Broken Relationship Help - Saving Your Relationship With 3 Easy Steps

It seems like in todays society relationships go from one extreme to another. Either no one bothers to work on their relationship and they let it just slip away, or they become obsessive and sometimes dangerous. Finding broken relationship help is easy. Following it, not so much.

Before you start trying to put your relationship back together this would be a good time to really, and honestly, decide if the relationship should really be saved. Let's face it, not all relationships should continue.

If you decide after careful soul searching that your relationship is worth saving than you can use the following 3 steps to help fix your love life and get your relationship back on track:

1) Be honest. Be brutally honest with yourself. This is the hardest thing you will do. It's not easy to admit to yourself that you were wrong. Whether you were wrong about the way you handled things in your relationship or you were wrong about the value of the relationship itself you have to take stock before you can move forward.

Once you've honestly evaluated your relationship and your part in the deterioration of it you can decide if you are ready and willing to make the changes needed to make the relationship work. Again, this is the time for brutal honesty. If you really don't think you care enough to work on fixing the problems, both yours personally and the relationship problems in general, than its' time to cut your losses and move on.

2) Talk. Honest communication seems to be so difficult for a lot of people today. That is one of the most important skills you can learn if you want to have a loving relationship. Remember though, it takes two. Even if you are capable of having an honest, open, and adult conversation, if your partner isn't than there is nothing you can do.

3) Be ready to sincerely apologize for your mistakes and your part in the deterioration of the relationship. The two of you have to be able to work together and that means accepting responsibility for your mistakes. If you or your partner is unable or unwilling to admit fault and apologize than the hurts and resentments will continue to mount and it will be very difficult to save your relationship.

By dedicating yourself to following this broken relationship help with your partner you have a very good chance of having the type of honest, respectful and loving relationship you really want. Just be sure that its' what your partner wants too.

Breaking up and getting back together, can it work? That is a question that a lot of people ask. It's not uncommon to break up with someone and later regret the breakup and try to reconcile. The question is, will it work? The answer is, it depends...

It depends on many factors. Below is a list of some things you have to honestly consider before you get back together with your ex:

1) Why did you break up in the first place? If you broke up because of major differences in your outlooks and personalities and found that you were constantly clashing then getting back together would be a bad idea.

Neither of you will be able to completely change your personality. Nor should you. If you are just not compatible that won't change. It's time to move on and find someone you are more in sync with.

2) If the reason you broke up was fairly minor daily hassles you have to decide if either of you are willing, and able, to honestly discuss it and make the changes necessary to make the relationship work. If you think that the two of you are mature enough to have an honest discussion of the problems and work on fixing them then you might be able to make it work this time around.

3) Was there infidelity or abuse? For the most part, if either of these things were present you're probably better off finding someone new. Most people don't really change to a significant degree. If you or your ex is a cheater that pattern will more than likely continue unless extensive therapy is undertaken.

If abuse is the problem no one should be given a second chance to hit or hurt you again. Leave, and don't look back. Hopefully your ex will get help and be able to overcome the problem but that type of treatment isn't always successful and could take years, it's time for you to move on for good.

Breaking up and getting back together, for the most part, can only be accomplished if you and your ex can be totally honest with yourself and each other. It's not impossible to make changes but it can be challenging and unless both parties are in agreement and are committed to making the positive changes needed to make the relationship work it's probably better to call it quits and move on.

Blind Dating

Blind dating is a common way for dating also. It often occurs when someone is set up on a date through a friend or a third party.

People are often set up on a blind date through a friend or a co-worker who knows both parties and

believes they would make a great couple.

If you are recommended to go on a blind date by a friend who knows you well, you might want to consider

it.

If your friend knows the other person as well as they know you, they might be right about the two of you connecting and getting along well together.

When you go on a blind date you might not have any idea what the other person looks like or you might have been shown a picture.

In all cases, the person you will be going out with will be someone you have never met or spoke to before. It is common to be nervous about going on a blind date because you don't know if the person will like you and you don't know if you will like the other person.

Some people really enjoy being set up on a blind date and many blind dates turn into successful

relationships if the right people set the two of you up.

You should try to know as much information that you can about the person before you go and be sure your friend knows the other person well before you go to be sure the date will not be a disaster.

However, even if the two of you decide that you are not a compatible couple you might meet someone who becomes a very good friend of yours in the long run.

Having your marriage break apart is an extremely difficult and painful thing to go through. When kids are involved it's just that much harder since you have to worry about them as well as try to deal with your own emotions. But there is hope. You can find the best ways to get your wife back and use the techniques you learn to save your marriage.

There is a lot of information available online. As you know not all of it is accurate. You don't want to waste time following bad advice. You want to make sure the advice you get has a real chance of working.

I have included a list of some things you should do to save your marriage and some things you should avoid at all costs. Follow this list and you'll be well on your way to saving your marriage.

DON'T

1) Don't whine, get angry, threaten, or seem needy. No one likes to be pushed around and manipulated and that's what you'd be doing if you do any of the above things. If your wife feels like you are trying to force her into something she will react like most people would when being pushed: she's going to push back and/or run away.

2) Don't obsess about everything, constantly replaying conversations over in your head, driving yourself crazy wondering what she's doing (and who she's doing it with).

DO

1) Do talk. I mean talk, not lecture. That is a big mistake so many men make, they try to talk over their wife. They don't really listen to what she is trying to explain. If you want to save your marriage and get your wife back you have to try very hard to put yourself in her shoes, to see things from her perspective.

Remember, perspective isn't right or wrong it's just how you see things. You are both entitled to your view of the situation. If you respect each other's opinions and feelings and are willing to listen, you might just find that you aren't as far apart as you think.

2) Try to remind your wife of what it was that attracted her to you in the first place. Be fun and try hard to live your life. No one wants to be around a boring, depressed person. Wallowing in your pain isn't the way to win her back.

Going out with your friends and trying to live your life to the fullest, even while you are working on getting your wife back, will not only make the situation easier for you it can also help her to see you in a new light. She can see you as the man she fell in love with and maybe some of those old feelings will re-ignite.

One word of caution though: do not hookup! If you truly want your wife back you don't want to cheat on her during this period. It might seem ok since you're not together but if she finds out, and she will, she will never be able to go back with you.

Think about it, how would you feel if the situation was reversed and your wife hooked up with someone so soon after your split. Wouldn't it hurt you deeply to think she could forget you and be with someone else so soon? That's how she would feel too. Plus, it's not fair to the other woman. You would essentially be using her to ease your own pain.

Relationships can be difficult, but that doesn't mean that it's not worth saving. If you follow the best ways to get your wife back listed above you will have a real shot at repairing, and maybe even improving, your relationship.

Who pays for the dinner date?

This is one of the biggest reasons to avoid the dinner date, at least to begin with. In addition to creating an awkward social setting with someone you barely know, you basically force all sorts of uncomfortable thoughts about the money involved.

Coffee? Who cares about a coupla bucks?

Shopping? You're not going to buy her something, are you? That smells of bribery worse than dinner, and you'll just make her uneasy.

Avoid putting yourself in situations where the issue of payment comes up, and you'll avoid this whole can of worms.

Create a World

That's a POWERFUL move. Say you want to tell her something (and have something to tell her). Maybe it can be about something you want to show her at your house, like an album or a book (done subtly, this is a great way to lead to a house call). Take her hand and LEAD her to a more secluded spot.

Don't put your hands all over her, you look desperate and pervy. But once you've led her somewhere, you've shifted the world a little bit, you are in it TOGETHER. Maintain strong eye contact. Speak in a quieter, confidential voice (the kind she wants to lean in to hear).

Set yourself up that way, and it should be much easier to get yourself moving to another spot right off the bat. The important thing is that you concentrate not on getting a woman to bed, but on moving to the next step.

Once you've got a connection, the next step is changing settings so you reaffirm and strengthen that connection.

This is good in so many ways. It gives you a chance to get to know the girl quickly which is impressive when it happens quickly, plus it let's you figure out if the lady is worth your time before you've invested much.

It feels natural ,something even the best dates fail at.

It's low-pressure fun, spontaneous, without expectations or commitments.

It's just great. Not to mention it allows YOU to set the pace you proceed at.

 

With what you've learned with me so far, you WILL be able to get numbers from women. Lots of them. Now I'm not saying you'll get the info for every lady that turns your head; plenty of women will be unavailable for various reasons. Some have boyfriends, some are taking a break, some are just in the wrong mood whatever, it doesn't matter. You know enough to not let the unavailable women get you down, affect your confidence, or change your playfulness. We're not worried about them.

And now that you can get the numbers of TONS of women, my job is done, right?

Wrong. This is just the FIRST STEP and you've got to remember that. Just because you've got a woman interested and even if you keep your relaxed confidence going there are plenty of places to stumble.

The Instant Date

Like what? This may surprise you, but you SHOULDN'T take women on dates. That might sound strange, so I'll phrase it another way.

If you take a woman to dinner and a movie, you're asking to be strung along like a knitting club's quilt. You set yourself up for all sorts of mistakes which I'll talk about in a second and you're just begging for uncomfortable silences and boring conversation.

Hey, you can make it work. You just make yourself work a LOT harder.

So what should you do instead? Well, best-case scenario you create an instant date. You go from meeting to GOING somewhere, TOGETHER. This can mean moving from the bookstore to a coffee shop, one club to another or often, to begin, just LEADING a woman from one part of a bar to another.