If I Ask a Woman to Dance and She Turns Me Down or If I Talk to a Woman and She Ignores Me, It's Because I'm Not Worthwhile or Good Enough For Her.

This irrational belief causes shy men to fear approaching a woman and produces low self-esteem when they are rejected. This fear of being rejected and turned down prevents shy men from making contact with single women.

If you're turned down for a dance, it doesn't mean that you're not worthwhile or not good enough for her. She just may not feel like dancing at the moment. She may just be tired. She may not even dance.  There can be a number of reasons. So don't take it personally. However, what to do in a case like this is to use this pick up line to ask her, "Would you like to dance later?" If she says yes, just ask her again later. Even better, just ask her, "Well, can I join you for some conversation?" In the mean time just ask other women to dance.

Also, I might add, a lot of guys get turned down to dance, so don't feel that you're the only man in the world that happens to. It happens to all men, even real good-looking men.

If you approach a woman and try to start up a conversation and she ignores you, don't take that personally either. She just may not feel like talking or being bothered. Perhaps she's tied down to a boyfriend or even married. Also, you just might not be using the proper social skills.

So if she ignores you, move on to the next single woman and you'll find someone who will respond to your advances.

As you  probably know, when someone is sitting or standing with their  arms crossed across  their chest, it  usually  means  a person  does  not  want  to  be approached and probably doesn't care to listen to what you  have  to  say.  This  is  how  most psychologist interpret the crossed arms.

Don't let this mislead you though. When you see a woman with her  arms crossed she  just may be  frustrated and lonely and just not having  a good time. However, if she has a stiff and tense look on her face and she is sitting  in  a  stiff  manner  with her  legs tightly crossed  and purposely averts her eyes when you try to catch them with your own eyes,  you're probably better off not even trying to meet this girl.

A limp or hanging hand usually means she is bored, restless, or just  tired.  It can  also  indicate frustration or disgust.

For various reasons,  some women do not  want to be noticed. They  may feel  unattractive or  even ugly or may not be dressed properly, lack self-confidence, and may feel  inferior. They will just  stand around shyly or bashfully on the sidelines staring at the ground or watching everyone  else have  fun. These women may have such  a bad  complex that  they purposely  do whatever they can  to make themselves less  noticeable, such as dressing plainly, wearing little or no makeup, and wearing a non-becoming hairstyle.  In  essence  these  women  are saying, "Just leave me alone, find someone else to talk to."

The really  sad part about women  like this is that some of them  are really attractive. They  just have a complex they can't get rid of. If you want to invest a little time you could help them get over this complex. It might be worth the effort.

Yes, there are shy topless dancers.  Some feel very uncomfortable stripping.  Why do they do it then?  For the money!  It all revolves around money.  These girls really don't enjoy stripping and their hearts are not really not into it.  They are relieved when the dance is over.  Also, these girls can have a shy personality.  They are not very talkative and don't have much to say.  You will have to do all thetalking.  They are very introverted and you may deceptively think that she is not interested in you.

     
Don't give up on these types and get discouraged.  Accept the fact that she's a little shy and pursue her.  Once you break the ice and get them warmed up, they can certainly make your night worthwhile.  In my experiences, the best sex I had been with women who had shy personalities.

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TIP #1 - Make thefirst dates with a girl casual. You may even do something during the day rather than in the evening. Save formal dates for later on when you are more comfortable with her. Most men do the opposite. Formal dates at first, and then as the relationship develops, the dates become more and more casual. This can imply to the girl that she is being taken for granted.

TIP #2 - For first dates try to go for spontaneous, informal gatherings, rather than dates arranged days in advance.

EXAMPLE: "By the way, some friends are coming over for dinner tonight.  It's very informal. Come and join us." If she can't, you say, "That's too bad. You'd have enjoyed it. Maybe some other time." If she does join you, you are now in a great position to present your best side to her.

TIP #3 - Make sure your body language is inviting to her during the date and not a turn-off.  Your eye contact and closeness should be open to her, but not crowding or threatening. Again, if she is having a good time, she will be open to contact. Remember, women enjoy sensuality.

Here's an article I found on the usenet that was posted by an anonymous author which will open your eyes to some head games single women play on men:
Another typical female behavior is to test you at the very beginning of your relationship to see if you are going to put up with her garbage.Actually, she is testing you for two reasons:
First, she needs to find out the limits of what you will view as "her acceptable behavior." She does not know you well enough yet, she is in unfamiliar territory. And that can be very "scary." So, she needs to find out what behavior is expected or accepted of her. The uncertainty makes her feel very uncomfortable, totally out of her, "Comfort Zone."

 Second, she needs to find out, she must find out how strong and sure of yourself you really are. Some women can be very insecure. The very last thing a woman really wants and needs is an insecure and weak nice guy who is easily manipulated and controlled by her. Therefore, she really wants and needs a strong man who will control her and tell her what to do, a man confident enough to stand up to her when she needs it, a man who will make her feel secure, a man who will give her that sense of security she so desperately needs.
She sometimes cannot get that sense of security from herself because she may have so little self-confidence and self-esteem. She may even believe that she has very few talents and abilities - except for her physical features and beauty. It can be very frightening. Therefore, she tries to get that sense of security "by osmosis" from you. Plus the added benefit that she won't have to worry about the hard decisions.You will make them for her.
WARNING! If you are tolerant and patient (like all nice guys) you will not pass her test, she will walk all over you, she will leave you and go after another jerk because he looks so uncontrollable, so untamable, so strong and therefore, so desirable to her.
I was kind of hesitant about posting this article because I don't like to focus on anything negative, but I need to make you aware of head games that single women will play on you.