Has this ever happened to you? You just meet this hot & sexy beautiful single woman and you agree to meet for dinner at a local restaurant.
You're all pumped up to see this girl again and you're hoping this meeting will lead to some romance and a potential relationship.
You arrive right on time at the time you both agreed upon. And you're waiting and waiting for her to show up. Ten minutes goes by...then twenty minutes...then thirty minutes.
What should you do? Leave in a fit of anger and never see her again? Call her up later and cuss her out?
Here are my recommendations:
1. Never wait more than 30 minutes for a date to show up.
2. Give her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she has a valid excuse for not showing up such as traffic, sudden illness, emergency at home, problems with her kids, car trouble, etc.
3. Call her the next day and see if she offers an explanation. When you first call, act like nothing happened and let her bring up the subject of your dinner date first. If she offers no explanation, then do not pursue this woman. She may have purposely not showed up because she has no interest in you.
4. You can try another tactic that could make her not feel so bad about not showing up. Just tell her you're sorry you didn't show up for your dinner date because you had a personal issue to take care of. This may be a little white lie, but it takes the pressure off of her. Just reschedule another meeting.
5. Whatever you do, don't call her up and start cussing her out. This serves no purpose and there are some single women out there that enjoy making men upset by standing them up.
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I would suggest rescheduling another meeting for dinner. If she doesn't want to, then just take the hint (she's really telling you that she's not interested in you). If she agrees to meet you again and doesn't show up again, then forget about her. Don't let a woman humiliate you twice.
In closing, remember that being stood up is part of the dating game. It happens to everybody. Don't let it get you down. Let it be a lesson...if a single woman stands you up on purpose, then you don't want to be with a woman who is not interested in you anyway.
In the last ten years or so, much work has been done in this new field of personal communication. Basically body language concerns the message a person sends to others, either consciously or unconsciously, by the movement or placement of various parts of the body.
Now it is realized that many actions of the body, previously considered of no real significance, play an important part in interpersonal communication. It is of great interest that many such actions are not made deliberately, and the persons seeing them do not realize that they are being influenced by them. But the message is transmitted nonetheless.
A typical example is a man talking to another person and standing back a little with his arms folded in front of his chest. He is subconsciously setting his arms as a barrier between him and the other person. By these actions he is saying, "I am thinking about it. I am not ready to make a commitment." His position is speculative.
The same man may later reach a point in the encounter when his attitude is no longer speculative but becomes positive. He will then drop his arms and tend to lean toward the other person. He is now making a commitment.
The other person sees these actions, and they combine with and emphasize the actual words the man is saying. However the other person is usually not consciously aware of noting the actions.
A friend once told us that just as he was getting into the checkout line at a grocery store, an attractive girl walked by him on her way to the produce section. She got in line directly behind him with one banana in her hand. He did not look at her until his food was being checked through.
He looked at the girl and said, "One banana?"
She shrugged her shoulders, not really giving an explanation, as she found herself on the spot.
Just then, the attractive checkout girl said, "Will that be all for you?"
The checkout girl rang it into his total, and he paid the bill. The checkout girls were in stitches at the spontaneity of the event. The girl was stammering at such an unexpected gesture. Even a young woman back in line was watching and laughing with approval of someone being so friendly, witty, and original. At this point, our friend turned to accept the girl's thanks, then turned back to the checkout girl and gave her a smile, acknowledged the young woman's verbal appreciation of his gallantry, and finally, gathered his groceries to make a slow exit, so no one would think that he was trying to chase down the girl with the banana to put the hustle on her.
He got three girls' undivided attention and interest, and it cost him a total of 13 cents. A spontaneous action that told three girls that he is an interesting, clever person that they would like to meet.
Animate Your Listening
She can't read your mind, but she can read your face to get a clue of your reactions. Look at yourself in a mirror and imagine things that make you sad, happy, astonished, shocked. Exaggerate your expressions - try so hard that every facial muscle feels strained!
Experiment with every feeling you think may come up in a conversation - respect, admiration, sympathy. As you become more used to expressing your emotions this way, you will feel less as though you are overdoing it, and you will better convey your feelings.
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Your Courage Is Impressive
In the FIRST PHASE of a pick-up, you are trying to impress the girl. To help your confidence and understanding of what is happening, remember that the very fact you are picking her up is very impressive to the girl. Girls admire courage in a man. They like a take-charge guy. You are showing a lot of guts by defying convention and trying to pick her up.
If I Ask a Woman to Dance and She Turns Me Down or If I Talk to a Woman and She Ignores Me, It's Because I'm Not Worthwhile or Good Enough For Her.
This irrational belief causes shy men to fear approaching a woman and produces low self-esteem when they are rejected. This fear of being rejected and turned down prevents shy men from making contact with single women.
If you're turned down for a dance, it doesn't mean that you're not worthwhile or not good enough for her. She just may not feel like dancing at the moment. She may just be tired. She may not even dance. There can be a number of reasons. So don't take it personally. However, what to do in a case like this is to use this pick up line to ask her, "Would you like to dance later?" If she says yes, just ask her again later. Even better, just ask her, "Well, can I join you for some conversation?" In the mean time just ask other women to dance.
Also, I might add, a lot of guys get turned down to dance, so don't feel that you're the only man in the world that happens to. It happens to all men, even real good-looking men.
