A Dry Run

A great approach to pick ups (if you are a little shy) is to do a dry run. You can pretend to yourself that all you are interested in is meeting a girl. Your purpose is purely platonic. You take her somewhere for coffee, or make a future date. You don't have to try hard to impress her. You are only interested in her company on a friendly basis. You can even talk to her exactly as you would a man friend. This takes a lot of pressure off of you; you’ve made no commitment.

Then later, if you choose, when you know her better, you can bring sex into the picture. She will probably be wondering why you hadn't done it sooner. The idea is to meet the girl first, then decide if you want to move in on her. Maybe she will decide to move in on you, but don't count on it. Most women still look to men to be the leaders in sexual encounters, although she may give you some encouragement.