It is of the greatest importance to realize that when you approach a girl, your every word need not be believable. Some men get so uptight about this. They say, "She will surely know I am faking when I approach and ask for help, or show interest in her work (or whatever)." They feel guilty, as if they are trying to deceive the girl, and they know she will see through it.

But don't worry. Of course the girl knows what you are up to. And she knows that you know she knows. (Sort that one out!) It is all a game. A ritual. You are saying certain things, but your message has nothing to do with your words. That is the way the game is played. The real message is to simply let her know you are attracted to her by approaching her in some way. All girls understand this.

As much as you can, you should try to act in a light-hearted manner during the courtship process. If you are a serious natured person you may find it hard to change, but you should at least make an effort to smile more often. This adjustment will usually improve your image.