Spiritual Advice: By trusting Jesus you can handle all of the ups and downs of dating day by day.
Speak this: Even though I have a lot of ups and downs in my dating women I stay in peace because I know Jesus has my back.
A Few Negative Behaviors That Cause Dating Problems
If you have been reading my "Dating Tips of the Week" for the past five years, you may be wondering why do I always write about negative behaviors that turn single women off.
Well, it's for your own good. You need to know how to act around women when on a date. You need to make a good impression on her. If you have some behavior or personality traits that are offensive to her, then it can spoil your chances for future dates.
So, let's talk about some more negative behaviors you must avoid when dating single women:
Don't act like a know-it-all on your dates and overanalyze everything. When you dissect everything that comes out of her mouth, she is going to get bored with you. And don't try to analyze every situation she brings up in her conversation. Share feedback on subjects that she brings up but don't overanalyze them.
What's bad too is when you dissect everything she says, you will tend to try to find problems with what she is talking about. You start lecturing her, giving her advice, and offering your solutions for her. You will come across as trying to control her life, her thoughts, and actions. Plus, you may come across as a parent figure and she is your child. These are all behaviors that can turn her off.
So, what I have just talked about describe you? You may act this way and not even be aware of it. You may think that your behavior is perfectly normal. Even worse, you may know you act this way and don't give a damn. You take the attitude of, "I am the way I am and if the women I date don't like it, then tough shit."
When you play the dating game to win with single women there are rules you have to abide by. When you don't, you risk scaring women away. You want to attract women and not scare the away.
P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com
Spiritual Advice: If you follow God’s rule about no sex before marriage you will glorify him and bring about much pleasure in you for obeying him. This is going to be a tough one to follow because men are programmed with raging hormones. The constant exposure about sex in the media, movies, radio, music, etc. doesn’t help either.
Art of Setting Goals to Meet, Attract, Single Women
I highly recommend that you set goals to meet, date, attract, and seduce single women. This will help to focus your mind on succeeding with women and get you more dates. Here are a few dating tips to help you achieve your goals:
- Focus all of your attention, desire and energy in accomplishing your goal at hand. Forget completely about any consequences of failure with single women. Remember that you usually get what you think about most.
- When you start on your goal, concentrate all of your energy without any distractions on the successful completion of your goal. Make reaching your goal an all-consuming obsession.
- Develop a self-talk vocabulary to reach your goal of scoring with single women. Make it a habit to repeat again and again to yourself, "I want to - I can" in regards to scoring with all those women you desire.
- Substitute the word "Try" with the word "Will" in your vocabulary associated with meeting, dating, attracting, and seducing women. This is a form of semantics and creates a new attitude of concentrating on things that you "Will do," instead of things you plan to "Try," with a built-in excuse in advance for possible failure.
- Substitute the word "Can't" with the word "Can" in your daily vocabulary, too. Always tell yourself you "Can" do things you set your mind to.
In conclusion, set your goals and go for it! Happy Hunting!
Spiritual Advice: When you walk around a bar or nightclub in search of women to meet, visualize yourself walking hand in hand with Jesus directing your steps to meet women. He will guide you to the right woman if you will just trust him to do so.
Advice About Going on First Dates with Women
The First Date
At last, you have reached the point in your blossoming relationship where you will be going out on a date. Your first date, a milestone, yet a bottomless pit of uncertainty. It's like being on a roller coaster, with the alternating surges of soaring giddiness and fright, the conflicting emotions of "can't wait" and "not yet". While overjoyed that you will be going out with *her*, there is still the gnawing anxiety that you will somehow "blow it". Not to worry. It will certainly be something of an adventure, something to reminisce and laugh about (Oh, no! Not another learning experience!,) and you would not miss it for the world.
If possible, get plenty of sleep the night before, or at least take a short nap during the day. Shower and put on fresh clothes. Brush your teeth and shave, as necessary. Cologne and mouth wash are optional. Rely on those comforting little rituals that affirm your identity, and this will launch you on your journey, well rested, relaxed, clean, and feeling reasonably confident.
Be on time. You promised to be there at a certain time. Call ahead if circumstances will keep you from showing up as arranged. The trust between the two of you is still very new and fragile, and arriving late on a first date creates uncertainty and strains that trust.
On the way there, pick or buy a small bouquet of colorful wildflowers. It will not deplete your finances much, and will show how much you cherish her company. Flowers from your hand to hers... her happy little gasp of surprise, the warm flood of her smile, her smile for you alone.
The "classic", or generic date, not to be confused with the unconventional creative / inventive date, consists of entertainment, followed by a meal, then a walk under the stars, and finally the leave taking. The entertainment usually defaults to a movie, though a live performance, a play or a concert, makes for a richer experience. There is no need to spend "big bucks" in an expensive restaurant. A simple meal in an "atmospheric" neighborhood cafe, the scarred wooden table covered by a stained, checkered cloth, with a guttering candle in an old wine bottle between the two of you as you scoop up forkfuls of pungently spiced, chewy spaghetti, occasionally catching shy glimpses of each other's eyes... all this will do just fine. Then the walk home, the time for quiet reflection and expressing feelings by glances and occasional words, this tops off a satisfying evening.
As you walk with her, by her side, matching your step to hers, in cadence, in harmony, she has the opportunity to take your hand... if she is so moved. Holding hands comes naturally, if it comes at all. Do not force unwanted attentions on her! "Making a move on her" is neither required of you, nor desirable.
She will touch you if she has been touched by your presence. If she wants to be touched, she will touch you.
Time for parting. "Goodbye. I enjoyed the evening and the pleasure of your company." You may take her hand, if she is amenable, for a goodbye hand squeeze. If she offers her cheek, you may kiss it, likewise her lips... if she offers.
Respond, rather than initiate. Physical closeness is her gift to you, given if and when the time is right, and a first date is rather soon. "It was a wonderful evening. May I see you again?" It is the end of an evening... and a beginning.
This article contributed by Leo Cooper at http://personal.riverusers.com/~thegrendel/cover.html.
Spiritual Advice: Sometimes we are overcome with anxiety when dating and feel like we need help and relief from these dating issues. Well, your best strategy is to turn to Jesus for refuge and help.
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