HINT #13 - Don't take one ounce of grief from a woman. At the very first hint of bullshit, call her on it. In the figurative sense, slap her on the wrist. Women can sometimes be like little children wanting to be disciplined. By being a nice guy, patient, and understanding, you are like the lenient parent trying to buy a child's respect - it can't be bought. By being soft, you are seen as being weak. From the very beginning, you have to be firm, letting her know that you will not take any bullshit of any kind from her. Don't forget, it's what she really wants.

By "bullshit" or "grief" we mean any kind of negativity that she may direct towards you, be it moodiness, unfounded criticism, breaking a date, general bitchiness - any type of behavior that you would deem undesirable or disrespectful.

As an example of this, we recall the time a friend of ours was at a shopping mall with his girlfriend. He bought a shirt at one store and then later in the day saw the same shirt at another store priced $1 less than he had bought it for. His girlfriend began nagging him to return the first shirt so as to save the $1. She argued that the first store was a rip off, he shouldn't let them get away with overpricing, and he should have shopped around in the first place rather than making an uneducated purchase.

             
Was she really concerned about the $1? No, she was testing him. Testing to see just how far she could push him. His reaction was to try and let it pass. He countered her arguments by saying it was really no big deal, and he would be embarrassed returning the shirt. She continued to tell him to return the shirt, and was soon demanding that he take it back. Finally he gave in and returned the shirt hoping that she would then be satisfied. In fact, she spent the rest of the day nagging him about anything and everything she could think of. It was as if he had been given a license to nag by her first victory. Returning the shirt only showed her that he would weaken if she nagged long enough.
 
What should he have done? At the very first hint of her nagging him to return the shirt, he should have very firmly told her that he had no intention of returning it. That he had gone shopping to enjoy himself and find some nice clothes, not to act like some cheap, tight-wad chasing around to save a dollar. His time was worth more than the dollar and he didn't want to hear another word about it. This was his only viable option.

 

 

 

 

Should a woman know for sure that you are not seeing any other women? No. If she is wondering, then she is a bit insecure and the hint that other women find you attractive will intensify her interest in you. Please note that we do not advocate infidelity. We are merely saying that she will find you more attractive if she suspects that other women find you attractive.

If a woman confronts you with the question: "Are you seeing another woman?" maintain stout denial. She will still be wondering and that is real good.

Once, while looking at a magazine centerfold, we found this interesting comment. It was on the back of the picture - the part that gives the girls biographical information. Under the heading "likes and dislikes" she stated, "I'm not interested in men who let me walk all over them." At first glance, this seemed reasonable and not much was thought of it. Then one of us asked, "Why does she try to walk all over men in the first place?" We began to think about this, and found in our observations a very interesting behavior in women.

We found that women will test men. They will try to walk all over men to see how far they can push them. Why are they doing this? Literally, they are testing the guy's manhood. The more grief a man will tolerate from a woman, the worse he scores on the test. Women are testing because they are looking for a man who will not let them get away with any bullshit. It is a situation where the more understanding and patient you are, the weaker you are seen. The worse you score on the test.

This article is from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women."

I would like to share a few tips from one of our readers:

Being 40+ and single again has it's curses and blessings, I wont linger on the former but would like to share with you and your readers a great little place to snag babes. Bookstores, yep bookstores, not only do you get to screen what her interests before moving in, but you already have a common ground, something to talk about right away instead of fumbling around for something that interests you both. Depending on whether you are an expert or a novice on the subject matter you can opt to enlighten or be enlightened and believe me, a woman will never miss an opportunity to show that there's "more than T&A in the DNA."

"All that and a great mind too!" usually will get a smile, and a phone number.

Libraries are also great places if you've got the time. A little tip is finding an attractive lady at a table, look at what she's reading, grab some of the same subject matter, and plop down across from her or near enough to start exchanging thoughts.

I have enjoyed quite a few successful encounters thanks to your tips and advice but if there is one little tidbit that everyone needs to carry with them it's that rejection is a part of the game. Hell, Ken Griffey Jr. doesn't get a hit but once every three at bats and he's on his way to the Baseball Hall of Fame so don't be afraid to swing away. Thanks.

This will help you to meet and pick up women by influencing the subconscious mind by means of suggestion. Using the method of autosuggestion, you will be giving yourself positive suggestions to meet women.

              This method is very simple and very effective. Repetition is the main rule in making suggestions work. They should be repeated three or four times, or even more. These suggestions can be made verbally, though it is not necessary to say the words aloud. Just thinking them is enough. Some people respond better if they are said aloud, so you might want to experiment to see what works best for you. To make the suggestion more potent, you may form a visual image while making the suggestion verbally. There is a tendency for the subconscious to carry out any prolonged and repeated visual image.

              You will be phrasing your suggestions using the words, "I can" or "I will." Start out using the words, "I can" and if no results are shown, switch over to the words, "I will." Remember, in giving yourself suggestions, acceptance by the inner mind is necessary or it will not be carried out, no matter how badly you may consciously want this.

             

Now I will recommend these suggestions for you to use. Pick out the ones you like the most or even make up your own. Any of them will work.

"I can walk up to any woman and start talking to her."

"I can move into action quickly and easily when I see a woman I like."

"I can approach a woman, totally free from all negative feelings such as worry, inferiority or nervousness."

"I can make the first move when it comes to sex and follow my sexual urges and proceed to seduce my date whenever I feel the time is right."

"I can bring a woman home with me if I choose to do so, when I go to nightclubs."

"I can meet up any woman I desire."

              It is recommended that you shouldn't burden your subconscious mind with too many suggestions at one time. Try to work on one suggestion at a time and never more than two. If using two suggestions, start with the first one and repeat it three or four times, then repeat the second suggestion three or four times, then go back and repeat the first suggestion.

              Use this method daily and you will be meeting and picking up more women than you ever dreamed possible. You will be more confident than ever and meeting and picking up women will become natural and easy. Try this and see if your love-life doesn't improve dramatically.

              Also, I might add, you can use this method to obtain anything you want. It doesn't have to be applied to just meeting women only.

              In conclusion, remember the need for repetition and suggest results, not means.

The key to successfully meeting topless dancers is to not come on to them all hot & horny and wanting to jump their bones. Become their friend and exude warmth and friendliness. The worst thing you can do is treat them like a sex object. Make her feel special and appreciated.

Believe me; you will stand out in her mind as a special guy that's different than the rest of the men who come in the club. After all, the name of the game is to get her truly interested in you and attracted to you.

HINT #1 - It never hurts for a woman to be a little bit insecure in the relationship. Fear of losing you will make her want you all the more.

HINT #2 - Be reluctant to discuss the future or commitments. Women start to feel the pressure of being tied down. Better that by the absence of your words, they feel a bit unsure of their hold on you. They'll always want what they can't have - or what they're not sure they have.

HINT #3 - Express your feelings through actions, not words. Better to show a woman that you love her, than to tell her you love her. If a man is constantly telling a woman he loves her and is not showing that he loves her, she may interpret this as him trying to tie her down.

Nice guys beware of the walking wounded single woman. These are the single women who, really, really need your friendship, love and support. She's just come out of a devastating break up. She's hurt and naturally all your instincts tell you to give. Give and keep on giving, because she's a woman in need, and you can't turn your back. How can someone so badly hurt, ever be in danger? Besides she loves you. She says it over and over. She keeps saying how much nicer you are than other men she's known.

 Soon, you're sleeping together. What started out as a friendship has become a relationship, and now you are attached. But beware of two things. Firstly be sure you yourself are not simply attracted to her because she is needy. That's not a healthy thing. But secondly, beware what happens when you have given of yourself so much that her self- esteem is now fully repaired, and she is finally over her bout of depression. She's grateful to you. You were there when she really needed a friend, but now she wants some space. Soon she's talking about "moving on", and "putting her life back together" and it is obvious your usefulness is at an end. You have let yourself become the "interim man." The person, however innocently, she uses in order to deal with the break up.
This article was contributed by Michael Boniwell.