Probably the biggest mistake that men make in understanding women is underestimating just how important sex is to women. It is easy to see, however, how men would fail to recognize sex as being a major motivation to women. It has always been socially acceptable for men to desire sex, and even to be open to others about their desires. A woman who lusted for sex as considered a whore or slut. Women were even afraid to admit to themselves that they had desires because of feelings of guilt that society heaped upon them.

Thus, the female sexual desire is not something that has been talked about openly, and for this reason men have been lulled into thinking that since it is not talked about much, it must not be a very strong motive in women.

The fact of the matter is that female sexual desire does exist. And, it exists in women every bit as strongly as it exists in men. We will go so far as to say that the real, unspoken motive behind the women's movement was sexual freedom. Not freedom to have sex necessarily, but that it is okay for women to admit that they enjoy it, and want it, and have it with more than one man if they want. The women's movement was saying, "Hey, we enjoy sex just as much as men do, and that shouldn't be a sin. We are tired of the double standard."

And that is what has happened. Women now realize that it's okay to enjoy sex and they are out looking for it. Sex is something that women can enjoy too - not just a dutiful obligation to a male dominated society.

Bad Vocabulary Habits That Can Cost You Dates With Single Women

I would like to focus this week on some vocabulary habits that can turn single women off and hurt your chances for getting women attracted to you for love and romance.
Some women will judge you by how you talk to them and what you say. Unfortunately some men have a very small vocabulary and use certain words over and over again between sentences that can become very annoying to women.
What are these words that men mistakenly repeat over and over that are a source of annoyment and can actually make you appear to be stupid because you lack a vocabulary? Here are the main ones and you must try to eliminate them from you vocabulary when speaking to single women:

• "'you know"
• "you know what I mean?"
• "you know what I'm saying?"
• "do you understand what I'm saying?"
• using the word "like" to begin a sentence
• "I know that"
• "I already knew that"
• "umm"
• "yep"
• "nope"
• "and dah"

These phrases are ok to use every once in awhile. What I'm talking about is repeating these phases in almost every other sentence. I'm sure you know people that have these annoying conversation habits.

 

Maybe this is even you?

Also, I might add that you should never use cuss words in your conversation when you first get to know a woman. If she's offended by foul language, this can turn her off to the point that she will have no interest in dating you.
Please don't mumble your words either. Speak clearly and don't talk with your hand over your mouth. And of course, if you're out on a lunch or dinner date, don't talk with your mouth full.
P.S. - In all fairness, if the girl you're with makes these same vocabulary blunders you do, then you will share something in common and your blunders are not likely to turn her off.

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The  Odds Are  Slim of  a  Woman  Being Interested and Attracted to Me

This  is the man that  has fixed opinions about himself and makes up excuses  such as, "I'm  not very lucky  with women"  or "I  just don't  stand a chance of meeting a woman" or "There aren't any  good places where I  can  meet  a  good  woman." These are just defensive statements to  avoid placing the blame where it really belongs and that's on yourself. You just haven't tried hard  enough  to  meet  a  woman.  That's where the real problem lies.

              

Make it  a point  to block  these beliefs  completely out of your  mind because  they will  hinder you from seeking out women using your own initiative.

This is a topless dancer with a lot of experience and has been dancing for ten or more years.  She's more mature mentally, physically, and emotionally.  She knows all the ropes and is a seasoned veteran.  She's an expert at manipulating men for drinks and table dances and she's rather aggressive.  She can be every seductive and make you want to reach for your wallet.

           

Your best strategy for trying to score with veteran dancers is establishing a friendship first.  She's heard all the pick-up lines, men offering her gifts, trips, etc.  Hitting on her right out of the gate probably won't work well with this type of woman.  Gain her trust and friendship first and take it from there.  A word of advice - I'm not saying don't pursue veteran dancers, but you'll have a lot better luck with the young and inexperienced dancers.  There's one advantage to the veteran dancer and that is she is likely to give you a very seductive and sexually stimulating table dance.

P.S.  Remember to always ask a dancer when you first meet her, "How long have you been dancing?"

TIP #1 - If a girl ever blocks advancing the relationship by saying "No, let's just be friends," say, "No, I have lots of friends. See you later." By continuing this type of relationship, you portray yourself as someone who has nothing better to do than hang around with a girl who is not that interested in you. The relationship will never get to where you want to go - to bed. And even if by some miracle the relationship did advance to the bedroom, she would be doling out sex - dictating the where, when and how much. If she wants to cut you off at any time, she can and you have to accept it because that is the implied agreement from the start. She is in complete control; hence, she will never be satisfied with you.

If, on the other hand, you walk away from this relationship, you have established that you are the type used to leading a relationship, you have plenty of other girls willing to take you on your terms, and she is losing out. We have even seen cases where a man will completely turn around the relationship as soon as a girl sees that he is willing to "walk" rather than accept something that is not on his terms.

TIP #2 - When do you give up on a girl? When do you decide that a relationship is not advancing? When you are the only one making an effort to keep it advancing. If she is not putting energy in to you, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. Don't stay where you're not appreciated. If this situation does occur, try to figure out shy. How did she perceive you? What turned her off? Learn from your mistakes.

Reading A Single Woman's Sexy Signals  It takes two to tango. If you're a shy guy, learn how to read a single woman's seductive signals before you ask her to dance. Remember, shy can be very sexy!  Here are the top ten flirting gestures, body language, and actions that let you know a single woman is interested in you:  1) Eyebrow flash: She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, followed by a rapid lowering to the normal position. The flash is often combined with a smile and some eye contact. 2) Lip lick: Very common. Some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area. 3) Short darting glances: Usually occurs in sets, with an average of three glances each.

 4) Hair flip: She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion. 5) Coy smile: She gives you a sort of half-smile, showing little if any tooth, combined with a downward gaze or very brief eye contact. 6) Whisper: She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school. 7) Primping: She pats or smoothes her clothing, even if it doesn't need any adjusting. 8) Skirt hike: The hem goes up to expose a little more leg. 9) Object caress: Fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other things on the table. Very sensual. 10) Solitary dance: While seated, she moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you. This article was contributed by Deb Levine, author of, "The Joy of Cybersex."

Misconceived Beliefs of Shy Men

If  I Ask a Woman to Dance and  She Turns Me Down or If I Talk  to a Woman and She Ignores Me, It's Because I'm Not Worthwhile or Good Enough For Her.

This irrational  belief causes shy men to fear approaching a woman  and produces  low self-esteem when they are  rejected. This  fear of  being rejected  and turned  down  prevents  shy men from making contact with women.

If  you're turned  down for  a dance,  it doesn't mean that you're not worthwhile or not good enough for her. She just  may not feel like dancing at the moment. She may just be tired. She may not even dance. There can be a number  of reasons. So don't take it personally.  However, what to do in  a  case like this is to ask her, "Would you like to dance later?" If she says yes,  just ask her again  later. Even better, just ask her, "Well, can I join you for some conversation?" In the mean time just ask other women to  dance.  Also,  I might  add, a lot of guys get turned down  to  dance,  so  don't  feel that you're the only man  in the world that happens  to. It happens to all men, even real good-looking men.

If  you  approach  a  woman  and  try to start up a con- sation and  she  ignores  you,  don't  take that personally either. She  just may not feel  like talking or  being  bothered.  Perhaps  she's  tied down  to  a boyfriend  or even married. Also,  you just might not be using the  proper social skills.  So if she  ignores you, move  on to the next woman  and you'll find someone who will respond to your advances.