What to do When You're Down in the Dumps

This week I want to talk about a very negative and destructive thought pattern that can create havoc in your pursuit of single women. What is it? It's self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself when you are lonely and down-in-the-dumps because you have nobody to love.

Self-pity can become a habit just like a drug habit. When taking drugs your body can develop a tolerance to them and require larger and larger doses to get the same effect from the drug. And, so it is with self-pity. The more you allow your mind to become consumed with self-pity, the more it will require. Then you fall into the habit of being totally consumed by self-pity. It becomes a vicious cycle.

At this point, you're so down on yourself and depressed that your love life is in the pits, you feel hopeless, and you are paralyzed from taking the action you need to take to get out of your rut and start meeting and dating single women again.

This situation is only temporary and is never hopeless. There is a cure and the cure lies within you. If you will just think things out to analyze your situation and how you got into your self-pitying rut, I'm sure you will discover that the problems that made you wallow in your own self-pity were mainly created by you. This being said, it's up to you to not become a victim of self-pity.

When you feel yourself wanting to feel sorry for yourself because your love life is not working out like you want it to be, fight off this feeling with all your might and will power. Do not allow it to take over your mind and fill it with negative and unhappy thoughts.

Instead, tell yourself everything is going to work out ok. It won't be long until I find someone special. I just have to be patient and take action every time I see an opportunity to meet a woman. I like this slogan that I use to give me motivation and inspiration: "If it's going to be, it's up to me!"

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Signs That Women Are Not Interested in You

This week I want to discuss - How to Tell if a Single Woman You Are Pursuing is Not Interested in You:

The Cardinal Rule of Life - "Never stay where you are not appreciated."

This applies to all phases of life - jobs, sports, and social activities - but it especially applies to dealing with single women.

If a girl is not interested in you, then that is that. Nothing you can do is going to change it. Don't waste time with people who aren't into you. Even if she looks like the girl of your dreams, it will lead nowhere so move on. By hanging around this girl, you portray an image to her and everyone else that you are a person who is found unattractive by women. And worse, you are used to it. After all, if you had other women who were attracted to you why would you be hanging around her?

When are you not being appreciated? When you are the only one putting energy into the relationship. You are the glue holding the whole thing together. She is neither showing nor giving any effort or energy towards being with you. She's not making herself available to get together. She lacks enthusiasm. In sum, when trying to get something to develop is a struggle.

If you experience these symptoms and recognize the lack of "magic" present when two people are mutually interested, don't try any remedies - just leave. Don't make a speech, or a scene, or an issue. Simply bow out gracefully and pursue girls who are interested in you. You will be doing yourself and everyone else a big favor.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Never Pass Up Opportunities to Meet Single Women

Has this ever happened to you? You're outside somewhere and a car passes by and some girl whistles at you or makes a comment like, "Hey baby" or "Hey good-looking?"

This is quite an ego boost, but you must not let this opportunity to score with her pass you by. You must try to flag her down immediately and not let her get away. She's showed some interest in you and you must meet her and ask her out.

Maybe this particular circumstance has never happened to you. The point I'm trying to get across to you is that you must take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way to meet single women. If women go out of their way to show interest in you, you must not freeze up, stall, or ponder. You must aggressively pursue her then and there and not let her slip through your fingers. As the old saying goes, "You snooze, you lose!"

Missed opportunities will only cause you pain and regret. Why torture yourself with thinking about what could have been. Instead, take advantage of every circumstance for romance. Take control and create and control your own destiny in your love life. With every action you make in pursuing women, it creates a reaction and you want that reaction to create some action, "If you know what I mean."

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Telling White Lies to Single Women

This week I want to talk about dating issues that address the subject of when you should tell what I call, "white lies."

When out on a date with single women sometimes the subject of cheating may be brought up by her in your conversation. She may ask you if you have ever cheated on a woman. She just may be curious or she may be testing you to see if you are the faithful type of guy she is looking for.

Now, don't get me wrong, I totally believe in honesty, but this is one time you must tell a little "white lie" if she ask you if you have ever cheated in a relationship.

Let me tell you why. There's a stigma associated with cheating. The old saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If you admit to cheating to her in your past relationships, she's going to think you will cheat on her too. And when she knows this she may not be interested in seeing you again.

So, in my opinion, it's best to be candid about cheating. Don't reveal to her anything about being unfaithful. You may think it's no big deal to cheat, but women in general want a man who is honest and a guy she can trust.

Cheating is quite common among both men and women. Have I ever cheated? Yes, I have and I'm not proud of it. It happened a few times when I was in unhappy relationships where I wasn't getting my needs fulfilled, both emotional and physical. So, I sought women on the side who could fulfill my missing needs and desires.

Also, I've been around other women who tempted me with their hot bodies, sexy ways, and beauty. And I could not hold myself back and gave in to temptation. This is what happens when you have your brain between your legs.

Like I said, I'm not proud of my unfaithfulness in the past. Guys, if you find a good woman, stick with her and don't run around on her. It's not fair to her or you. And what's even worse, what if you get caught?

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

How Using Failures with Single Women Can Help You

You may think that I have lost my mind, but did you know that failure with single women is good for you? You may be thinking, Don have you lost your mind telling me that making mistakes with single women is good for you?

Let me explain why striking out with women can be good for you. I will use the inventor Thomas Edison as an example for my explanation.

As you know, he invented the modern light bulb. Do you think he invented the light bulb on his very first try? Certainly not. He endured failure after failure; mistakes after mistakes until he got it right. Mistakes after mistakes were necessary to finally get it right.

Each experiment and failure brought him closer and closer to his goal of completing his invention successfully.

And so it goes in the dating game. If you are not making lots of mistakes, you are not learning anything. You learn valuable lessons from your mistakes. You learn the correct way to succeed with single women. You learn what works and what doesn't work.

So, when you start feeling a little bummed out about your failures with women, think about Thomas Edison for some inspiration. You've got to fail a little bit before you succeed.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Advice on When to Stop Pursuing a Woman

This week I want to discuss chasing women, or rather I should say, when is the best time to give up on chasing a particular woman?

When you keep chasing a woman that you're crazy about and it's all one-sided and she shows no interest in you, what should you do? Well, if a woman is not interested in you she will go out of her way to give you hints by the way she acts towards you. She will try to make it clear that she does not want to get involved with you.

So, what can you do about it? Not much. Just accept the fact that she does not want anything to do with you and move on. The worst thing you can do is to pretend that there's a chance that you will get together when there's no way in hell that she will let that happen. Some guy's just try harder to get a woman when there's no chance for romance.

This just backfires. This will only make her dislike you more. The more you try to win her over, the more you just make a fool of yourself. You are just wasting your time and that of the woman.

So, a good lesson is to never hang around where you are not wanted. Just walk away with your pride intact. Respect her wishes of not wanting to get involved with you. Who knows, this might work in your favor somehow. She might have second thoughts someday. She may think, maybe you were a good guy for her after all. She may think, "He showed respect for me and just maybe I made a mistake by rejecting him."

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Dating Tips on How to do Better with Women

It's Easy to be a Good Listener If She's Voluble, But What If She Finds It Hard to Converse Easily? - If she's shy, inhibited, reticent, draw her out. Make her feel important, comfortable, relaxed, and appreciated. Your own spontaneity, informality and complete interest in her will help bring her out.

A Magic Formula If You Believe and Practice it - A famous, amazingly successful New York psychologist once said, During an interview: "I tell all my shy, inhibited, introverted patients: "Never be afraid to ask, you will be surprised and delighted to find out how often you receive a Yes! It is the expectation of receiving a "No!" which defeats most men "on the prowl" before they have half-started."

Why Some Men Never Get Past First Base - Many men with every advantage in looks, personality and the genuine affection of the women they court, never get very far in developing a love affair simply because they do not keep trying, do not keep moving onward. Ignore mild rebuffs, even repeated refusals, unless you are quite certain that the woman really wants you to stop!

Even then, unless she indicates plainly otherwise, you can always try again next time! Remember that most of the time she is only waiting for the opportunity to join you in love and sex if, in the process, you can make her feel secure and appreciated.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com