. Then we grew apart and the rest is history.

Since breaking up with her (September 2001), I once again jumped into the online personals. In the 8 months on there, I have had 7 dates. 5 were lost causes and 2 were good. I ended up sleeping with the 2 good ones after the third date.

So, to me the online thing has been a success. As I get to meet plenty of different women (although not all of them I am attracted to).

My advice to people out there is as follows:

List your likes and what you like to do for fun. Don’t tell women how much of a great, caring, sweet, sensitive person you are. Be a Man tell them what you like. And they can decide if they enjoy the same things.

ALWAYS get a photo (full body shot if possible). I have been out with a few women who say they have a "average" body with curves in the right places. Well to me a size 16, with a fat ass, fat belly and chunky legs does not constitute a normal sized girl.

Girls love it when I would list questions for them to answer (about 5 or 6 each email). Don’t really know why they just do. Most would say they ‘love it when I listed question for them to answer.". Non -threatening ones to start with. Such as "Ultimate dream career?", "What do you want to do when you grow up?", "If you could holiday anywhere in the world where would it be?"

Again, as always, "bust their balls."

And act like you are verifying them and that they have to prove their worth to you. It drives them nuts and confuses the shit out of them. I would say, "You seem like a pretty nice girl, but who knows, when I meet you, you might be one of those cyber fruit loops." And keep up this verifying attitude. They have to prove themselves to you. Regards, Todd, Australia.

P.S. Guys, don’t think money, looks, a new car, etc. will attract women. I am 23 years old, earn AU $65,000 pa, a project manager, have a brand new PT Cruiser, building my first house and live in an exclusive area in Melbourne, above average looking (7 or 8) and graduated with 1st Class Honors from a University. But, I still don’t get women coming after me. I understand that it is confidence and me approaching them that will get me the girls. Which I am still working on. So don’t be too down on yourselves if you aren’t rich.

Did you ever wonder why some guys seem to have all the luck with meeting, dating, attracting, and seducing single women and lead a charmed life in the romance department?

If you were able to look a little closer into their lovelife and relationships you may find that outward appearances are deceiving. Id' be willing to bet you that they have had just as many failures, setbacks, and disappointments with women as you have.

There's probably one difference though, they have probably dealt with these problems differently. They don't get down on themselves or lose hope in meeting, attracting, and seducing single women because they've had a few unfortunate experiences with women. They have faith that things always work out for the best in their dating experiences.

When things don't go right for you in succeeding with women, it may be painful and difficult to accept, but you will learn from experience that if you refuse to accept defeat and rejection when dealing with single women, success with women will eventually follow. As long as you maintain your faith and hope, there can be no obstacles to you succeeding with women beyond your wildest dreams. Keep the faith!

Here are some tips on making the first call to a single woman you just met:

Practice the simple techniques that strip a first call of most of its terrors. Take a blank notebook (this will become your "phone project" book) and begin outlining how you want the conversation to go. What would you talk about? What do you know about the woman -- her life story, her personality, her likes and dislikes, her beliefs and passions? What do you feel comfortable revealing about your own self? What is most important for her to know about you? What can you say that will purposefully lead to finding things you have in common, interests you share, activities you could do together...

Hopefully, you will have by now filled up the first several pages of the project book. At this point, transfer the information to a format that will better suit your purpose. Consider making a wall chart, a more or less elaborate diagram on poster board that will prompt you, guide and direct your conversation, when required. This will function as a sort of "talisman", or lucky charm, to boost your confidence as needed.