Women are far more discriminating than men are concerning sex. They desire sex as much as men do, but whereas men will often have sex with anyone, women are looking for someone special. They are passing up sex with just anyone to wait for someone to come along who they deem to be that special guy. Women today not only want sex, they want good sex. And as far as women are concerned, whether or not the sex they have is good is the responsibility of the man.  We, as men, are the first ones to point out that this fact is unfair, but also the first to point out that it is a reality that we all have to live with.

The next time you are trying to figure out girl’s actions, just suppose that she is as motivated and swayed in her behavior by sexual desire as you are. Time and again, men ask us, "Why did she go for him? He doesn't have nearly as much going for him as I do." The answer is simple:  She was more sexually attracted to him than you. And that is it in a nutshell. Women are choosing men just like men choose women - by sexual attraction. If girls are interested in you, it is your sex appeal that got your foot in the door, and now good sex will help keep you there.

Sex is a very powerful aspect of relationships. This is not to say sex is the total element of a relationship, but we are saying that it plays a larger role than people like to admit. Women, just like men, will want to meet someone or start a relationship with someone if they find that person sexually attractive. And, as the relationship continues, good sex is often the strongest glue that holds the two people together.

A Few Words of Advice About Pornography and Dating Single Women  My focus this week is on pornography. You need to be aware that a lot of single women are offended by pornography and think it is demeaning to women, causes moral decay, rape, prostitution, etc.  So, to be on the safe side early in a relationship with a woman, it would be wise to hide any pornographic photos, magazines, videos, sex toys, etc. from her.  I would advise hiding it in a good place like the attic or locked up in a trunk, file cabinet, etc. Don't hide it under your mattress or under the bed or in your closet. You'd be surprised how women will snoop around while you're not looking.

 So what's the point of all this? If a girl you're dating is disgusted and offended by porno and she accidently or purposely discovers pornographic materials in your apartment or house, guess what message that sends to her? She may think that you're some kind of pervert and may be very offended. Offended to the point that she will not want to date you anymore.  So guys, keep your porno out of sight until you get to know a woman better and her viewpoints on pornography, sex toys, etc.
If she has nothing against pornography then you don't have to be so discreet. But, if she is dead set against porno even after you have established a serious relationship, just keep your stuff hidden (you can always break it out when she's not around).

If  I  Stand Around  Long Enough  Maybe Something  Will Happen

Nothing  could be farther from the truth. Waiting around  for something  to  happen  will  most  likely accomplish  nothing. This will  produce little action, if any at all. I just can't tell you how  many  night's  I've  wasted  at nightclubs  just  waiting for something to happen,  that is until  I wised up.  If you wait for a woman  to  approach  you  and  strike up a conversation, sometimes you will be waiting all night. You have  got to  take the  initiative and  create your  own action, it's not  going to come to you out  of the clear blue sky.

Party Animals

This girl really likes to party, drinks heavily and loves to get high on drugs.  Is this good for you?  It can be to your advantage because of her being a free spirit she may go party with you after she gets off work.   She's not likely to just party with any guy.  She's got to be attracted to you and feel safe with you.

If all you do all night is make sexual advances towards her, it's unlikely she will go party with you.  These girls are just like any other normal girl in that they don't want to be used for sex.

So many men get the wrong impression about topless dancers.  They think that just because she takes her clothes off in front of men that she will be an easy lay.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  I know their occupation is considered sleazy, but the girls do have their dignity.

The party animal is one of the most fun to be with.  She's very open-minded and very friendly.  Your chances of getting a date with this type of dancer is more favorable too.  If you do date her, don't be the possessive and jealous type.  She may date a lot of men, being that she's loose and carefree and loves to party.  You're going to have a problem with this if you're the jealous type, so be forewarned!  If you determine that she's the party animal type, this should be your strategy: Buy her drinks and get her loaded.  She will be more receptive to your advances.  If she's loaded enough she may even give you free table dances.  If not, perhaps you could negotiate a buy one get one free offer.

TIP- If she's loaded, always ask her to show you her bush while she's dancing.  Being that she's drunk, she just may do it for you.  When a dancer is loaded she may do things she would not normally do.  Always remember this and use it to your advantage.

Probably the biggest mistake that men make in understanding women is underestimating just how important sex is to women. It is easy to see, however, how men would fail to recognize sex as being a major motivation to women. It has always been socially acceptable for men to desire sex, and even to be open to others about their desires. A woman who lusted for sex as considered a whore or slut. Women were even afraid to admit to themselves that they had desires because of feelings of guilt that society heaped upon them.

Thus, the female sexual desire is not something that has been talked about openly, and for this reason men have been lulled into thinking that since it is not talked about much, it must not be a very strong motive in women.

The fact of the matter is that female sexual desire does exist. And, it exists in women every bit as strongly as it exists in men. We will go so far as to say that the real, unspoken motive behind the women's movement was sexual freedom. Not freedom to have sex necessarily, but that it is okay for women to admit that they enjoy it, and want it, and have it with more than one man if they want. The women's movement was saying, "Hey, we enjoy sex just as much as men do, and that shouldn't be a sin. We are tired of the double standard."

And that is what has happened. Women now realize that it's okay to enjoy sex and they are out looking for it. Sex is something that women can enjoy too - not just a dutiful obligation to a male dominated society.

Bad Vocabulary Habits That Can Cost You Dates With Single Women

I would like to focus this week on some vocabulary habits that can turn single women off and hurt your chances for getting women attracted to you for love and romance.
Some women will judge you by how you talk to them and what you say. Unfortunately some men have a very small vocabulary and use certain words over and over again between sentences that can become very annoying to women.
What are these words that men mistakenly repeat over and over that are a source of annoyment and can actually make you appear to be stupid because you lack a vocabulary? Here are the main ones and you must try to eliminate them from you vocabulary when speaking to single women:

• "'you know"
• "you know what I mean?"
• "you know what I'm saying?"
• "do you understand what I'm saying?"
• using the word "like" to begin a sentence
• "I know that"
• "I already knew that"
• "umm"
• "yep"
• "nope"
• "and dah"

These phrases are ok to use every once in awhile. What I'm talking about is repeating these phases in almost every other sentence. I'm sure you know people that have these annoying conversation habits.

 

Maybe this is even you?

Also, I might add that you should never use cuss words in your conversation when you first get to know a woman. If she's offended by foul language, this can turn her off to the point that she will have no interest in dating you.
Please don't mumble your words either. Speak clearly and don't talk with your hand over your mouth. And of course, if you're out on a lunch or dinner date, don't talk with your mouth full.
P.S. - In all fairness, if the girl you're with makes these same vocabulary blunders you do, then you will share something in common and your blunders are not likely to turn her off.

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The  Odds Are  Slim of  a  Woman  Being Interested and Attracted to Me

This  is the man that  has fixed opinions about himself and makes up excuses  such as, "I'm  not very lucky  with women"  or "I  just don't  stand a chance of meeting a woman" or "There aren't any  good places where I  can  meet  a  good  woman." These are just defensive statements to  avoid placing the blame where it really belongs and that's on yourself. You just haven't tried hard  enough  to  meet  a  woman.  That's where the real problem lies.

              

Make it  a point  to block  these beliefs  completely out of your  mind because  they will  hinder you from seeking out women using your own initiative.