When To End a Relationship - Life Is Too Short

How do you know when to end a relationship? If you are asking the question you probably already know the answer. It doesn't really matter what the reasons are, if you have lost that lovin' feeling it may be time to move on.

Every couple will have a different reason for breaking up. Maybe you just don't communicate effectively. Maybe there are too many things the other one does that bug the crap out of you and you find yourselves fighting all the time. If you can't stand to be in the same room with each other, this may be a sign that the two of you should be over.

Even though I said that it doesn't matter what the reasons are, let me give you some examples of reasons someone would want to know when to end a relationship anyway, ok?

Look out for behavior changes. Does your partner come home and do anything they can to stay away from you or not talk to you? There may be something else wrong and you can try to ask them what the matter is. Be prepared for what you might get as an answer.

If they find excuse after excuse why they can't go here or there with you there could be a problem. Assess the situation and see if you can come up with a reasonable explanation. Maybe they don't feel good or something is wrong at work. Or, maybe they just do not want to be in the relationship any more and don't know how to tell you.

If you try to initiate an intimate situation and they put you off, you may have to start to worry that they have something going on with someone else. All too often when one partner loses interest in being intimate it is because they have found someone new and are getting their needs met somewhere else.

Have you noticed they are trying to hide when they are having conversations on the phone, like talking on the phone in the bathroom. Or, maybe they try to hide what they are doing on the computer. If you notice that they have files on the computer that are suddenly password protected then you can bet they are keeping secrets and going behind your back.

If you do notice any of these behaviors then you should be the one to initiate "the talk" and end the relationship. There is no sense in prolonging the agony and ignoring the situation. The relationship is over and you both have known it for a long time. When you do get down to the nitty gritty and have your talk each of you will probably be so relieved you will wonder why you waited.

Life is too short to spend your time with someone you don't love and who doesn't love you. The best thing you can do at this point is to figure out when to end a relationship and get on with your lives.

 

When Moving On Break Up Is Hard To Do

If you are thinking about moving on, break up is quite hard to do. Do you dread the conversation that you have to have to tell your partner that the relationship is over? Or if it is your partner that is approaching you with the break up conversation you may try to distract him from the conversation to avoid it. But if a relationship is not working out anymore then there comes a time when you need to call it quits and move on.

This time is actually a good time to evaluate your life and your relationship and see if there is anything that you can do to improve them. It is difficult to know how to handle a break up and sometimes it can be a clean break while other times it really isn't what you actually want. If you both sit down and talk about the relationship and what the problem is then perhaps you can work through the problems and save the relationship.

Break ups can actually be avoided if you can catch the problem in time. If you find out what it is in the relationship that is going wrong then you can nip the problem in the bud before it forces the relationship to end. You may even need to reach a point of discussing a break up and whether that is the best option or whether you can work out your problems together and build a good, solid relationship. If you can figure out the problems and work at them then you may prevent your partner from breaking up with you and moving on.

When you are having a break up conversation and trying to salvage this relationship then the conversation needs to include the following:

* Ask your partner why they are unhappy in the relationship

* Ask your partner if you can work together to solve the issues and save the relationship

* Actively listen to what your partner says so that you can understand how he is feeling and what you can do to improve or change things in the relationship.

Once you know what is going wrong in your relationship then you can take the necessary steps to change the issues. Of course this needs to be a joint effort with both of you putting in an effort to rectify any problems and get your relationship back on track. Often a lack of communication is the biggest problem in a relationship and a couple doesn't communicate until it is too late. As soon as you begin to see any cracks in the relationship this is the time to start talking about any issues and resolving them.

By talking about what is going wrong you can then work at fixing it and prevent that break up from happening.

 

10 Awesome Prayers for Dating Women

1. My Prayer: "Dear God, I know that with you all things are possible and I pray that you will help me achieve my goal of having a new girlfriend. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
2. My Prayer: "Dear God, help me not make these mistakes on my first dates with women. I want my first date to go smoothly and make a good impression on her so I can have a second date. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
3. My Prayer: Dear Jesus, make the plans for my love life and let nothing deter me from seeing them fulfilled.
4. My Prayer: "Dear God, help me overcome my shyness when I go to nightclubs. I get so nervous, fearful, and anxious when I think about approaching women that I am attracted to. Help me overcome these fears and give me the courage to approach women with a calm, cool, and confi-dent attitude. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
5. My Prayer: "Dear God, I pray that I don't make any of these dumb dating mistakes and blunders that turn women off. In Jesus name I pray, Amen"
6. My Prayer: "Dear God, help me be a good driver when I'm on a date. I want to be a safe driver and not put my life, my date, and other people's lives in jeopardy. If I commit any of these driv-ing sins help me overcome them. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
7. Spiritual Comment and Prayer: These are the two most important prayers to say when you are dating: 1. When something good happens in your dating life say, "Thank you Jesus." 2. When things are going wrong in your dating life say, "Help me Lord."
8. My Prayer: "Dear Jesus, help me overcome feeling depressed and feeling sorry for myself when I don't have a woman to love in my life. Help me avoid having any pity parties. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
9. My Prayer: "Dear God, please help me to be myself when dating and not try to pretend to be someone that I am not. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
10. My Prayer: "Dear God, help me avoid being possessive, controlling, and smothering women that I date. I don't want to scare women off by being this way. In Jesus name I pray, Amen"

 

Romantic Gestures to Seduce Women

Perfect the Small Romantic Gesture

Grand gestures are great in the movies. But, in the real world with kids, bills, jobs and housework, everyday romance is better than any single gesture of love. Romance starts with the little things. Until you get that ironed down, all the sweeping gestures will fall flat. That is not to say they will not work. A fat, 10 carat, pink diamond will give the relationship a boost. But, unless you play for the NBA and are prepared to pull out your black card every few months, it is best to iron down the basics.

Small, romantic gestures can be more powerful than their expensive counterparts. A way to a woman's heart is through her feelings. She needs an emotional connection to make everything feel right. The little things that show you consider her happiness and well-being make her feel appreciated, loved and adored. And that, my friend, is romance.

Is the concept still foggy? Here are a few ideas to try out:

Everyday Intimacies

Praise her regularly. Women love to give and receive compliments. It doesn't matter if you compliment the sparkle in their eyes when they laugh, or a new spice in the meatloaf. Just make it as specific and sincere as possible.

Touch her lovingly during everyday situations. Lay your hand on her lap under the dinner table or put your arm around her when watching television. Physical touch, without expectation, builds a connection and is the epitome of romance.

Call her by a pet name. Pet names are nicknames made perfect. A carefully given pet name sets your relationship apart from others. The right name shows you care enough to give her an intimate title suited to your special bond. No matter how silly, the key is to use the name with confidence.

Bring her something without her asking. For example, when at the gas station, buy her favorite drink when you pay for the gas. Hand her the beverage with a kiss on the cheek. Or simply bring her a glass of ice water on a hot summer day. This is more about being thoughtful than reading her mind - simple and romantic.

Glance her way. Romantic body language goes a long way during day to day activities. A special glance across the room while the kids, are playing creates a special moment. Do it just right, and a deep focused stare becomes an invitation for much more to come.

Show out like a teenager. Yes, you are all grown up, but teens know how to throw caution to the wind and enjoy life. Public displays of affection are très romantic. So, flirt, hold hands, kiss in public places and announce your love to the world.

Help out with "her" chores. Does she always load and unload the dishwasher. Take the initiative and complete this task for her. Better yet, when she gets up to clear the table, take the plates off her and say lovingly, "Honey, I'll take care of this. Go relax. You deserve a break." Don't ask. Just tell her you want to help, do it and do it how SHE likes it done. If she like the glasses on the top rack, put them there and don't forget to scrub the pots and wipe down the counter.

Pamper her properly. Offer to scrub her back when she is in the shower, and don't get in unless she gives an invitation. Give her a shoulder massage longer than 60 seconds. Go all out and paint her toes. Don't worry; the fellas never have to know.

 

The at Home Date

An at home date is often much more impressive than the traditional type. For it to go off without a hitch involves some preparation. First set the scene.

Make sure the house, or at least the room for the big date is tidy and clean. Low light is notoriously romantic. Dim the lights then create soft lighting with candles or white Christmas lights. If the sun is setting open the windows. Simply controlling the lighting will cast a romantic glow on the evening. Turn on background music loud enough to set the mood, yet soft enough to allow for conversation and sweet nothings in her ear. Ignite her sense of smell by sprinkling perfume on the light bulbs or use scented candles. However, if cooking dinner allow the foods aroma to arouse her senses.

Don't forget to drop your kids off at the sitters. You don't want to go through all this work to have your lover switch into Mommy mode. Once everything is set, hop in the shower, put on some suave threads, and her favorite cologne. After all, you are the most important part of the scene.

Here are a couple of ideas to start your creative juices flowing: 1. Watch a romantic movie. Grab a blanket and snuggle on the couch with a dvd she's been dying to see. Or pull out an old favorite that has special significance. It doesn't matter if it is a drama with subtitles or is an action adventure. As long as it is chosen with her taste in mind, it can set off a perfect romantic evening. 2. Cook a romantic dinner. This old standard will never go out of style. Plan a simple menu with foods your spouse enjoys. Now is not the moment to experiment with a new recipe. Include an appetizer and a light dessert to complete the picture. 3. Have game night for two. Stay in on Saturday night and laugh and bond over a game of scrabble. Have a bottle of her favorite label on hand and use the good wine glasses. Share a relaxed, quiet evening at home and you never know how the night will end. 4. Use your environment. Clear a spot in the living room, put on a cd and ask your date to dance. While you are entwined in each other's arms whisper something sweet in her ear. Dust off the fireplace and light a fire. The soft flames, champagne, a blanket and cushions on the floor are very intimate. Or light candles around the hot tub or swim in your pool by moonlight. The point is to use what is already there, and create an experience, even if it means putting her hand in yours and embarking on an evening stroll.

 

Romantic Gifts to Give Women to Impress Them

Now for the cherry on top - the romantic gift. Everyday gestures and well planned dates are further enhanced with the right gift. When it comes to romance, not any gift will do.

Contrary to what many men believe, how much you pay for the gift is not directly related to her enjoyment. The wrong gift, no matter the cost, will put you in the dog house. A new top of the line dishwasher is no good no matter how shiny. Why? Practical gifts, no matter how much you spend, are never romantic. Here are a few gift examples that fit the rules of romance:

A rose is just a rose. Red is the color of passion and a red rose means, "I love you. Place a single rose somewhere she will find it like under her windshield wiper. Roses are pure romance, but remember to keep a gift of flowers personal. If your sunshine prefers daisies, a hand picked bouquet will make her heart flutter.

Give her your undivided attention. Pick a day to hang out with her at the mall. When you see her interested in a garment insist she try it on. Have her come out and model it for you. If she likes the outfit, purchase it for her without asking, and let her wear out the store. The combination of spending time with her and the impromptu gift is terribly romantic.

Let her know she is sweet as candy. Sumptuous chocolates have been presented to Lovers through the ages. If she is a gourmand give her Swiss chocolates, or if she enjoys gummy bears giver a bag and tie it with a bow. Keep her taste in mind and you will hit her sweet spot.

 

Cracking the Code to Romance

CRACKING THE CODE

Most women have different versions of what romance is, and what is romantic. All you need to know is how to break your woman's code. To make the modern woman weak there is one golden rule. Please your woman as you would have her please you. Since, most men see romance as a list of procedures; let's break it down to six simple rules.

1. Know her interests. No two women are identical. You can't possibly please your partner without knowing what they like. Romance is thoughtful. Know who she is and

2. Put her desires above your own. This doesn't mean be a doormat. But when you are making a romantic gesture, put your favs aside for hers.

3. Don't expect your back scratched. Romance is alive when you are eager to please for no other reason than making her happy. Once you do something expecting a pat on the back, romance is off the table. If you think she can't tell you have ulterior motives, think again.

4. Do it all by yourself. For romance to work, you have to put on your big boy pants. If you ask her for ideas or allow her to help, you are done before leaving the gates.

5. Serve her with a smile. Making her happy should not be presented as a chore. Romance must be her pleasure and yours.

6. Be spontaneous. Women love mystery. Surprise her for no reason at all and romance will definitely be in the air.