HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT WOMEN

Which women should you pursue? The answer is: The women that are interested in you. If a woman is not interested in you, then loving her from afar is not going to change that. Neither is calling her up every night asking her out, or being like a puppy dog, following her around, telling her how much you like her and that she is pretty. This kind of behavior is not what a woman is looking for in a man. Remember the eight elements. You aren't portraying an image of power. You aren't someone who is hard to get. Other women must not find you attractive, or you wouldn't be wasting your time with someone who treats you with disinterest. She doesn't need to use her powers of seduction on you. About the only thing you are to her is a pest.

The cardinal rule is: NEVER STAY ANYWHERE WHERE YOU'RE NOT APPRECIATED. If a girl is not interested, then that is that. Don't waste your time with people who aren't interested in you. Even if she looks like the girl of your dreams, it will lead nowhere if she's not interested. So move on to someone who is interested. By hanging around, you portray an image to her, and everyone else that you are a person who is found unattractive by women and worse - you are desperate.

What this all means is that, pursuing women who have shown an interest in you is going to increase your percent of success. It is, in fact, the only course of action that is going to lead to success. And that brings us to a very important skill that you have to develop. You must become perceptive enough to separate those women who are interested in you, from those who are not. This is a skill that is developed with a lot of practice and experience. Sometimes it is very difficult to recognize disinterest until you have experienced a girl who is interested in you. After all, most women try to spare men's feelings. People have to say no, and men often confuse politeness for interest. Believe us, if a woman is interested, she will make it very obvious. You will know for sure.

Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men

If you're shy and have trouble talking to topless dancers, it helps to be prepared with things to talk about. Besides the things that are most important to you, here are sources for conversational fuel:

1. Come up with 3 or 4 interesting or exciting things that have happened to you recently. Practice telling these stories on family or friends, or practice in front of a mirror or with a tape recorder.

2. Read current newspapers and magazines, and be prepared to talk about events that interest you.
3. Collect a couple of sure-fire, inoffensive jokes.
4. Become knowledgeable about what's going on in your city. People always want to know more about what's happening locally.
5. See current movies and read current books. You're bound to find dancers who have seen the same movies or read the same books.

This is an excellent way to meet hot, sexy female tourists and these tours have some lonely attractive females.

Every major city has walking or bus tours. Cities on the water usually have boat tours of some type. Check the yellow pages under "tours" to find out information on the tours. Sign up for one of the tours on the weekend.

Meeting these women on a tour is easy as pie. All you've got to do for openers is to make a comment on what the tour guide is showing you. Also, it would really be a good idea to bring a polaroid camera along with you so you can take a picture of her to take back home with her.

After the tour is completed, ask her if you can take her on a personal guided tour of some unique places in the city. Being that you live there, I'm sure you can think of some great places to take her.

So why not try this method of meeting women. It's a uniquely different way of meeting women and some of the tours are very interesting. The atmosphere is great and the people are relaxed and friendly.

In a speculative approach you ask questions and expect the girl to give answers or discuss a subject. You are conveying the impression that you really are interested in finding out something and that was the reason you approached her. In some cases you appear serious in your interest. In others, your interest is not to be taken too seriously; it is merely a play to start a conversation and you expect her to recognize this.

Examples:

"What do you think of...?" (You are in a "waiting" situation with her. Any
good topic is suitable. It helps if you are reading a newspaper or magazine.)

"Well, what's new around here today?"

"Hey, you must be tired from walking around so much. Why not sit down for a spell and tell me what you've been up to?"

"Are you a dancer? You move like one." (Quizzical look while asking; but only use this if she, in fact, moves gracefully).

"Hey, where are you rushing off to?"

"I see you are a ..." (or "I see you have ...") Refer to some feature about her which should require some additional explanation from her. We have already mentioned the use of this type of line in a casual way. But in this situation we mean that you should use the line more as a question that really requires an answer.

Women, like diamonds, are where you find them. The most obvious place for a man to go when he wants to meet a woman is out to a single's bar. But our observations have shown us that it is a particular type of woman looking for a particular type of man at the bar scene. We have found that if you are not the "macho" type, then your chance of success at a singles bar is probably not going to be very high.

So where do you go to meet women? Everywhere else:

At work - If you are in school and are looking for a part time or summer job, choose jobs where you'll be around a lot of women. The insurance industry hires almost 95% women. Restaurants hire a lot of women. You will run into a lot of women working at a grocery store.

At school - Some academic majors attract many more women than other. Sociology, psychology, art, and the languages for example. A friend told us that since he was majoring in engineering. He never met girls at class, so each term he always took an easy course in psychology or sociology just to meet girls.

At play - Take up tennis, jogging, biking, join a health club or a hiking club, and frequent the local pool. It makes no difference what it is, as long as women do it too. Someone told us that he joined an exercise class and the odds were 23 women to 3 men.

At the store - Grocery shopping, at the book store, at the library, at the department store. In other words, everywhere you go should become an opportunity to meet women.

Be open and ready for anything. No matter where you are at work, at school, at play, the store, be at your best and ready to meet someone. Even if you are not particularly interested in a girl, if she notices you, respond, smile, and say, "Hi." If nothing else, it is good practice. Go thru the routine of meeting her and responding to her. 1) She may have friends 2) It's good practice and after all, realistically, every girl is practice, and 3) It is important to get used to what it is like to be found attractive in order to develop the perception to read women's signals.

Before you'll be meeting new topless dancers, take an inventory of the things that are important to you, and that you'd like to talk about. What are you excited about now? What changes are taking place in your life? What have been the most important events or people in your life? What future plans are you most enthusiastic about? Why do you feel the way you do about things? What are your concerns? What is your vision for the future? What are your likes and preferences?

The answers to these questions tell her how you relate to the world around you. Be specific, so that your conversational partner gets a lot of free information to pick up on. Communicate your enthusiasm. Disclose some of your feelings and values.

Another technique to use is what I call the old "air mattress technique." Here is how it works: Sit your ice chest on the edge of the pool to where you have access to it while laying on your air mattress.

Now, get on your air mattress with a can of beer or mixed drink in hand (I might add that it would be a good idea to try and keep your hair dry. This way you'll look more attractive. A person with wet hair is not very eye-appealing). Maneuver your air mattress around the pool and park it across from a female near the pool. Then just simply remark, "You sure are getting a nice tan today." This breaks the ice and then follow up with, "I've got an extra air mattress. Would you like to join me?"

This technique will really work for you successfully and I highly recommend that you try it. Also, if there are other females in the pool on air mattresses, pull up beside them and feed them the same opening lines.