Small Talk to Attract Women

Small Talk with Women

Small talk is talk of things that are fairly unimportant (and probably uninteresting) to you and the girl. But they should be things of some general importance. For example, it would be unsuitable to say that you just saw a gum wrapper on the sidewalk. That would be trivial to the point of absurdity. Small talk should at least presume to be important. Here are a few typical" small talk" comments:

The train is late today. This spring weather is fantastic. The weather is lousy. The streets are very crowded this time of year. Gas prices are getting higher. People don't spend as much these days. People dress more casually than they used to. Service in stores is not as good as it used to be. Food portions are smaller in restaurants. Cars seem to be getting smaller. Computers are unbelievably efficient. The...football team is on a winning streak. The...TV show is terrific. Interest rates are coming down. The stock market is dropping again. A lot of great new albums have been released in the last few weeks.

There are thousands of such comments. They are used just to give you something to say until you are ready with a more interesting subject. You may feel foolish trying to start a conversation with such an ordinary subject as the train being late. But don't worry, it is an accepted way of getting something started. The girl may not care that much about the train, but she will be happy to talk about it if she likes talking to you. It is obvious that you must not engage in small talk for very long - it is very boring if extended.

Sometimes a good subject for discussion will emerge from small talk, but don't depend on it.

Your Future When Dating Women

Future Dates with Women

Here is a good idea to help put a girl more at ease. Suggest an interesting, impressive date for the future, shortly after you meet her. You might even make this date the main reason for approaching her. For example:

"I wanted to meet you so I could invite you to come with me to the annual banquet of..." Of course this date should be a genuine event. It is not unusual for men to have an occasion coming up and be looking for someone to take to it. Girls are usually receptive to such offers if they like to look of the guy. It need not be a banquet, it could be a more easily arranged dinner party, but there should be more than one couple present.

If the girl accepts, or even if she is only considering it, you can then proceed with a normal SECOND PHASE approach. The future date helps build up your case in the more immediate courtship you are pursuing. If you are successful you may even arrange a more intimate activity before the future date takes place.

Making Sexy Overtures to Women when Dating

Sexy Overtures

You should make a sexual overture of some kind, to see how the girl responds. If she gives a positive response, you should pick up on her response and work the theme as long as it is productive. Then, move on to a non-sexual topic. In other words, if you tell a sex joke and she really enjoys it, she may tell one, or encourage you to tell more. As long as you are both enjoying yourselves, this is great. Sex should be fun, in any case. But you should sense when there has been enough of it and change to another activity or conversation topic. Strive for a mixed conversation.

If she did not respond to your overture, you might try one more time. Then, if she still seems uninterested, leave off and go back onto another topic. If she is still friendly, it may be that she is not quite yet ready to respond sexually. Of course, she now knows of your sexual intent, so if she is still friendly, she apparently doesn't object to it. You should try again later, but allow plenty of time. If she is unfriendly after your overtures, she is rejecting you entirely.

The two of you are really discussing your sexual involvement by a type of signal code. Before you made your sexual overture, the girl may have already decided she wasn't interested in you sexually, but was just being friendly because that was the easiest thing to do. She did not even know if you were interested in her sexually. So she did not respond to the jokes and became unfriendly to tell you she was not interested in you that way. Girls say that it is sometimes hard to do this because even though they want to discourage a guy, his jokes can be very amusing and it is hard not to laugh at them.

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Advice on Talking Sexy to Women

Sexy Talk with Women

It is important not to overdo this sexual talk. Your main objective is to let the girl know you are interested in her sexually, and you are making moves in that direction. Also you need to know how she feels about your interest.

You should not overwhelm her with a constant barrage of double meanings, dirty stories and sexual suggestions. Some men do this, and girls think they are sexually obsessed. It becomes monotonous, a real turn-off. It makes a girl feel uncomfortable.

Anyway, they usually know what you are up to, that you are sounding them out, and they will send back a message to give you their answer. Be careful, and watch for this message.

Advice on Talking to Women

Talking to Women

Sometimes the subject being discussed will become exhausted or the girl may become embarrassed or bored by the line of conversation. You should drop that subject immediately and start fresh on something else. You don't need any fanfare. Simply say, "Well! What do you think about ...," or "You know, I once knew a guy in Hawaii."

Attracting Women with Your Smile

Using Your Smile to Attract Women

Humor

Humor is very effective in all conversations. Remember a few good jokes and try to learn how to tell them well. Some people write down especially good jokes so they can remember them, and periodically go through them to refresh their memory.

If you can handle an impression of someone it is even better. But that would be icing on the cake. Some can do a whole routine and be the life of the party. Fine. But unless you are good at it, leave it to someone who is.