When you first meet a topless dancer, do these important steps to create a bond. Be the first to extend your hand during your initial greeting. While shaking hands, give her a warm friendly smile and say, "Hi, my name is _____." That's the best way to open the channels of communication between you and the dancer. She will be impressed by you shaking her hand also because most men don't.

You are showing her respect and making her feel special. It shows that you're a warm & friendly person and it helps to lower her defenses. It creates an atmosphere of receptivity between you and the dancer.
 

When you shake hands, be sure your hand acts as your private diplomat. Use a firm grip to show strength and friendliness. A grip that's too hard seems aggressive. A grip that's too soft suggests that you're weak, retreating or indifferent. As soon as you feel her grip relax, break the handshake. If it's a very quick handshake it indicates an obligatory handshake. I'll bet you didn't think handshaking was such an art.

 

This is not so much a hint as a statement about relationships in general.

Relationships need energy to survive. Both parties have to want it to be strong and have to be willing to make the effort necessary to keep it strong. Many of the relationships that we have seen fail, did so because one or both of the parties involved did not really care if the relationship lasted. If it continued and they benefited from it - fine, they'll stick around. But make sacrifices or be inconvenienced to keep it going? No way. When, however, both parties really want a relationship to work, and then both parties will put the effort into making it work.

 

Remember, relationships are not always going to be a bed of roses. There will be problems. There will be times when you will have to bend and give for the continued well being of the relationship. But if both parties really want the relationship to survive and if they are willing to do what is necessary to keep it strong, then they will both benefit from a strong relationship.

The last bit of advice in this chapter is to repeat what we said at the beginning of the chapter. Stay on your toes. Don't be foolish enough to think that just because you are in a relationship you can relax and stop courting her, romancing her, and being the person she fell in love with at your first meeting.

This article is from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women."

 

A couple of excellent places to meet women, in my experience, have been:

 

Tanning spas - Women are thier biggest clientele, and since they go there to "improve" their appearance/image, it only makes sense that you can easily start a conversation with a gorgeous woman by letting her know how much you appreciate the fact that she is looks as good as she does and how her tan really compliments her beauty, or hair, or whatever you notice about her at the time. Since women love compliments on the success of their efforts to make themselves desireable, a particularly sincere compliment can go a long way. You might even get her to rub the tanning lotion onto your back for you.

 

The local theater or youth theater - Women love going to plays. And, I have found, I actually enjoyed it too, once I gave it an honest effort. So, if you attend a couple of them, it makes a great conversation opener to discuss the show you last went to, especially if you remember seeing that gorgeous brunette or redhead at the last play you came to, and she really appears single. Usually, women will go to these together, and also as usual, there will likely be only one or two married women in their groups, which increases your chances of finding an available cutie to talk to. The youth theater is great if you have a young sibling or neice or nephew to take along. The act of taking a child that is not yours to the play shows her that you are a great, caring guy and she will find these characteristics appealing. And chances are, she is spending time with children that are not hers, because she is just waiting for a fantastic guy like you to come along and spend some time with her!

 

Also, with both of these places, it indicates to her that you have something in common - like to tan and like watching plays. You should be a shoe-in!

 

The Mirror Technique For Meeting and Picking Up Women

This is a very effective method of releasing the power of the subconscious mind by using a mirror. This method is very effective in motivating you to meet women. It can be used to obtain anything you so desire.

Now I will explain the technique. Stand in front of a mirror. The mirror does not have to be full length, but you should at least be able to see yourself from the waste up.

Stand fully erect just like a soldier does when told to come to attention. Now take three or four deep breaths until you feel a sense of enormous strength, power, and determination. Now look into the very depths of your eyes and tell yourself, "Every time I go to a nightclub I will meet a very special lady that I'm attracted to." This is just an example of what to tell yourself and be sure to say this aloud so you can see your lips move and hear the words uttered. Also, you can make up your own words and suggestions or even use the ones in the previous section on autosuggestion (page 104).

Do this exercise regularly at least twice a day, in the morning and in the evening and you will be astonished at the results. You may augment this by writing any slogans or key words associated with your desires with soap on the face of your mirror, such as "LOVE CONNECTION", "TAKE ACTION", "SCORE",etc.

Within a few days after practicing this exercise you will really begin to feel a sense of confidence in yourself and your abilities to meet and pick up women that you never have felt before.

It is advisable not to tell anyone about your using this method to meet women. There are scoffers and skeptics that may ridicule you and shake your confidence.

Getting Ready and Psyched Up

Psyching yourself up and making preparations before you go out to topless clubs is very important. You need to feel at your best, so get a good nights sleep before you go out. Prior to leaving, eat a good healthy meal to put a lining on your stomach if you are going to be drinking. A couple of hours before you leave, put on some music that you are likely to hear in the topless clubs. The purpose of this is to get you in the mood for the topless club scene. Also, you need to prepare your subconscious mind for meeting and picking up topless dancers.

 Here’s how you do it. Make yourself a drink and sit down in your favorite easy chair, sofa, recliner, etc. Now, close your eyes and relax and picture in your mind meeting some hot & sexy topless dancer. See yourself talking to her, becoming intimate with her, her sitting in your lap and being all over you, see the glow in her eyes that says that she's attracted to you and desires you sexually. See yourself leaving the topless club with her after she gets off work and going to your place or hers or just meeting her somewhere for lunch or dinner.

You may think all of this is silly and what in the hell do I need to create all these images in my mind for? The purpose is to register all these images in your subconscious mind so that when you get to the topless club your subconscious mind will give directions to your conscious mind to act them out. Don't get discouraged if this does not work the first time because it takes a lot of repetition for this to be absorbed by the subconscious mind. Also, all day long on the day you're going to a topless club, keep telling yourself over and over "I'm going to meet and score with a very special topless dancer tonight." You will be amazed at the results you can have by psyching yourself up. There's another benefit to this by helping you develop a positive mental attitude and build up your self-confidence around the dancers.

 

I am happy to announce that I will be publishing my latest book next month called, "Dating with Jesus: A Daily Spiritual Guide for Men on How to Meet, Date, and Attract Women." Here is an excerpt from the Introduction:

“Dating with Jesus” came about in March of 2017 while I was lying in bed about to go to sleep. I heard Jesus telling me to write a book for men on how to use the power of Jesus to help them meet, date, and attract women.

I just shrugged it off and just thought maybe I was just hearing voices in my head and just fell asleep.

All during the week when I would lay down to sleep I would hear the same command. Now, I was thoroughly convinced this was Jesus commanding me to write this book.

Then I was hearing his voice all during the day about writing this book and not just when I would lie down to go to sleep.

I am a man of God and follower of Jesus Christ, so when he tells me to do something I must obey him.

So, I started writing “Dating with Jesus” and prayed for Jesus to guide me in writing it and to put the words in my head. When I started writing I was amazed at how the words flowed from my head right down my arm to my pen.

I had no writers block whatsoever. Jesus was giving me the words to write. So, my writing of this book and you reading it is truly a gift from Jesus to help you meet, date, and attract women and to help you overcome any disappointments, frustrations, rejections, loneliness, and bad experiences in dating.

We were all put on this earth for a purpose and we all possess God-given talents. My talent is writing and my mission and purpose on earth is to help men like yourself succeed with women beyond your wildest dreams and fill your life with lots of love, romance, fun, and good times.

Let’s face it guys…It’s a jungle out there in the dating world for men now and for many men, the search for love and romance continues to be frustrating, disappointing, unfulfilling, heartbreaking, and lonely.

Also, their fear of rejection, lack of confidence, shyness, and fear of catching a venereal disease creates what seems like insurmountable obstacles to meeting women. And for those men that actually do go on dates, many of them never get a second date or the relationship is very short-lived.

Put your hope and trust in Jesus and allow me to be your personal dating coach and with the help of Jesus follow my dating tips, spiritual comments, and prayer suggestions in the book to turn your love life around. Jesus can open up his sky vaults and rain down favor for you to meet, date, and attract women who will love you and bring you much happiness and joy.

HINT #13 - Don't take one ounce of grief from a woman. At the very first hint of bullshit, call her on it. In the figurative sense, slap her on the wrist. Women can sometimes be like little children wanting to be disciplined. By being a nice guy, patient, and understanding, you are like the lenient parent trying to buy a child's respect - it can't be bought. By being soft, you are seen as being weak. From the very beginning, you have to be firm, letting her know that you will not take any bullshit of any kind from her. Don't forget, it's what she really wants.

By "bullshit" or "grief" we mean any kind of negativity that she may direct towards you, be it moodiness, unfounded criticism, breaking a date, general bitchiness - any type of behavior that you would deem undesirable or disrespectful.

As an example of this, we recall the time a friend of ours was at a shopping mall with his girlfriend. He bought a shirt at one store and then later in the day saw the same shirt at another store priced $1 less than he had bought it for. His girlfriend began nagging him to return the first shirt so as to save the $1. She argued that the first store was a rip off, he shouldn't let them get away with overpricing, and he should have shopped around in the first place rather than making an uneducated purchase.

             
Was she really concerned about the $1? No, she was testing him. Testing to see just how far she could push him. His reaction was to try and let it pass. He countered her arguments by saying it was really no big deal, and he would be embarrassed returning the shirt. She continued to tell him to return the shirt, and was soon demanding that he take it back. Finally he gave in and returned the shirt hoping that she would then be satisfied. In fact, she spent the rest of the day nagging him about anything and everything she could think of. It was as if he had been given a license to nag by her first victory. Returning the shirt only showed her that he would weaken if she nagged long enough.
 
What should he have done? At the very first hint of her nagging him to return the shirt, he should have very firmly told her that he had no intention of returning it. That he had gone shopping to enjoy himself and find some nice clothes, not to act like some cheap, tight-wad chasing around to save a dollar. His time was worth more than the dollar and he didn't want to hear another word about it. This was his only viable option.