Treat Her With Dignity

I know topless bars have a bad reputation and the girls get a bad rap. Some people think topless dancers are nothing but a bunch of whores and prostitutes. If this is what you think of these women, you had better change your attitude in a hurry. The dancers will pick up on your attitude by the way you treat them.

The vast majority of topless dancers you will run into are not prostitutes or whores. They are only dancers making a living by taking off their clothes. Don't hold it against her because she's trying to make a living by taking her clothes off in front of a bunch of lust-hungry horny men. They have bills to pay just like you. What I'm trying to say is treat these women with respect and dignity. Always be a perfect gentleman. Believe me, she will notice these little things and it will make a good impression on her. Even though they are a topless dancer, they still like to be treated as a lady and not as a piece of meat or as a sex object. They still have a lot of pride.

Always treat them as you would like to be treated. Don't ever be rude to her even if she gives you cause to be rude to her. If she makes any smart or rude comments towards you, just ignore it. You're not there to make enemies, you're there to make friends and turn that friendship into a love affair or sexual encounter.

If you treat a dancer like shit, she will never forget it. Plus, she may tell the other dancers what an asshole you are. Also, she may tell the bouncer and have your ass thrown out of the club. Always be on your best behavior and charm. It always pays off in the long run.

Here's the actual letter I used to write back the women that answered my national personal ads. This letter was very successful and I got a lot of positive responses with it. Modify it to fit your situation.

Dear Susan:

Thank you for answering my ad in "Globe Magazine." I really appreciated your lovely photo. On the basis of your "sweet" letter and photo, I've come to the conclusion that you are a very nice person and the type of woman I've been looking for. I sincerely hope we get a chance to meet, for I feel that a woman like you could make my life happy in many ways. My main goal in life at this time is to meet an unmarried and unattached woman who is sincerely interested in marriage to a one-woman man. I'm not concerned about your religion or economic status as these things are unimportant to me. What's important to me is your truthfulness, honesty, and loyalty. If married to me, you would not have to work if you didn't want to. However, if you did want to work I would prefer that you help me with my publishing business. All this would consist of would be filling orders for books during your leisure hours at home. Again, you would not be required to work because I have enough earning power and education for the both of us. If married to you, I will share all the wealth I've accumulated in the past and future on an equal basis. As my wife, lover and friend, everything is half yours and I'm a very unselfish person.

I'm white, single, educated, refined, generous, well-informed on all subjects, intelligent, good-looking, well-groomed, and have a good sense of humor. I know how to treat a lady and I know I could satisfy and fulfill your needs like you've never experienced before. I'm extremely affectionate and very romantic. I love candlelight dinners, fireplaces, holding hands, walking hand in hand along the beach at sunset, and bubble baths. Also, I love to shower the "woman in my life" with lots of kisses and tokens of affection such as flowers, cards, gifts, etc. I will accept you as you are and would not try to change you. I think it's very important for a woman to be "herself." I would want to expand your life and not try to suppress it in any manner. I'm not the jealous, domineering, and possessive type at all. If married to me you would remain independent and could pursue and enjoy all the activities that you enjoy. Also, if married to me you would know of my whereabouts and what I was doing at all times. I love traveling and take many long trips. As my wife you would become my traveling companion. I have been in 43 states and 26 foreign countries. There's nothing I wouldn't enjoy more than seeing interesting places with the woman I love.

I'm very modern man in all respects and very up-to-date with the times. I don't live in the past and live one day at a time with a positive outlook.

My leisure activities include mountain-climbing, canoeing, kayaking, fishing, camping, hiking, bowling, playing the organ and guitar, and all sports. Also, I enjoy eating out, good music of all kinds, live theatre, reading, going to movies, and good conversation.

I'm very mature and well-established and financially secure. You would never have to worry about money or financial security if married to me. Your physical looks are not of the utmost importance to me. I'm more interested in "inner beauty." I'll take a warm-hearted plain-looking woman any day over a pretty lady with a cold heart. I'll have to admit that it is nice to have a very beautiful woman to look at, but physical
beauty is an attribute that fades with age, giving way to wrinkles and added weight.

In case you're wondering why I answered your ad. Well it can be summed up in Johnny Lee's hit song, "Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places." In the past I've gone to nightclubs to meet the opposite sex. All I've gotten out of this is shallow relationships and the all too common, "one night stand." The women I meet don't seem to be interested in a meaningful relationship. They just want to play the field. I just can't handle all the game playing in clubs. That's why I wrote you. At least I know you're looking for a meaningful relationship and someone to love just as I am.

I am a very easygoing and easy to please. I also believe in sharing responsibilities on an equal basis. I love to cook. I'd share all the domestic chores with you and I'm no perfectionist when it comes to housecleaning.

I must be totally honest with you and tell you that I consider sex very important in marriage. I have a strong, passionate, and healthy sex drive. It would be important to me that you have a healthy attitude towards sex and have a desire to keep your man satisfied and fulfilled in this important area. Concerning children, if you desired to have children, that would be OK with me. If you didn't desire to have children that would be OK also. I'd be happy with you with or without children.

If you're still interested, Susan, I would like to hear from you again real soon. At the bottom of this letter you will find my home and business phone numbers. Feel free to call me anytime. Please tell me about yourself, the things you enjoy, your goals in life, and anything you have strong feelings about. This would be helpful to evaluate the things we have in common and if we could get along in a close relationship (marriage).

I have a lot to offer you as a husband, lover, and friend and if you're interested, I would like for us to meet and spend some time together to determine if we are compatible and if we could become deeply involved in a relationship. If this worked out favorably and we hit it off real well, I would favor us getting married soon. Being that distance separates us, it would be difficult to have a long courtship involving numerous trips and dates. A conventional courtship would definitely be out of the question.

So if you're disappointed and tired of what you've had up till now and want to settle down, and ready for a first-class man to come into your life and treat you like a Queen and fill your life with love and happiness, please write or call me without further delay. If you can recognize a truly sincere letter, then you'll know that this is "the real thing."
Sincerely,

Small Talk

Usually, at this early stage of the encounter, you are engaged in small talk, and just about anything is O.K. so long as it flows. It is usually not a good idea to rush into a personal approach right after meeting the girl, particularly if she hasn't warmed to you. You do not know each other well enough yet. That is why small talk should be I used for a while as a transition. You should try to spend some time just chatting casually while you become better acquainted.

This is where feedback is important. The girl may show a warm response to you very early in the encounter. Then you can advance out of small talk and right into a more personal line of conversation. Of course compliments and small talk can be worked into the conversation again, at later times in the encounter, whenever it is appropriate to do so. But a word of warning: Don't engage in conversation for a long period of time, talking only small talk. The girl may find you boring. Your feedback should tell you when it is time to become more personal.

EXAMPLE - A friend was having a party, and the day before the party, he went to a neighborhood swimming pool to try to find some friends to let them know about it. While there, he sat down to talk to someone he knew and noticed a very attractive girl who he had been trying to meet for some time. After a while, the girl and two friends got up from their chairs and went to swim laps. He got a piece of paper and wrote: "Party Friday Night, Drinks are Free, Bring Something to Eat, (His Phone Number), Call for Directions." He put the note on her chair and left the pool.

Sure enough, he got a call that evening from a very curious and intrigued girl. She asked who he was, and what he had been wearing at the pool. When he told her, she remembered him, and was very positive. Finally, she asked, "Do you always leave notes on chairs?"

His reply was a great example of shocking a girl with the truth. "No, I did that because I wanted to meet you, and if I'd gone up to you and told you that I had a big party for you to come to, you'd have thought that I was handing you the oldest line in the book. So I left the note. I was banking on you being curious enough to call and come to the party."

Indeed, she did come to the party with two of her girlfriends, and he had all evening to get to know her.

Here are some tips on talking to topless dancers when you go to topless clubs

Animate Your Listening

She can't read your mind, but she can read your face to get a clue of your reactions. Look at yourself in a mirror and imagine things that make you sad, happy, astonished, shocked. Exaggerate your expressions - try so hard that every facial muscle feels strained!

Experiment with every feeling you think may come up in a conversation - respect, admiration, sympathy. As you become more used to expressing your emotions this way, you will feel less as though you are overdoing it, and you will better convey your feelings.

Learn To Change The Topic

Learning how to gracefully change the topic is one of the best ways of keeping a conversation going. It also provides an opportunity for you and her to find areas of mutual interest.

A Flowing Conversation

A good conversation flows in and out of several topics. People jump from point to point. A remark may spur a recollection about a completely different matter. Then the talk may naturally flow back to the original topic. You shouldn't feel that you have to completely exhaust all the possibilities of one topic before proceeding to the next.

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Has this ever happened to you? You just meet this hot & sexy beautiful single woman and you agree to meet for dinner at a local restaurant.
You're all pumped up to see this girl again and you're hoping this meeting will lead to some romance and a potential relationship.
You arrive right on time at the time you both agreed upon. And you're waiting and waiting for her to show up. Ten minutes goes by...then twenty minutes...then thirty minutes.
What should you do? Leave in a fit of anger and never see her again? Call her up later and cuss her out?
Here are my recommendations:
1. Never wait more than 30 minutes for a date to show up.
2. Give her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she has a valid excuse for not showing up such as traffic, sudden illness, emergency at home, problems with her kids, car trouble, etc.
3. Call her the next day and see if she offers an explanation. When you first call, act like nothing happened and let her bring up the subject of your dinner date first. If she offers no explanation, then do not pursue this woman. She may have purposely not showed up because she has no interest in you.
4. You can try another tactic that could make her not feel so bad about not showing up. Just tell her you're sorry you didn't show up for your dinner date because you had a personal issue to take care of. This may be a little white lie, but it takes the pressure off of her. Just reschedule another meeting.
5. Whatever you do, don't call her up and start cussing her out. This serves no purpose and there are some single women out there that enjoy making men upset by standing them up.
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I would suggest rescheduling another meeting for dinner. If she doesn't want to, then just take the hint (she's really telling you that she's not interested in you). If she agrees to meet you again and doesn't show up again, then forget about her. Don't let a woman humiliate you twice.
In closing, remember that being stood up is part of the dating game. It happens to everybody. Don't let it get you down. Let it be a lesson...if a single woman stands you up on purpose, then you don't want to be with a woman who is not interested in you anyway.