If you deliver your opening line to the girl knowing you have plenty to say afterwards (until you introduce yourself) you will be much more confident in both your initial approach and your opening line.

Now don't get the wrong idea here. We do not mean you have to ramble on at length before you introduce yourself. It should be a very short speech, at most 10-20 seconds. Sometimes it will not be necessary at all; it all depends on the girl's reaction. In many cases she will respond immediately to your opening line, in a friendly, warm way. You should then introduce yourself immediately. We are concerned more with the occasion where the girl is a little hesitant. You should only continue with the "filler" until she seems to be accepting the idea of meeting you.

If your “filler" attempt makes you sound like you are struggling with the situation, it doesn't matter. If you are squirming somewhat, trying to justify your actions in trying to pick up the girl, this is fine. You are talking - that is the main thing -and she is listening. You are really not trying to convince her. She probably agrees with you anyway. When she shows signs of accepting your attempt to meet her, you should then proceed to introduce yourself. Your looking a little worried after your opening line is actually very good for your case. It makes you look more real, more believable. The girl tends to think, "This nice guy is worried about my being offended when he is trying to meet me. Yes! I do agree with him. He should be able to talk to me if he wants to." It tends to put her on your side, with the conventions of society the villain. She should then give you some encouragement, and you can introduce yourself. Unless she is unavailable, and she should tell you that quickly enough.

Really! Talk, talk, talk. Keep talking. That's what it's all about. So have your ammunition ready.

It is a very good strategy to build up a number of female friends. These are women with whom, for one reason or another, you are not interested in a relationship that goes beyond friends. These are girls that feel comfortable and safe around you, and vice versa. Most all women enjoy having male friends, and so they will value you. The reason that this situation is such an asset to you is that:

1. The main reason. You will be seen with women which is good for your image.
2. One of the best ways to meet women is through women - especially women that like and appreciate you.

3. Sometimes there may be parties or social events that you would not want to attend stag. A female friend would come in handy for these situations.
4. Being around women who are friends will make you more at ease and confident around other women. Your actions and words around women will become natural.
5. There is always the possibility that one of these friendships may blossom.

SIN #1 - Criticizing her in public. This is a big no, no. Nobody likes to be criticized in front of others. So, if there are others around, refrain from telling her she's dead wrong about things or pointing out a terrible mistake that she has made.

This will make a bad impression on her, especially if you don't even hardly know her. Nobody likes to be embarrassed in front of their friends, other topless dancers, etc.

SIN # 2 - Making sarcastic remarks and making fun of her. Don't make the mistake of making any sarcastic remarks toward her. Most people don't appreciate sarcasm. Just be optimistic and upbeat towards her no matter what's going on. You'll be a lot better off. And whatever you do, don't make fun of her. If you make fun of her, if you belittle and ridicule her, or if you make a fool out of her, especially in front of others, you'll have her as an enemy for the rest of your life. She will never forget this incident or forgive you. People don't like their ego deflated and their pride hurt. Do the opposite and give her lots of praise.

This is an overlooked great place to meet sexy women. Using some special techniques, you can be successful in meeting women here. Here are the techniques:

1. If you see a woman across the way you'd like to meet, just simply use the waiter or waitress as a messenger. Now, instruct him to bring this woman a drink and a note saying, "Hi! My name is Don from across the way in the blue shirt and curly hair and I'm irresistibly attracted to you and I'd love to meet you. Will you come over and join me?"

2. If you see a woman you'd like to meet at a counter or table with an empty chair, just make it a point to sit next to her. Then you ask her, "Excuse me, I've never eaten here before and I was wondering if you could recommend something good to eat?" This breaks the ice and then you follow up with your conversational skills.

3. As a variation to technique number one, ask your waiter or waitress to ask the man if she'd mind if the man in the blue shirt and curly hair across the way joined her.

A few good filler lines that give you at least a weak additional excuse for stopping the girl are:

"Well, I just like to meet new people."

"You know, this is a good opportunity to meet new people," (beach, sporting event, or any occasion).

"I just like to talk to interesting people." (Then tell her why she interests you.)

All this may sound unimportant. You may think that you can easily think of something to say. Well, if you are quick-witted enough, you may be able to. But otherwise it is best to have your ammunition ready. If you are inexperienced in trying to pick up a girl there is a lot of pressure on you. It often happens that when you try to think of something to say your mind comes up with a blank.

We believe that this "filler" talk is more important than the opening line, particularly for a novice. It is easy to learn a good opening line, and just stop a girl and say it. But men who have tried pick-ups unsuccessfully always say that the big problem comes after the opening line, when the situation becomes awkward and it just didn't seem appropriate yet to introduce themselves. What you are grasping for at that point of the operation is common experience with the girl. After all, if you already knew the girl you would have no problem finding something to say. You would have plenty of common experience to talk about. But you don't. She is a complete stranger. So one of the best subjects of conversation is the common experience you are having at that moment –your attempt to meet her. Some philosophical discussion of that subject fits into the situation very well (at that instant, anyway.

Being seen with women is probably the single most important thing you can do to help your image. Women are very willing to take another woman's word for it. In other words, if you are with a girl you must have something going for you.

When you are seen with a woman, it says all this without you uttering a single word:

1. You must have things going for you.
2. You must know how to treat a woman.
3. You are going to be hard to get. After all, there is more than one girl vying for your time.
4. You are something she can't have. People are afraid of commitments so who better to fall in love with than someone she can't have?
5. You appeal to her powers of seduction. Women love the chase while men are more interested in the trophy. If a woman sees two men at a party - one with a date and one stag, she will be most attracted to the one with a date. He is the one that stimulates her powers of seduction, and her competitive nature to prove her superiority over other women.

SIN #1 - Bragging about yourself and your accomplishments. There's no faster way of driving topless dancers away from you than by constantly talking about yourself and your own great accomplishments.

Forget about yourself. The whole art of conversation with a dancer is to become interested in her rather than trying to get her interested in you. Remember that most people are interested in themselves morning, noon, and night. Never forget this fact. After all, why should a dancer be interested in you unless you are interested in her first. Just put your ego aside and concentrate solely on her and her interests.

SIN #2 - Talking too vulgar and crudely. In the beginning, when you meet a dancer and you start talking sexual and making vulgar remarks, you are going to turn her off and you will get nowhere with her.

Don't tell her things like, "You sure have a great set of tits." or "show me your pussy." This is showing her lack of respect and she won't appreciate it. They want to be treated like a lady and not some whore.

Another mistake is propositioning her for sex in a crude manner with statements like, "Let's go f--k," or "I sure would like to f--k you."

Treat her like a lady and don't act like a horny dog with uncontrollable hormones. You'll make a lot better impression on her by keeping cool and calm and non-sexual and non-threatening.

You will stand out favorably from the other guys she's used to being around that act like animals.