EXAMPLE #2 - Alan was attracted to a girl that worked at a store that the often went to. From her name tag, he knew her name was Elise. At first he would just maintain eye contact and smile at her as she worked the cash register and made change for his purchases. Her manner was very positive, and he was sure that she was interested in him, but he avoided any long conversations. He was always friendly and positive towards her, but the lack of conversation or "come on" kept her guessing.

One day, knowing that the store closed in an hour, he walked up to the counter and said, "Listen, some friends are coming over for dinner at my house. Would you like to join us?"

I don't even know your name!" was the reply.

"My name is Alan. Will you join us?"

She was shocked that she hesitated, but only for an instant. He gave her directions to his house, and then went home to call some friends to see if they wanted to come to dinner, so that his story would have credibility to Elise. The dinner went well. They got to know each other, and began dating.

Alan did many things right: 1) He kept her guessing about whether he was ever going to ask her out. 2) He asked her to come to a casual get-together on the spur of the moment. If she declined, it wouldn't have been as embarrassing as if he asked her out on a real date. 3) The dinner was a very casual affair giving both of them an ideal opportunity to meet and talk with no pressure. 4) He was able to portray himself as a fun-loving, spontaneous person who enjoys having people over for an evening of friendly talk and good food.

Give Her Your Own Information

It isn't enough to give her plenty of opportunities to talk by constantly asking questions. It can become draining to be asked question after question without learning anything about her and it can begin to feel like an interview. When you ask questions, include some information about yourself. Rather than asking, "Where were you brought up?" You might say, "I was born in Nevada but I lived in California from the time I was a year old until I went to college. Did you grow up on the West coast?"

This ensures that you will both get something out of the conversation, while you show your interest and make the person who is being asked questions more comfortable.

Make it a point to pick out a strip joint and go there regularly at the same time and the same day of the week. You will usually see the same topless dancers. You'll become a familiar face and become friends with all the dancers. There's a lot of competition sometimes among the dancers for the boyfriends of the other dancers. They will actually try to steal each others boyfriends away from each other. Wouldn't you like to have a bunch of pretty exotic dancers fighting over you? Talk about heaven!

A word about spending money. Don't throw it around trying to impress the women, especially if you can't afford it. They are use to this and it doesn't impress them that much. When they keep pressuring you for drinks and you want to stop buying them drinks, just explain to her that you know the ropes of his business and you'd rather spend your money on her away from the club. She will understand.

In conclusion, don't sit around and drool and stare at these women anymore. Make an effort to meet and attract these women. Don't beat around the bush with them. Just come right out and tell her that you want to see her when she's off work.

Don't Wait For Signs

This brings us to what I believe is the most important point in this book: IF YOU FIND A GIRL ATTRACTIVE, APPROACH HER AND TRY TO MEET HER. DO NOT BE INFLUENCED BY ANY ENCOURAGEMENT, OR LACK OF ENCOURAGEMENT, FROM HER BEFORE YOU APPROACH HER.

A great fallacy, shared by many men, is that the best pick-up method is to catch a girl's eye, smile and maybe say, "Hi." “Then, if she responds, to follow up and meet her. This does work, of course, and any time a girl gives you a "come on" whether you made any friendly gesture or not, you should follow through, if you find her attractive. But the big mistake is to assume that because she didn't return your smile, she will not be interested in you. As we have already explained, many girls (if not most) do not believe in smiling back at strangers. This is particularly true with very attractive girls. In the past they have probably been bothered a lot by all kinds of guys annoying them. So they adopt an unfriendly, aloof attitude in public which acts like a "hands-off' sign to keep off unwelcome attention. Nevertheless, they may still be available, and receptive, to a nice, friendly approach by an interesting man. So, to follow up only with girls who smile back is really quite foolish.

90% of the battle of meeting women is a matter of putting yourself in the right position. This may sound too obvious to mention, but you will never meet a woman unless you put yourself in the right place to do so. There are many men out there who simply do not put out the time and effort to put themselves where they will find women. And when their social life never gets off the ground, they have only themselves to blame.

In the last chapter, we discussed "where to find women." And so if you've done your homework and you have put yourself in the right places, you now come to the next step - meeting women. How do you meet women? Any way possible.

The most common generality that women make about men is: "Men are all the same- either they are handing you a line to get laid or they want to get married." The quickest way to get a girl's attention is to make sure you don't appear to be doing wither of these. To be different from all the other men, don't ask a girl out the first time you meet her. Be friendly, interested in her and then walk away without a "come-on." She will be unsure of your intentions - which are just what you want. These are the basic principles for success when meeting women.

1. Be distinctive and different.
2. Don't be coming - on to her.

The methods of meeting a girl range from walking up and saying, "Hi, I wanted to meet you," to long drawn out elaborate ploys. With experience you will learn to read situations to be able to tell what would be the best method for that girl, that time, and that place. We have some examples of meeting women that we and friends of ours have used. They are all creative and spontaneous:

Be sure your timing is good. Imagine you are being given an explanation of how to slow cook a roast. "Then you slow-cook the roast in a crock pot." If you don't know what a crock pot is, now is the time to ask. If you wait until the recipe is completed before asking, "What is a crock pot?" you come across as an uncaring listener.

Asking a question at the appropriate time shows you are listening to her and understand what is being said. In contrast, if you are told all about her trip to Hawaii and at the end of the story ask, "So where did you stay when you first got there?" you will come across as an insincere listener, someone who is asking out of politeness and not paying attention. Remember, if you listen carefully and concentrate on what she is saying, you will be able to ask the right questions at the right time.

I sincerely hope you're not one of those men who go to strip joints just to watch the exotic dancers. Most men do and they don't know what they are missing out on. These women can be picked up and are generally easy to meet. A lot of guys don't even try to pick them up and it's a shame because these girls need lovin just like any other girl.

How do you approach these women? Well, normally they will be approaching you, possibly to hustle you for drinks or a table dance. Don't hold this against them and think they're just trying to take you for a ride. They're just trying to make a living and they get a commission on these drinks.

You might as well face the facts that you just might have to buy them a drink or table dance to talk to them. These can be house rules.

Buy them a drink or two, it won't kill you. Just be nice to them and treat them with respect and you can get somewhere with them.