If you feel you are in command of the situation right from the start you can simply make your opening line, "Hi! What's your name?" This would be typical if you had some eye contact and positive response from the girl prior to your approach.

Another situation can involve a girl who just won't give you her name, although she will continue to talk to you. She may be teasing you, or she may be reluctant to introduce herself. In either case you should keep talking to her, but keep returning to the subject of her name and coaxing her to tell you.

Of course a lot can depend on the circumstances. Sometimes the situation is such that it is quite appropriate for a full introduction right away. Such would be the case if it were apparent that you and the girl were going to be engaged together in some activity, like a game of tennis, a ski run, a dance, or sharing a table (dining or drinking); or if the girl was particularly friendly.

It is good to know the girl's name as soon as possible, since calling her by name in conversation is a very important step in establishing friendship.

Sometimes, if you find yourself placed in a casual situation with a girl where you can start talking naturally (without any pressure) you may want to talk a while before an introduction. Such a situation would be if you both were in a waiting situation, such as a bus stop, waiting room, etc. The introduction can then be done casually. "By the way, my name is etc. etc."

Many men live in a dream world waiting for the perfect, beautiful "Perfect 10" to come along. These men have a hard time finding anyone, short of Bo Derek, attractive. Are we saying that shooting for "10's" is foolish? No! We are saying men forget the eight elements of what women find attractive. Remember, women find men attractive who are found attractive by other women.

When a woman sees that a man has a date or is "going" with a woman, she sees that man has something going for him. He must know how to treat a woman, he must be sexy, he must be interesting, and finally, he must be hard to get because he is already taken, and I'll have to use my powers of seduction on him, which makes me feel sensual.

When women see a man with no date or girlfriend, she sees a man who must not know how to treat a woman. He must not be sexy. He must not be interesting, and he is probably desperate. Even if you don't have your girlfriend with you, women can sense a man who has experience with women. They can especially sense a man who is desperate. Being involved with women is probably the single most important thing that you can do to make yourself attractive to other women. Your image is improved without you saying a word.

Be Sensitive To Her Responses

If she gives you a brief response, she may not wish to discuss the topic for a particular reason. Be sensitive to unenthusiastic responses, and be ready to change to a new topic quickly when you feel you have touched on a high-sensitivity or low-interest area for her.

Avoiding Sensitive Topics

What do you do if she brings up a subject that you feel is inappropriate? These are subjects that are in poor taste or which may make you feel uncomfortable - a racial slur, for example. You can show that you don't share this opinion, but without making a fuss about it. You might simply say, "I don't really agree with that," or "I'm sure we can find more pleasant things to talk about." Now, since you made the suggestion to change the subject, it's up to you to do just that. Pick up the conversational ball quickly and open a new topic of discussion by making a comment or asking an open-ended question based on free information that heard earlier.

You should bring some very important equipment that you'll use in meeting girls. These are as follows:

1. ICE CHEST - This is your most important item. Fill it with beer , wine, mixed drinks in a can, and soft drinks. You'll use this to offer a girl a drink when you've approached a girl.
2. BLANKET - Bring a blanket big enough for you and a girl to lay on. Make sure it's clean and attractive and not old and smelly.
3. FRISBEE, VOLLEYBALL, BEACHBALL, FOOTBALL - With these you can approach a girl and ask, "Want to play?"
4. RADIO - This comes in handy. What to do is lay near a girl or group of girls and turn on your radio. Then you ask, "What station would you like to hear?" This opens the door for further conversation.

5. BODY SURFING BOARD - Buy two of them. They are cheap and made of styrofoam. Approach a girl and ask her if she'd like to do some body surfing.
6. SURFBOARD - If you do surf this can be an advantage. Some girls are very attracted to surfers. Most girls don't know how to surf and have never even been on a surfboard. If you do surf, all you have to do is approach a girl and ask her, "Would you like to learn how to surf?" If you don't know how to surf yourself you can always fake it. It will be a lot of fun trying anyway.
7. SUN TAN OIL - Here's one that will always work. Approach a girl and ask her, "Would you rub some sun tan oil on my back?" You'll never get turned down and it really feels good having a girl rubbing your back.

In fact, with some men, persistence and not taking "no" for an answer is their main pick-up tactic. When they approach a girl, unless she tells them she is married or attached, they will just not give up. They will follow her. They will keep asking her to stop and speak to them, or join them for a drink. They might say, "Now look, you might as well agree to talk to me. I'll keep bothering you until you do. I want to meet you and I won't give up until I do." When this approach is done in a pleasant manner it is quite effective. You must decide if you want to be that aggressive.

There is a psychological point in this. By refusing to accept her refusal, the man is engaging in a power contest. He is demonstrating strength of character, which women usually find attractive in a man. Having been impressed in this manner, she often will change her mind and decide that she would like to meet him, after all.

MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE

Now you are aware of the value of being perceptive enough to know if a woman is interested in you. This is a good time to mention that it is your job to give women an opportunity to make their interest known to you. As we said before, no matter where you are - at work, school, play, always be ready to make yourself available. This is more of an art than a science. You have to use imagination to be able to adapt to each situation. It is important that you appear to be genuinely friendly and not just another hustler.

The most basic approach, of course, is a warm smile and a friendly "Hi." If she is interested or intrigued in you, her response will show it. In the next chapter, we will give many examples of meeting women in creative ways.

Be Sensitive To Her Responses

If she gives you a brief response, she may not wish to discuss the topic for a particular reason. Be sensitive to unenthusiastic responses, and be ready to change to a new topic quickly when you feel you have touched on a high-sensitivity or low-interest area for her.

Avoiding Sensitive Topics

What do you do if she brings up a subject that you feel is inappropriate? These are subjects that are in poor taste or which may make you feel uncomfortable - a racial slur, for example. You can show that you don't share this opinion, but without making a fuss about it. You might simply say, "I don't really agree with that," or "I'm sure we can find more pleasant things to talk about." Now, since you made the suggestion to change the subject, it's up to you to do just that. Pick up the conversational ball quickly and open a new topic of discussion by making a comment or asking an open-ended question based on free information that heard earlier.