Advice for Men Pursuing Foreign Single Women

I was looking at your website, and although I agree with most of the advice given about meeting and marrying single foreign women using dating services, I do think that you need to give a more realistic view of what foreign women want with American men.

I am a 29-year-old foreign woman living in the US. No, I am not married to an America man, and yes, I do like AM (American Men). The thing is that most foreign women do like AM. The idea of the AM, and what we hear, and see on television is usually very attractive and well spoken. So most have that ideal vision of the AM.

Until these men go overseas and we see what we are dealing with. I think it is a mistake to give AM the impression that foreign women are so desperate that any AM will do. That is not true. If you have problems dating women in your own country, maybe you should look at yourself first, and see if there is something you can do about it.

I, and many of my friends have been disappointed to see many short, unfit, bad teeth, bad hygiene, bad dressers, poor social skills with the opposite sex come to my country and expect a goddess because she has to be desperate, and therefore happy to have them. Can you please tell these men that if they choose a woman who is too young, and too pretty for them (that seems to be they all want, looks, even if they do not measure up. What happens when she comes to this country, begins to work, and realizes that many, many men who are intelligent and attractive are attracted to her? She may find that she has chemistry, real chemistry with a man that she really cares for, who can also take care of her. Maybe her American husband had no luck with women because he never understood women. Now she has the attention of many AM, many who are successful with women, and know how to talk to her, and can choose.

Can you please advise the men that go overseas with expectations for a wife to be more realistic in their choice. If an American woman traveled to a foreign country, a woman who was unkept, or out of shape, but had a lot of money, got herself as good looking husband (I know of a man who married such a woman, but we all know why he did it) all the men would be able to figure out his motives. They would know that this would not last, and the second he meets a prettier, younger American woman, who has financial stability he will leave.

Why? Because that woman never understood that she needed to get herself in shape, and develop more social skills and confidence in order to find the partner she wanted. Going to another country and finding a mate did not do anything but give her a temporary partner. If these men like foreign women so much, why not date ones that have been in the US 5 years or less? Most say that by then, she has become Americanized, and has more of a choice with men. That is correct, but how do these men plan to keep their wives from seeing the American culture, and what is truly available to a beautiful, intelligent foreign woman. How long will it take that pretty 20 something girl married to the 40 something divorced man paying alimony and child support to figure out that she can have it all and not settle for this man who married her?

I think if these men are truly looking for a partner, they should look at women in their 30's and 40's,who may not be so beautiful, but still better than the women they could have gotten in the US. I sometimes feel very sorry for these men looking for the beautiful women, because I understand that it is easy for both parties to be grateful in the beginning. The young girl looks at this man as her savior, and she is grateful (for now), and the man cannot believe his luck.

Remember, if it looks too good to be true, IT IS! But after a few years, her gratefulness begins to disappear, and resentment sets in when she realizes that she really did not get a prize. When she goes to work, or the supermarket, and sees other women with good-looking successful men, and she wants the same. Thank you for taking time to read. - Article contributed by Karen C.

Best Advice on How to Talk to Single Women

If the topic you've been discussing seems to be on the verge of dying, one way of changing topics is to ask a ritual question. You might say, "You said you've been in Florida for three years. Where were you before then?" Sometimes you might want to change to another topic for only a brief moment. All you have to do is say: "Excuse me, but I'd like to change the subject for a moment," and then make your comment or ask your question.

Try to complete your ideas quickly and then return to your original topic of discussion. Don't do this too often. You may give the impression that your mind is scattered, or that you cannot (or don't care to) discuss a particular topic on a meaningful level, and therefore are avoiding the topic. It may also suggest that you are not listening or that you are bored with the subject matter.

Make Use of Names

Repeat her name several times as you speak. That will help you remember it. Moreover, using her name is one of the easiest and most meaningful compliments you can give. You might find it easier to remember names if you visualize them written out. Ask how to spell a difficult name. If you happen to forget her name, it's perfectly OK to say, "Forgive me, but tell me your name again." Don't be embarrassed. And don't try to fake it - a "Christie resents being called "Crissie."

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Advice on Overcoming Shyness

What is shyness? Webster's defines shyness as being "uncomfortable in the presence of others." For the shy man this refers to being uncomfortable in the presence of the opposite sex.

Shyness can be a crippling mental handicap and its consequences can be devastating in the following ways:

1. Shyness breeds negative feelings like anxiety, depression, and loneliness.

2. It encourages you to think too much about yourself and to be over-preoccupied with your own reactions.

3. It will limit you in voicing your own opinions and values and speaking up for yourself.

4. Shyness hinders your thinking and ability to communicate effectively.

5. It has an unfavorable bearing on how others will evaluate your personality.

6. Shyness makes it more difficult for you to meet new people, make friends, or enjoy potentially good times. Thank goodness, shyness can be cured and overcome!

As an example of shyness, at every nightclub you will find the shy man. You'll see him just standing around all night, being afraid to approach a woman and start up a conversation or even to ask a woman to dance. So what happens? They get frustrated and leave the club. They keep coming to the nightclubs and repeat the same routine. They stand around wishing they could meet someone, get frustrated, and then go home frustrated and depressed.

You can overcome your shyness and you "must" if you're going to nightclubs, etc. This kind of social setting can be most threatening and anxiety-provoking if you are a shy man. This kind of setting will only aggravate your shyness condition if you don't take the appropriate steps to overcome your shyness.

In order for you to promote this change yourself, first you must believe that change is possible. You must really want to overcome your shyness condition. Last, you must be willing to commit time and energy to take action and to risk some temporary failures in initiating change procedures that can lead to long--term success. To sum it up you can change if you believe you can but it takes work...hard work.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Technique on How to Seduce Single Women on the Dancefloor

Let me give you a few pointers if you're slow-dancing and by all means try to dance to every slow dance because of the physical contact involved.

Just as in fast dancing, immediately start introduction procedures. Open up by saying, "My name is_______ What's yours?

When slow-dancing, try to hold her as close to your body as possible. Gently now! Don't squeeze her like an octopus. When moving your right leg, gently brush her inner thighs. While dancing, gently squeeze her hand and see if you get any response. If you do, continue with the next step. Start rubbing her back with your hand. At this point if she starts rubbing your shoulders, neck, or back and starts grinding her crotch against yours, you are on your way.

At this stage of the game it's time to try and kiss her. Begin kissing her neck and work your way up to behind the ear, then the ear lobe, then kiss her on the lips. If you've gotten this far, chances are you're going to become intimate with her tonight, if not later for sure.

If you have tried all these moves and you do not get any response, don't be concerned about it. Some women are reluctant to show any affection towards a total stranger. This is quite common, so don't jump to conclusions thinking that she's cold or not interested in you.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

A Method to Seduce Topless Dancers

These are just some simple strategies to lure her away from the club when she gets off. It's really a lot like fishing. You will be baiting your hook and hopefully she will bite on it and you can reel her in.

Here are a few suggestions to bait your hook with:

1. Ask her out for breakfast or dinner, then suggest coming over to your place to party and have some fun.

2. Invite her over for a "Hot tub party." If you don't have a hot tub, I would suggest that you invest in one. Why? Take it from me, there's just something about laying in a hot tub sipping champagne or margaritas that makes dancers lose their inhibitions. Don't be surprised either if she goes topless or even nude in the hot tub. Can you just imagine yourself in your hot tub with a naked topless dancer? Just keep feeding her champagne or margaritas and make your move. You should be able to score if she's attracted to you or so drunk she doesn't know what she's doing. If she passes out, whatever you do don't try to have sex with her. In some states you could be charged with rape if she's aware that you've had sex with her or attempted to rape her.

3. Invite her over for a massage. You really need to know what you're doing though to seduce her with your hands. If you're really good at it she will become like putty in your hands. She's yours for the taking! So, how do you become an expert masseuse and give erotic and sensual massages? You learn how! To learn how go to:

4. Ask her if she would like to go for a ride down to the beach. To pull this off it really helps if you have a convertible sportscar, Corvette, jeep that you can take the top off of, luxury cars like a Lexus, or sportscar with T-tops. Dancers love sportscars and riding with the top down or T-tops off. Then after you have hung out at the beach, you can ask her to come over to your place.

P.S. Don't forget to bring your swim trunks in case you go for a swim.

Also, bring your cooler with beer, canned mix drinks, or even ice down a bottle of champagne (Don't forget the glasses).

5. By all means, if you have a large boat such as a cabin cruiser, sailboat, speed boat, yacht, etc. and it's at a marina not too far away, ask her if she would like to go for a boat ride or just load up the whole boat with topless dancers.

Advice on How to Meet Effluent Single Women

One of the cardinal rules in your search for the well-to-do woman is to forget the bars. The person you're looking for isn't wasting time in them. You have to go where the rich and soon to be rich spend their time. If you like boating and water, many yacht clubs allow people to join on social status who don't even own boats. What better way to meet a well-to-do woman than to be a member of this club and be present at the various social functions the club provides? This allows you to mingle with a lot of people of means without having a large cash outlay yourself.

If you're a horse lover, find an exclusive stable or riding club and join up. This doesn't mean you have to have a horse of your own to learn to ride.

Better supermarkets are excellent meeting places for the upwardly mobile, as are better department stores. You can be working there or shopping there, just as long as these eligible women see you. Some of the really large stores such as Bloomiingdales in New York have entire departments devoted to party needs such as wine, cheese, crackers or hors d'oeuvres, etc. Want to meet a nice on-the-way up type of woman, she's here buying for a fun party. It's a sure bet if you're looking around this type of party center; conver-sation will develop if you let it or even better, start it.

In University towns, the libraries are excellent meeting places for soon to be lawyers and doctors and other assorted professional types. Ideally, you should be in the University library as opposed to the public one. This could necessitate enrolling in one course to get the card entitling you to use the library. Take something fun and easy.

Real estate is always a good avenue to follow in pursuit of a good career and chances to meet well-to-do women. You will meet successful women looking to buy a home. So, get to night school and get that realtor's license so you'll be ready to meet those women looking for a home.

Male airline flight attendants meet great many successful women. Airline ticket persons meet the same people but usually don't have the time to start a relationship because of the lines and the need to get these people out. A flight attendant can get more exposure to the well-to-do passenger and perhaps start a relationship that will continue after the plane has landed.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

Advice on Writing Foreign Single Women

I'm sure you have seen all the ads from matchmakers to meet and marry foreign women. If you pursue this way of meeting single women, here's some valuable information:

Let me give you some advice on writing these lovely ladies in the Far East:

1. There will be a lot of competition for the real beautiful young girls. They can have their pick of the handsome, well-to-do, successful and financially well-off guys. If you're not in this category, you're going to have some problems connecting with these cream-of-the-crop beauties.

2. There are plenty of other attractive ladies to choose from. Don't judge these ladies by their photos alone. Photos can be deceiving. I've met lots of girls that didn't photograph well and were knockouts in person. Besides, love generates true beauty. A person can become so beautiful once you get to know them well.

3. If you're a much older man (50+), don't just write to the real young women. Most of these ladies seem to prefer men up to 15 years older. Beyond that range you'll get fewer responses.

4. If you have poor handwriting, type your letter or have it typed. If she has problems reading your writing, she may just discard your letter in favor of the ones that are easier to read. Be sure and use good stationary.

5. Make your envelope stand out. What I used was colored envelopes with large commemorative stamps on it. Also, I put these colorful red heart stickers on the back flap of the envelope.

6. On your first letter don't make it too long, telling your whole life story. Also, keep your letter friendly, interesting and entertaining. Don't ask real personal and intimate questions. Save them for later when you get to know her better.

7. A word about photos. Send one with your first letter if you feel you are good-looking. If you're not that attractive, maybe it would be better to send one later. Be sure and send the best photo that you can. Send one with a happy smile on your face. This makes the best impression.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com