Avoid Talking About Sex on First Dates

This week I want to focus on talking about sex on first dates.

I can't think of a better way to turn single women off, have her lose respect for you, and make her not want to see you again.

I know you probably think about sex most of time and you may not see any harm in expressing your feelings about sex while on a date.

Once you get to know a girl she may feel more comfortable talking about sex, but doing this on your very first date is taboo.

Here are some examples of questions and comments pertaining to sex you must never ask or discuss on a first date:

• How are you in bed?
• How many sex partners have you had?
• How many one-night stands have you had?
• Do you believe in having sex on the first date?
• Are you horny tonight?
• Can I spend the night with you?
• Will you make love to me?
• Talk about what a strong sex drive you have.
• Talk about what a great lover you are.

Trust me guys, single women don't like it when you get too sexually aggressive on a first date. Even worse is all during the date; all you can talk about is sex or things of a sexual nature. When you do this, she will get the impression that all you want to do is use women for sex and you treat women like a piece of meat.

When you focus too much on sex, it shows that you don't have much respect for her. You'll make a much better impression on her by being a complete gentleman and keep your hormones in check (being romantic is just fine, just don't get too sexual).

In closing, I can almost guarantee you that if you come on too strong sexually on your first date; you really hurt your chances for a second date.

Your best strategy is to take things slow and let nature take its course. It takes time to develop a relationship and when you both develop chemistry and attraction towards each other, intimacy follows.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Few Kissing Tips for First Dates with Single Women

This week I want to talk about that awkward moment at the end of a date when you're not sure on how to go about getting a kiss.

First of all, it's very important to know that some single women have a rule that they don't kiss on the first date. I don't agree with this rule and think a kiss would be a nice way to end a date. But, you must play by and respect her rules.

Sometimes you can just tell by the chemistry between you that you are going to kiss at the end of the date, if not before. Other times you will have to use your own judgement and read her body language.

If you start to kiss her lips and she turns away, offers her cheek, or offers to give you a hug instead, don't take it personally. She may not feel comfortable enough with you to kiss you. She may have the no kissing on the first date rule, she may have a cold, or she just may not feel any attraction towards you.

Lastly, don't try to force a kiss. This will only piss her off. And she may not even want to date you again because you did not respect her wishes of not wanting to be kissed for whatever reason.

In closing, I hope you don't hold it against a woman if she will not kiss you at the end of your first date. There will be plenty of time for kissing and intimacy on later dates once you get to know each other and establish some physical chemistry.

It's really sad that some guys won't ask a girl out again if she won't give him a kiss at the end of the first date. Give romance a chance! Don't give up so early in the game! First dates are normally just for getting to know each other and not for intimacy. There are exceptions to the rule (one-night stands and sex on the first date comes to mind).

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Awesome Advice on How to Talk to Single

This week I want to discuss a personality trait that can turn single women off when on a date. What is it? It's talking too much (diarrhea of the mouth).

I know you may be saying to yourself, "What's wrong with that, I love to talk." What I'm getting at is guys who talk on and on during the whole date and hog all of the conversation, not letting his date gets a word in.

Because of your total domination of the conversation, she will eventually feel ignored and unimportant. She will think you have no concern about her feelings. Also, she may feel that all you care about is yourself (self-centered).

Also, she may get so frustrated because you won't let her talk, she will just give up on trying to talk to you and remain silent. Then when the date is over she will feel relieved. She will say to herself, "Thank God that date is over with and I never want to go out with that creep again."

So think about this. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if you went out with a girl who incessantly talked throughout the whole date and never gave you a chance to say anything? Wouldn't you feel ignored?

In closing, give your date equal time to talk! Don't hog all the conversation. Share your thoughts on an equal basis. Talk awhile and then let her talk and express herself. A 50/50 basis would be great if possible.

And let me leave you with this final important tip: Be a good listener! Single women love a guy who listens with genuine interest. One of women's biggest complaints about men is that they are poor listeners.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

How to Break Up with Your Girlfriend

I know last week, I wrote an article on breaking up with women. This subject is so important; I wanted to pass along some more valuable information on that subject that unfortunately you will have to deal with when you play the dating game:

Many women defy the laws of gravity: they are easy to pick up and though to drop. This is especially the case of those with deep affection dependency (and therefore often smokers).

Often, it will take you a long time to make up your mind, to make the decision to leave her and then to put it into effect. However, once you have made up your mind, do not procrastinate. Most women have hard-wired psychological perception and they will know your loss of interest long before you actually allow it to show, all the more so once you have made the decision to part. Some may make a last chance attempt to keep you or try to exact vengeance. Expect anything!

So discretely plan ahead and leave them no time to react in an aggressive or desperate way. If need be, make a checklist of the items you will need to collect - you may not be given another chance! If you live separately, pick up the things you left at hers (not necessarily all at once but in a few moves), surreptitiously collect your home key if she's got a copy (or be ready to change your locks).

If you live together, consider leaving her the home if possible. Have then a place ready where you can move at any time and live for a while. If not, be ready to be a gentleman and to cover the unexpected expenses she will inevitably meet. Don't ever ever think of such brutal and rude actions such as locking her out or moving while she's away!! Be very aware that some of these actions move you past the no-return frontier!

When you think you're ready - and at any cost before she finds out what's coming - explain your decision to her in a very clear, calm, unassertive way. Make it short. Don't be lured into giving an explanation, it will usually lead to misinterpretation and more aggressive behavior on her part. Just say she's not the woman of your life.

Don't feel guilty for what you're doing. Don't make her feel guilty either (refrain from saying such sententious things as "only a fool could love you", "you would make a bad mother/wife", "I never told you how stupid/ugly you are", "I wonder how I could fall in love with you", which will deeply harm her and make her want to strike back - and also are double edged knives).

However, guilt is one of the weapons a woman is likely to use to keep you. "Knowing the trap is the first step in avoiding it" (Sun Tzu). If she manages to make you feel bad, know that it's probably a trick to bring you back (or maybe you have a genuine reason to feel bad!). If she threatens suicide to blackmail you, stay with her as long as you can, watch her, alert one of her friends to stay with her, but don't take your decision back. Never say you don't care, never claim she won't do it anyway (she may want to prove you wrong), never offer to move back (it makes you an instant looser and very likely to get the boot in the near future), just let her cool her temper, then leave.

Remember: these are difficult circumstances don't make them worse. Be a gentleman, it will make her less likely to strike you back (all the more since you may not see vengeance coming until it's too late). Maybe after a while you can be just friends again. Leaving someone is integral part of the love game; harming and messing up is not. Just think of how you would like to be treated for you will not always be the one who quits. Think also of your male counterparts: if you harm her unnecessarily, she may not be able or willing to find a new partner before long, and you could also find yourself having a hard time wooing a girl who has been messed up by her previous partner.

In a nutshell, be firm, be careful, be a gentleman. This article contributed by Thomas (thomas.M@bigfoot.com)

Advice on How to Break Up with Single Women

It is a sad fact of life, but there will be times when you have to end a relationship. You have to make some tough choices in life and this is one of them. It's hard to dump someone. Personally, I'd rather have a root canal.

It's such a difficult situation and sometimes you just don't know how the other party will react. How will she take it? Will she be angry and slash your tires? Will she try to get even with you? Will she continue to hound you about getting back together? You just don't know. Maybe she will be relieved, because she wanted to break up too.

So, how should you break the news to her? Let me explain the worst way to do it: Whatever you do, don't tell her the relationship is over by email. This is the easy way out and a coward's way to do it and not a suitable way to do it. Be a man and do it in person or over the telephone.

If you do it in person, I prefer to do it this way: Break the news to her in public such as at the end of eating lunch or dinner together. By doing this in public, she is much less likely to make a scene.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Few Tips on Prolonging Relationships

It has always amazed me how so many potential relationships just fizzle out. They start out great, but once the initial romance and infatuation phase wears off then you begin to lose interest in each other. Why?

Well, sometimes it's because one or both parties don't put forth the effort to keep the relationship alive. It takes a lot of work to find and start a relationship, but it also takes a lot of work to sustain one.

The point I'm trying to make is that you shouldn't give up on a relationship after the glamour has worn off. Don't wrongly assume that you have no future with her because the relationship is not as exciting as it was in the beginning.

You must do your part to nurture the relationship and keep the fires burning. Don't take her for granted just because you've been dating a few weeks. You must make a continuous effort to romance her and keep her attracted to you. Show and tell how much you care for her.

In closing, I would like to give you some more advice. Give a relationship time to develop.

I have made a lot of mistakes in the past by dumping women after just a few dates. I didn't take the time to get to know them and find out what they were like on the inside where it counts. At the time my brain was between my legs and all I was interested in was using single women just for sex, then move on to my next conquest (victim). This I'm not proud of to admit. I'm much older now and much wiser and interested in what women are like on the inside.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Duplicating Other Men's Techniques to Succeed with Women

This week I want to focus on a method of succeeding with single women that is virtually guaranteed to work. I call it the "role model" method of succeeding with women. Here's how it works:

Do you have a male companion that's very popular with women and is always meeting, attracting, and scoring with the opposite sex? If you do, then that's great! You can use him as your role model. Pick his brains and find out what he is doing that makes him so successful with women. Then when you find out what he is doing, you do the same thing he is doing.

By doing what he is doing, you can enjoy the same success he is having. Also, go on girl-hunting expeditions with him and watch him in action. Observe what he says, how he acts, his body language, how girls react to him, etc. Learn by observation what he is doing and you can duplicate his success.

If you don't have a male friend that is successful with women that you can use as a role model, then observe men at the places you go to meet single women that are obviously doing pretty well with the ladies. Pull him off to the side and ask him if he will share his secrets with you on how he successfully meets, attracts, and dates women. Then, just duplicate what he is doing.

After you have success with women by duplicating what your role model does, be sure and observe what is working for you. Stay with what is working for you. Success will breed more success and you will build a lot of confidence.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com