A person's image is a difficult thing to define. When someone forms an image of another person, it is a mental picture, conception, or impression of that person. This impression is formed using the information at hand. Your voice, the things you say, the way you walk, the color of your hair, your height, build, your clothes, your grooming, your behavior, anything and everything can be used by someone to form an opinion of you. But, any one man has many different images. Different people have different images of him, and all of these images may be completely different from how he perceives himself. For example, people who see Bob riding with his motorcycle gang on weekends have a different image of him than formed by people who see him at work as an accountant.

But let's discuss a more typical example. Let's put Ron at a party. He is, for the most part, average in looks and dress with respect to the other people there. At one point in the party, he is talking to three girls. They are interested in what he has to say and are standing around him. To other people at the party, Ron appears to be quite the lady's man. He must be an interesting, attractive, sexy guy or these women wouldn't be hanging around him. Women are thinking, "Gee, how can I meet him?" Later on, Ron has gone for a drink, everyone else is locked in conversation, and he stands by the fireplace alone, content to listen to music and observe the others at the party. At this moment, a late arrival enters the room and sees Ron. She is thinking, "Boy, everyone else is talking to someone, and this guy is standing here alone. He must not be found attractive by anyone. I'll take their word for it and decide he's unattractive too." The same person, the same clothes, the same night, and two completely different perceptions formed.

There's a false stigma associated with topless dancers. And that is that a lot of topless dancers are prostitutes. This is just not true. Don't get me wrong. There are topless dancers that sell their bodies. But, the numbers are few, especially in the upscale clubs.

The dancers already make good money and feel that selling their body is beneath them. Plus, it would be too risky. There are undercover vice cops that go to topless clubs to solicit prostitutes. I can't control what you do, but don't pay for sex. It's not worth it and in this day and age of all the diseases it's too risky. Sure, you can wear a condom, but what if it breaks or worse, it comes off?

If a dancer is selling her body and sleeping with a lot of men, what does this say about her character and self-worth? Don't lower yourself by having anything to do with a dancer if you find out she's a prostitute.

Just like there are many shy men at nightclubs, there are just as many shy women. The shy woman is easy to spot. Shy women will tend to sit where they won't be noticed, like in the corner or in the back of the club, away from all the prowling males.

Some are even too shy to dance, so if you ask this woman to dance and she says no, it may just be because she's too shy to dance and not because she's rejecting you. In this case, try to strike up a conversation with her. If this fails, move on.

This woman will show her shyness in various ways. Below are just a few examples:

1. While talking to you, her eyes will glance off to side or down towards the floor. Shy women have difficulty in looking at a man in the eyes while talking to him.
2. She may be lacking in conversational skills. She may be rather quiet, speaking in a low voice and not have very much to say. In this case, you will just have to pick up the slack and do most of the talking yourself.
3. If she has a nice figure, she may try to conceal it by wearing clothes that don't compliment her body.
4. Upon meeting her, she will act very nervous. She may tap her fingers on the top of the table or she may tap her feet. She might even bite her nails.
5. While talking, she may stutter quite frequently.
6. When you pay her a compliment, she blushes or does not agree with your compliment.

In conclusion, don't pass up an opportunity to attract or meet a shy woman. Once you break the ice and get them warmed up, they can make your night worthwhile.

{1) You dry up after starting a conversation. You can't think of anything interesting to say. What you should do is prepare yourself and have ideas ready. Before you even approach a girl you should have a whole array of subjects and activities in your mind and ready. Much suitable material is included in later chapters.

(2) You can't get girls to consider you as a lover, even though you can start a conversation and have no difficulty keeping it going. This is a very common problem. It is usually the result of being too timid in your actions and conversation. A bolder attitude should be introduced into your general manner, as early in a relationship as you can manage it. This is discussed at length later.

In conjunction with discovering how people perceive you, the question arises: What should your image be?

1. Everything you do with respect to presenting an image should be done keeping in mind the eight elements of what women are looking for in men.
2. Pick out your strong points, your assets, your attributes, and accent them. Try to put your weaknesses in the background.
3. Make it an honest portrayal. We are not advising you to portray a phony image. People will read it as phony, and you'll get nowhere. What we are saying, is that you must present your best side, and do it in a way that appeals to what women are looking for in men.
4. Make sure your total image is consistent. In other words, there should be consistency between what people see when they look at you and the things you say and do. If your behavior is in conflict with your image, it can be a "turn-off" to women - and everyone for that matter. Remember, what might work great for one guy may have a detrimental effect with women if you try it. An example of this would be if you are perceived by people to be sophisticated, then you will be attracting women who are attracted to sophistication. So if your opening remarks to a woman you just met are a series of rude, off-color jokes, chances are you will be turning her off. On the other hand, if your image is one of a "good-time Charlie," she will think those very same jokes are funny.
5. Evaluate the feedback you get from women. Be conscious of what things you do that give you positive response from women, and what things give you negative response. Let this feedback be your guide in determining how to present yourself.

This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women." This is a must book to have for all men.

Don't assume all topless dancers are wild and crazy singles. A lot of topless dancers are married and some have children to support.
It's very important to ask a dancer if she's married when you first meet her. Why? STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED TOPLESS DANCERS! This is a dead end street and I strongly recommend that you have nothing to do with married dancers. You're certainly not going to get anywhere with her. Don't even pursue a married dancer. It could be hazardous to your health. Her husband could come looking for you if she complains about you always trying to hit on her at the club.
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Also, he may pick her up in the parking lot after she gets off. What if he sees you trying to hit on her in the parking lot? Scenes like this could get ugly and it's just not worth it! Concentrate all your efforts on single dancers. It’s a lot safer.

Here is some advice on how to pick up women nightclubs:
She is usually dressed in expensive clothes and perhaps wears a lot of gold and diamonds. She may be a bit on the snobbish side because she thinks she's better than everyone else. If you are on the same level as this woman and well-to-do yourself, you will probably score with this woman. However, if you are not well-dressed, dignified, and have a low income, you probably won't even get to first base with this woman. It's really sad that some women just can't accept you as you are.
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There's a way around this if you want to do some acting and lying. You can look rich and act rich even though you are not rich. People are judged first by their appearance. All you have got to do is wear the latest expensive-looking fashions for men and be well groomed. Also, you will probably have to do some lying about your wealth. If you think you can play this role to mingle with rich women, give it a try. Some men will try anything, including lying, to attract a woman.