The key to successfully meeting topless dancers is to not come on to them all hot & horny and wanting to jump their bones. Become their friend and exude warmth and friendliness. The worst thing you can do is treat them like a sex object. Make her feel special and appreciated.

Believe me; you will stand out in her mind as a special guy that's different than the rest of the men who come in the club. After all, the name of the game is to get her truly interested in you and attracted to you.

HINT #1 - It never hurts for a woman to be a little bit insecure in the relationship. Fear of losing you will make her want you all the more.

HINT #2 - Be reluctant to discuss the future or commitments. Women start to feel the pressure of being tied down. Better that by the absence of your words, they feel a bit unsure of their hold on you. They'll always want what they can't have - or what they're not sure they have.

HINT #3 - Express your feelings through actions, not words. Better to show a woman that you love her, than to tell her you love her. If a man is constantly telling a woman he loves her and is not showing that he loves her, she may interpret this as him trying to tie her down.

Nice guys beware of the walking wounded single woman. These are the single women who, really, really need your friendship, love and support. She's just come out of a devastating break up. She's hurt and naturally all your instincts tell you to give. Give and keep on giving, because she's a woman in need, and you can't turn your back. How can someone so badly hurt, ever be in danger? Besides she loves you. She says it over and over. She keeps saying how much nicer you are than other men she's known.

 Soon, you're sleeping together. What started out as a friendship has become a relationship, and now you are attached. But beware of two things. Firstly be sure you yourself are not simply attracted to her because she is needy. That's not a healthy thing. But secondly, beware what happens when you have given of yourself so much that her self- esteem is now fully repaired, and she is finally over her bout of depression. She's grateful to you. You were there when she really needed a friend, but now she wants some space. Soon she's talking about "moving on", and "putting her life back together" and it is obvious your usefulness is at an end. You have let yourself become the "interim man." The person, however innocently, she uses in order to deal with the break up.
This article was contributed by Michael Boniwell.

 

Most women are interested in astrology and you can use this to your advantage. I have used this method very successfully in meeting women to get a woman to leave a nightclub with me to go over to my place to do her horoscope. This can work for you and it's so very simple.

You may be saying to yourself, "I don't know anything about astrology." Well don't panic, because all you're going to need is one book to get you started. The book is called Heaven Knows What by Grant Lewi and is available at your local metaphysical or regular book store. They can order it for you if they don't have it. This book will enable you to cast a detailed horoscope in ten to fifteen minutes without the slightest study or knowledge of astrology beforehand. All you need to do is follow the simple directions carefully, step by step, and you just can't go wrong.

The chief use of the horoscope is it's aid in self-discovery or in discovering what makes your friends tick, not to mention the women you do a horoscope on. The horoscope tells the basic underlying psychological and emotional drives of the individual. If you desire to pursue astrology further after using this book, there are many excellent books on the market. I've been studying astrology for over twenty years and believe me, you can never learn enough about astrology. If you don't believe in astrology, investigate the subject and you will find there's a lot of truth to it.

Now, here's how this method is used to pick up and meet women in nightclubs. Of course, you can use this method in any setting or situation. The best time to use this method is after you have made initial contact with a woman and towards the end of the evening. You can't just walk up to a woman and ask her if she would like to have his horoscope done and then leave and go to your place. OK, let's say you have met a woman and you have had a few drinks and a few dances and you're hitting it off pretty good. It's getting late and it's time to make a move. Ask her, "What sign are you?" Then follow up with, "Are you interested in astrology?" Then ask her, "Would you like to have your have your horoscope done?" Assuming she says yes, then follow up with, "Why don't we leave and go over to my place and I'll calculate your horoscope and let you read about yourself?" If she declines your offer for that particular night, set it up for another night. If you don't get her over to your place the first night, at least you'll get her over at a later date. Of course, you can always go over to her place instead.

You have the option of making the main objective of getting a woman to your place to have her horoscope done is to seduce her. I'll leave this up to you. After doing her horoscope you can proceed with your seduction routine (dim lighting, soft music, a few drinks, kissing, stroking, etc.).

 In conclusion, you're going to run into some women who don't want any part of astrology. You'll just have to try and convince them to try it before knocking it. If this fails, you'll just have to resort to other methods to get a woman to your place. At least give it a try and see how it works for you. You have nothing to lose and a hell of a lot to gain. This method sure did work for me. Just buy the book and learn how to calculate a horoscope and you will be on your way to meeting more women. 
 

 

1. If you have a need in your dating life, take it to your Father in heaven knowing that his grace is sufficient for you. Trust in him for how that grace will come to you.

2. Because of Jesus, we can live our days with faith. We just never know how God might bless our dating life today.

3. If you are on a date with someone who is discouraged allow the Holy Spirit to use you to restore their confidence in Jesus.

4. PRAYER: I have never known a despondent day...It’s because the joy of the Lord is the strength of my life.

5. Regardless of how chaotic or overwhelming your dating situation is turn your attention to Jesus - He will provide you with the rest and refuge you need.

6. Do not seek revenge for an ex-girlfriend who did you wrong. The Bible teaches that if we seek revenge, we are violating the principles of God, but we are also setting ourselves up for Satan’s control of our life. - David Jeremiah

Be sure and flirt with the topless dancers in every situation. She can be walking by, sitting at your table, on the stage, etc. Let her know you noticed her and are attracted to her. Develop a very sexy looking gleam in your eye along with a warm smile as described above. Literally try to melt a dancer with your eyes. Practice this special look in your mirror and use it to meet dancers.

If you make eye contact with a dancer across the way and she turns away, don't get discouraged. Keep trying to make eye contact and smile at her. If she smiles back, motion for her to come over and join you. If she comes over after smiling at you, this could indicate that she's interested in meeting you. Make sure that when you're flirting that you do not stare. This is rather impolite and most people don't like to be stared at. The dancers don't mind when you stare when they're dancing because this is to be expected. Otherwise, they would feel uncomfortable by you staring at them.

 

HINT #1 - You constantly have to be using your imagination. Don't allow yourself to become predictable and boring. Be thinking of new things to do - a restaurant she hasn't been to, a walk in the park, or taking pictures at the beach. Do things that are slightly different and unpredictable. Women love a man to surprise her with his spontaneity. Even if you've planned an activity in advance, make it appear to be a thought of the moment. Remember, it is as much the style with which you do it, as what you do.

HINT #2 - A friend once made the observation: "Casual dates are for getting to know someone, formal dates are for people in a relationship." Most people make the mistake of doing the opposite. They go on formal dates when they are trying to get to know someone, and once in a relationship, get lazy and go on casual outings. You have to spice up a relationship with formal affairs. Women love to dress up - so let them.

Don't forget that a relationship will stay strong as long as her feelings for you stay strong. The key to all of this is giving a woman what she really wants. Don't make the mistake of thinking that women's needs and desires change just because they are in a relationship.

 

This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women."